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  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    I'm so sorry to hear that. I just don't understand some people. Just ignore them, you can get all the support you need here, and soon enough they can't say they haven't noticed!!
  • ltlane
    ltlane Posts: 120
    its horrible to hear things from people you are closest to. my bf told me he wouldnt notice my changes until i lost 50 pounds. so when i started i took pics and just took some today... it was great to show him and say told you so busta!! and no it doesnt take 50lbs to see a difference.
  • MelJolly
    MelJolly Posts: 49 Member
    Reaching that goal of being under 200 is a great, AMAZING goal, and I am sure there are hundreds of us here who have that same goal. So I applaud you!! I try to make sure I do not discuss my weight loss goals or journey with individuals who are not supporting me. I keep that topic mine so they don't have the opportunity to try to break me down. Come here, to MFP, and we will all applaud you louder and longer, so their comments fall on deaf ears.
  • Zeromilediet
    Zeromilediet Posts: 787 Member
    You know what they say about not being able to choose your family like you can your friends :-) I read one time you should treat your friends like family and family like friends ... however, some family relations are toxic, and sometimes so are friends--hear that all the time on this forum.

    Lots of friends here who will provide the support your family *should* provide ... your MFP family.
  • 500daysofshelby
    500daysofshelby Posts: 41
    You're making awesome progress! Everyone on this website has at least one "hater" who tries to get them down about turning their lives around and making good choices. They're just jealous because they aren't able to turn their lives around for the better. Try and not let them get you down, because in the end you are going to be a stronger and healthier you. And don't worry about it, you have everyone on MFP here to support you and cheer you on the whole way (:

    Stay strong and keep up the good work!
  • Tracyrocksss
    Tracyrocksss Posts: 45
    I am So sorry you had to hear that. ALWAYS remember that just because ANYONE says something ( especially something so negative) even if it is a family member, that does NOT mean that it is TRUE, friend.....YOu KEEP right on doing what you are doing.... They sound like they don't have anything to give, so turn to places you know you have support.....Like here...:) grinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
  • quigonnjae
    quigonnjae Posts: 399
    7 lbs is a great accomplishment .. you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. Keep up the good work !
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
    I'm sorry you dont' get the support you need from the people you need it from most. I am glad you have MFP too.

    We are here for you and will help you celebrate every pound.

    :flowerforyou:
  • Hoppymom
    Hoppymom Posts: 1,158 Member
    That is pretty horrible. When you get older you will realize someday that abuse is NEVER ok, even if it's from your mom & grandma.

    Perhaps just stop sharing numbers (until it's WAY below 200) and just show off clothes and challenge them to push up contests - stuff like that
    for Christmas, I'd get them Etiquette classes - but that's just me, and why I am WICKED cricket

    GOOD JOB - YOU are a winner - never forget that

    I agree, except for the etiquitte classes. It would just be as waste of money that you can use to buy awesome new clothes. The best revenge is living a long, happy life. You are worthy of praise and we are here to give it. Congratuations on reaching Onederland!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • jenny95662
    jenny95662 Posts: 997 Member
    i hate when family is not supportive it makes me mad to see other familes not supporting there kids. But you are doing a great job and you keep it up and let the haters hate they always will :) just keep at it and prove them all wrong good job so far!!!
  • LoveDaLibra
    LoveDaLibra Posts: 108
    F them!! I'm proud of you!! I can't wait to get outta the 200s add me so we can connect and yu can tell me some secrets!
  • tommysmum84
    tommysmum84 Posts: 4
    reading that made me really upset and angry for you. but you know what, your here and your doing great, the weight loss was a LOSS and in the right direction so what if others cant tell....you know you have! your doing this for you no one else. its easy to say ignore the negativity but its easier said than done. try using it for motivation when your working out that's what i do lol =) imagine there smug faces and it will really spur you on xxxx best of luck to you xxxx
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    Everyone has those people in their lives - the ones who thrive off of you being fat and weak. The minute you start trying to change yourself they feel threatened. Sometimes these people/this person is a coworker or a friend, and sometimes it's family. You need to be stronger than the weight of their words. Hang in there.
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