avoiding self-sabatoge on break-up night

Oh hun I'm so sorry, I know how you feel though I got heart broken just yesterday myself...

Maybe watch a good movie, talk a walk or go to sleep? Me, I just feel like sleeping for 10 years but still I somehow managed to pull myself to the gym last night and actually did the best workout i have ever done. Anger does great things to your workout routines LOL

I've had a horrible day as well. I cured it with tons of crying!!! Don't give in to the alcohol or food binges, because believe me, that is EXACTLY what I wanted to do tonight! Drink some water, cry, and go to bed. I hope you feel better!!

Hey girl, I know how it goes. I'm so sorry for your loss, but don't look at this as a time of self-sabotage, but as a time to make promises to YOURSELF, that you know you will keep and feel better about yourself and your self trust as well. Hang in there. This is the beginning of a new relationship with YOURSELF. I know I don't know you, but I'm always here to talk.

I broke up with a man I've spent the last 6 & a half years of my life with 3 weeks ago & I've been on here 5 weeks so I know just what you're going through!

I have to admit, I had one night where I sat down & ate, feeling sorry for myself. I'm ok now, I'm putting everything into my weight loss & it's actually helping me get through it.

Break ups are never easy & I wish I had some amazing advice for you but it will get easier with time & he'll be a faint memory when you're at the beach in a little bikini feeling great that you've reached your goal weight hehe

Well, personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a couple of drinks, as long as it's in control. Don't sink to the bottom of the bottle, but a bit of treading water near the top will be fine, if it will help you feel calmer.

But that said, I agree with netchik. Anything I'd normally take to comfort eating or a bottle of red, I now take to the gym *first*. There's something about the movement of the elliptical, nice and punchy.... And when I was angry with relational messiness I used to take it to body combat - you can let your imagination go into overdrive there! It does help, and it does make you feel better. For me, exercise is a more functional way to *look after me*, rather than the old emotional self-nurturance stuff I used to do.

Above all, this is a tough time, so be gentle with yourself. Make yourself something good (which doesn't have to be calorific!) to eat. Take a nice long bath. Have a couple of friends round. Watch something that you couldn't have watched before on the telly without your former partner whinging about it.... Stretch out in the big ole bed and know that space is *yours, all yours* and that's a *good* thing.

oh man, this is never easy...dont give in to all the self-destructive things you really want to do!

give it time and stay busy. it gets better, the feeling dsnt last forever.

id say blast whatever music floats your boat and have a good cry or CLeAN!! idk why but i feel like those two things can be my saving grace when im feeling pooey

you might also want to give your girls a ring and have a night in or a night out dancing or something ( mini-workout ;] )

I hope this helps and you feel better!

I am not looking for pity party, just like-mindedness...

tonight had a 5 yrs of on/off again relationship dumped down the drain...

feeling very sad (as tears drench the keyboard) yet i know it is a good thing...

really wanting to jump into the vodka bottle on a saturday night and blow up my cals to make the heartache go away...

I am so sorry to hear about your heartache. You have been amazingly supportive to me...and I want to return the support. Please don't turn to the Vodka bottle...it will only dull your pain for the moment. Pain and tears are a natural response to loss. Feel them,but don't allow them to define you.... ( feeling very sad (as tears drench the keyboard) yet i know it is a good thing...).... It will get easier . Allow yourself that time...feel sad ...then pick yourself up and treat yourself to all the good things in life,because you deserve them. :flowerforyou: YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, AND HEALTHY. I will be here if you need to chat, or simply to nudge you in the right direction. P.S Remember the boot

So sorry. Sending you ((((hugs)))) to help you along the way. Release the tears and continue to take care of you.