I'm 5"3 female and I weigh 120lbs but I want to be 110lbs and idk how to do it in a healthy way

You need to work on self-love with a professional who has experience in these areas. Being 110lbs isn't worth it when you are having all these negative side effects. I know how it feels and I also know that once people like us reach our goal we are still not satisfied and become more unhealthy. I wish you nothing but kindness and I genuinely hope you can find the support and help you deserve 💜

The immediate "weight gain" when you start eating a reasonable amount more is not fat gain, it's extra digestive contents and a little extra water retention from the process of metabolizing more food than you'd previously eaten. If you truly need to lose more weight - which honestly I question - eat a tiny bit below your maintenance calories. That extra water/waste retention will balance out (few days to a small number of weeks), then you'd start seeing gradual weight loss again (with the usual daily ups and downs of a pound or two, but an overall downward trend from one month to the next, as is normal with the slow loss that's a healthful choice when close to a good goal weight).

At 5'3", it's very possible that 110 is too low a weight for your best health anyway. 120 is a reasonably low weight for average-height women, maybe even an unreasonably low weight for some of them, and almost certainly too low if taller than average. For 5'3", 110 is at the low end of the normal range, possibly too low unless very delicately built, and not at all muscular.

The path to most attractive appearance is always through adequate calories, good energy level, good nutrition, and a sensible, manageable exercise program (both strength and cardio). You know this. You can get there.

You mention stomach fat. Frankly, it's not unusual for women (NB I am one) to have an unrealistic view of normal abdominal shape, mostly based on fakery from fitness influencers and the like. It's normal for a woman to have a slight swell in the abdominal area, because we have uteruses, and they take up space and have a shape. You might want to read this thread for more on that:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10689837/does-this-uterus-make-my-stomach-look-fat/p1

I think it's fortunate that you're realizing your current course is not healthy and not sustainable. I agree with @carolinepowell885 up there, that the best idea would be for you to consult a professional who has experience helping people with disordered eating. Your long term health will benefit.

You can find your way through this - your realization that a different course is necessary is sign of that. I'm cheering for you to succeed!

Losing 60 pounds is a great accomplishment and I would bet that everyone who sees you thinks you look amazing! But I understand all too well how you feel about yourself as this was me 20 years ago. I had lost 150 pounds, looked great, and was in great shape but still thought of myself as fat so I kept restricting food and upping the exercise. Always cold, menstrual cycle stops, you see darkness in front of your eyes when you stand up, all of that I remember. I fell down the stairs at my gym, which I blamed on my sandals rather than being dizzy.

I no longer had a social life because I always had to go work out. I would meticulously count how many baby carrots I ate. If I thought it was too many I'd add more exercise. Eventually your body can't do that anymore and your performance suffers. And for me, that's when the purging started. If I couldn't exercise the calories away, I'd get rid of them another way. It was horrible.

Every day we're presented with prettied up images of what the ideal person should look like and we read what our ideal weight should be. My body dysmorphia lead to me suffering from eating disorders for over ten years. I finally stopped purging because it physically hurt too much to do it anymore. I had electrolyte issues and was severely anemic by the time I stopped. I have Barrett's esophagus now. When I look at photos of me back then, I can see that I wasn't fat at all. If anything, I was too thin. But I had loose skin I hated and the number on the scale wasn't the number I thought it should be and the number that BMI charts said I should be for my height.

I'm far from an expert on any of this; I would just hate to see anyone else have to experience what I did. Love yourself. Be kind to yourself and your body. It's going to be with you the rest of your life. And know that you're not alone. I wish you all the best.

Hi, when I was in my early twenties, I obsessed over "getting to" 115 pounds. I am 5'3" tall, and that was the "proper" weight for my height according to whatever height/weight table was in fashion in the early 80's. I have a small waist and muscles. I was a gymnast. Whenever my weight got to around 117, I lost my period. A healthy woman in her 20s has a menstrual cycle, so I knew this was a cause for alarm. Numbers on a scale are not the measure of whether a person looks good or is healthy. How do you feel? This is more important than how you look. Do you feel strong? If you are losing hair and your period, you are not getting enough nutrition to sustain a healthy body.

So first, is your goal reasonable and healthy? You have dropped from 180, that's amazing! It takes time for your body to adjust to your new self. Your skin, too, needs time to "shrink" back. Depending on how old you are, it might not go all the way. Again, you need to be healthy for this.

Second, I bet you look great, and can find clothes you look great in. Try maintaining 120 for a few weeks, then gradually lose a few pounds. Use MFP to help you here.

And lastly, it couldn't hurt to work with professionals who specialize in this area. A doctor and therapist team that work with weight loss and self image would be helpful.

Best of luck. I've been on this merry-go-round for 45 years now. It's getting better, and thankfully I'm not as obsessed as I once was.

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Go on YouTube and search for Dr. Ken Berry and start researching about the carnivore diet. It's not only about weightloss.. but it's also a lifestyle that heals.

She's not eating enough. She doesn't need a super restrictive diet.