LESS Alcohol ~ MAY 2024 ~ One Day at A Time
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SunnyDays930 wrote: »Thank you for the kind words about my dog. However I was ambushed at my door by my daughter and grandchildren and then my husband who "changed my mind...look how perky she is!" This was 20 minutes before her appointment.
They made me feel like the Grim Reaper. Apparently they prefer her to suffer. I took her to the vet and vented to her. She said, " she had a good day. She perked up when she saw your daughter. How are the rest of her days? Wouldn't your husband want her last day to be a good day instead of a bad day?" I had no answer for her as I agreed with her. Nevertheless, she gave her a pain shot and I took her home.
The next time I am not telling anyone, nor giving them the chance to say goodbye. I cannot tell you the roller coaster of emotion I went through yesterday. I felt completely thrown under the bus by my husband and daughter.
Thank you, Miss May for keeping this vital thread going. I plan on remaining totally AF as my liver enzymes were high last blood test and the Dr told me no more drinking. Not moderation; none.
My heart is aching for you - it's so incredibly difficult to make this decision and then to have family change must be agonizing. I think you have the right idea to just go it alone when you decide the next time is right.
I hope your enzymes start to drop with all the work you're putting into your AF lifestyle.4 -
@Womona Good luck to you husband for the interview, and have fun checking out the area.
@NonnieDoiron so happy to hear your MIL is in a better place, it sounds like your off to great start for this month!
May:
AF: 1
A: 0
Last month I wanted 50% AF - I almost made it with 16A and 14AF, so it was about 47%.
This month I'm shooting for 60% which means I need about 18-19 days AF out of the 31.
I was pretty successful with my extra challenge of no after-dinner snacking last month, so I think I'll try a new one this month. I really need to get back into a regular exercise routine, so I think my challenge for this month will be to do some type of exercise every day. Even if it's only 10-15 minutes of yoga or walking as opposed to a pre scheduled gym session, it's still movement, so I'm going to be kind to myself and count even those small bits.5 -
Back for May!
Goals for May
Mostly Dry (no more than 4 days (ie: 1 day per weekend)
Exceptions & Stats5/5 ~ Cinco De Mayo ~ My husband already has margarita's planned.
5/26 ~ Birthday party at a baseball game.
Month Stats
Current Streak - AF = 1
Longest Streak 2024 - AF = 16
A = 0
AF = 1
My goal is to cut back to get weight under control ultimately and where I want it to be. Then conquer maintenance but NOT resume to daily drinking.
I am wishing everyone great success on their personal goals in May!! You got this!
@Michieb125 ~ I hear you on the good wines. Where do you live. I use to live in CA between SF and SAC and often visited the wine country in Napa and Sonoma. Gosh, I might even be due back for a visit🙂
@Sunnydays930 ~ oh, was a dilemma. Wow, I'm really surprised at the vet's response. I wish you the best in this situation. It's hard enough without support.
@Womona ~ Good luck on your search!
@NonnieDoiron ~ Glad your MIL is doing well in the new facility. That has to be a relief for you both. Congrats on the new job!
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@SunnyDays930 I think I was like your family with my rottie that had to be put down. I just couldn’t do it. My husband had to do it. Then, he came home and cried like a baby. With our cocker/lab mix, we both went after she collapsed in the yard. That poor sweet thing was ready to go. She had already beaten cancer, but she was just really old. We both cried! I’ll keep praying for your strength and courage.
@globalhiker I agree with your reward philosophy. I need to find “the thing” for my reward that won’t make my husband lock up his wallet! 🤣🤣🤣5 -
1 - A
1 - LA3 -
AF = 2
A = 0
No wine in the house.
I made some egg muffins today that turned out amazing! I had 1, my son with autism had one and said it tasted like pizza, and hubby had 4 and said I could make more. 🤣🤣 The best part… only 154 calories per muffin!
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Here we go makeover May! Lots to look forward to. Took a walk with DIL last night and then again today with DH.
AF - 1
A - 1
LA - 05 -
How DARE you @NonnieDoiron give us such photos of those tempting muffins...without a recipie ?? Possibly spinach/Mozzarella/ sun dried tomato ??
Please please please ?? 👩🍳
Your MIL's transfer to a new facility must give you-her-the rest of her family such comfort. Please keep on being her advocate as she navigates her new reality.
And don't forget to advocate for YOURSELF as you try to go forward on your "Less Alcohol" journey.
"No wine in the house "...Great choice. I just got a shipment today of @ 30 bottles of wine. Should carry me through til well into the next year with my current record of abstinence for long periods, then a bottle a night for a few days .
🤦 Guess which habit I should ditch ??
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@SunnyDays930 ...when Middle Daughter's longtime Feline companion passed away, she actually took a stuffed replica along on a family cruise to Bermuda. She had for more than a year denied the inevitable and pursued fruitless remedies and cures that only extended the poor critter's suffering [in my unappreciated opinion ]. Since then she has befriended several of our 'hoods feral kitty population. When one of them had an incurable issue, she let her go with love. She finally understood that sometimes the natural order of things is not something people can control.
