No compliment from spouse

Perhaps you both speak different love languages? My husband is the same way. He does not give verbal encouragement or edifying words often. We read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and discovered we had drastically different ways of expressing love. His is not through words, it's through actions such as picking up my favorite drink at the store for a surprise, or throwing a load of laundry in the machine for me. My language is "words". So while he was silently thinking, "I just bought her this drink and she didn't even get excited or notice!" I was thinking, "What's up with the stupid drink? When's he gonna say he loves me?!" HAHA! Our marriage almost crumbled as a result because we were both convinced the other didn't love us. That book was an AMAZING resource and has also proved helpful in every relationship--friends, family, children, etc. Consider if perhaps that's what's going on rather than a genuine lack of interest. My husband hasn't complimented my weight loss either, even though half my stomach is gone! I don't get offended though. I know he loves me because he helped vacuum the livingroom last night.

Perhaps you both speak different love languages? My husband is the same way. He does not give verbal encouragement or edifying words often. We read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and discovered we had drastically different ways of expressing love. His is not through words, it's through actions such as picking up my favorite drink at the store for a surprise, or throwing a load of laundry in the machine for me. My language is "words". So while he was silently thinking, "I just bought her this drink and she didn't even get excited or notice!" I was thinking, "What's up with the stupid drink? When's he gonna say he loves me?!" HAHA! Our marriage almost crumbled as a result because we were both convinced the other didn't love us. That book was an AMAZING resource and has also proved helpful in every relationship--friends, family, children, etc. Consider if perhaps that's what's going on rather than a genuine lack of interest. My husband hasn't complimented my weight loss either, even though half my stomach is gone! I don't get offended though. I know he loves me because he helped vacuum the livingroom last night.

This might be the case, so look for other ways she validates your fitness improvements. Case in point: my husband initially didn't say anything, but for my birthday he pretty much outfitted our downstairs gym with new fitness equipment. Also, he joined me in cleaning up our eating.

I found this website by googling “why my husband doesn’t complement my weight loss”… I went from a size 3x to a size 12, now I’m able to wear jeans. I’m 63 and started to wear a little makeup again. Zero complements from my husband. I hadn’t seen his side of the family since my weight loss and no one said anything. I do text my sister in law and shared my journey which took a year. She’s the only one that said anything. After thanksgiving (where no one said anything) I told her that she was the only one who noticed. She told me that everyone noticed. I was speechless. I always complement ppl who lost weight, it’s hard to do. The reason I lost weight is I was hospitalized for 6 days and had to wear a bile bag for 3 months cause of gallbladder issues. I cried and never wanted to go back to the hospital. I just started changing my choices on food…I’ve been maintaining but gained 7 back.. Maintaining your weight is hard too.

I understand why you feel confused and slighted. Truth is; you don't know for sure why she hasn't said anything. So, don't jump to a conclusion. My husband never says anything when i gain weight.. and he never says much when i lose it. He just sees the woman he loves. Trust me.. at times when i've worked so hard to lose it. .i think he purposely isn't encouraging me or complimenting me. Yet. over the. years . .I realize he doesn't notice one way or the other.
And an overall note. I find most people don't notice until all the weight is gone.. then they do.

This is an old thread and the OP has not been on MFP since Oct 2016. He won't be seeing the advice. However the thread is interesting. Carry on.

Well sometimes it depends on things like age. At 63, a lot of people tend to lose weight if they get SICK. Whether it be cancer, stomach issues, etc., many people won't comment out of respect to the person.
As for spouses, if you're losing weight and changing and they aren't, it could just be an insecurity thing for them.
You want a compliment, just ask someone you haven't seen in awhile "how do I look?" and they'll of course say "you look great! What are you doing?" This will break the stigma that there isn't anything wrong with you health wise and/or they'll feel comfortable talking to you about the weight change.

Lol, if you're Asian, we usually have no filter and will mention if you're too fat, or too skinny or look like you're gaining weight.

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I suppose your spouse never criticized you either. Perhaps it means he/she loves you unconditionally, no matter what, and she/he is in love with you no matter how you look or how old you will be. Perhaps that's a good thing?