Your Vet was so very kind. Saying goodbye is so difficult. When your pup does pass away, sending you warm hugs.5 -
globalhiker wrote: »@SunnyDays930 sending you big hugs and strength! You also inspire me with the way you are remaining committed to self-care during this time. I had to put my very ill 15 y.o. lab mix down a few years ago and I handled it on behalf of the family. They thanked me for handling it but I carried a heavier share of the grief load or so it felt. I haven't gotten a new puppy yet, but maybe it's time and that is what I need to "move on".
Commiserating with all of you that had to make that decision. I had to put my 6 year old English Bulldog down almost 2 years ago now. I also handled all the details and suffered most of the grief, but it was well earned because I was her person. I swore I'd never have another dog because I didn't want to go through that again. Fast forward a couple of months and the house just felt so empty. On a wine whim one night I filled out an application to rescue an English Bulldog from the Florida rescue group. Long story short, a month later we rescued a 5 year old girl, Princess, who had been used for puppies and discarded when she was used up. She's my girl and I am her person and it was the best "wine" decision I ever made...lol.
We're going to dinner with friends tonight and instead of fooling myself into thinking I'm not going to drink, I'm planning to have a glass or two with a side of club soda to stretch it out.
Still have not had a drink at home since March 29. I almost caved last night for no reason other than my SO was going out and I used to just sit and drink a bottle of wine and binge my shows while he was gone. I still did that...just with sparkling water.
Happy Friday, everyone!
AF = 2
A = 07 -
forestdweller1 wrote: »How DARE you @NonnieDoiron give us such photos of those tempting muffins...without a recipie ?? Possibly spinach/Mozzarella/ sun dried tomato ??
Please please please ?? 👩🍳
Your MIL's transfer to a new facility must give you-her-the rest of her family such comfort. Please keep on being her advocate as she navigates her new reality.
And don't forget to advocate for YOURSELF as you try to go forward on your "Less Alcohol" journey.
"No wine in the house "...Great choice. I just got a shipment today of @ 30 bottles of wine. Should carry me through til well into the next year with my current record of abstinence for long periods, then a bottle a night for a few days .
🤦 Guess which habit I should ditch ??
We are definitely more happy with MIL’s care at the new facility, and she seems less stressed. So, we’ll keep checking in daily.
30 bottles in this house probably wouldn’t last 2 months, I’m sad to say. But, that’s really good if you can make it last. I can easily go buy wine from the store 2 miles away, but I’m trying to convince myself I’m too lazy. Lol
You’re close on the recipe and those are definitely great options to add/edit if you want.
Ingredients
8 eggs
½ tsp Salt
¼ tsp pepper
12 slices bacon, fried and chopped
½ onion, finely chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
4 oz baby Bella mushrooms, sliced
5 oz fresh baby spinach, rough chopped
1 roasted red pepper, chopped (I used half a jar or 1 pepper from a 12 oz jar of Mount Olive mild roasted red pepper)
8 oz crumbled feta cheese
8 Kalamata Olives, pitted and finely chopped
Directions
Fry bacon and chop (or chop then fry). Remove bacon from grease to paper towel-lined plate. (I poured out the grease from the pan, and used a tablespoon to sauté the onions and garlic and another for the mushrooms.)
Sauté onion and garlic, let cool.
Sauté mushrooms, let cool. (Sautéing separate from onions and garlic allows them to brown better.)
In large bowl; scramble eggs adding some water to make fluffy, approx ½ cup. (You can use milk or heavy cream if desired, but that adds calories.)
Mix in salt, pepper, onion, garlic, mushrooms, bacon, spinach, roasted red pepper, feta, and olives.
Pour evenly into silicone-lined (do not recommend paper liners) or use non-stick spray to grease muffin pan. Bake at 350° for 30-35 minutes.6 -
@chicbuc I can get behind your “wine” decision! Princess and you are very blessed to have each other.🥰2
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I figured it is a good idea to check in every day for accountability. My check ins will be a day behind.
May AF = 2
Total AF = 93
Friday weight check in: Start weight 147
Today's weight 145.2
Loss -1.8
Challenge: Logged food and between 1200-1500 calories = 25 -
Thank you @NonnieDoiron . Sounds like Sunday brunch [without the Mimosas].3
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Kicking off summer soon and my DH and I are working hard to spruce up the backyard. We have an annual family reunion here in August. But also excited for a few fun trips with family too - have plans for May, June and July getaways. This means planning ahead and realistically for food and wine.
May goals: more AF days than last month! A minimum of 18.
Overall goals: get good sleep and make time for getting outside. Also drop the 2 lb. gain that arrived and wants to hang around lol. Will focus on good nutrition (1200-1500 calories) and then maintenance through August.
May current:
AF - 1
A - 1
LA - 04 -
Happy May Everyone! I am going to try to post daily this month, not sure how that is going to go but we'll see. Not the greatest start to the month for me. I drank my less alcohol beer last night but had too many! Luckily, it is early in the month so plenty of time to turn things around.
It is a challenge for me to keep up with everyone's posts but I do relate to the loss of precious pets, and managing care for aging parents. Life is hard sometimes. It's great to have a welcoming place to express these feelings and get support. Kudos to all of those who are showing up for their loved ones, including the furry ones, and for themselves here.
1 AF
1 A
Goal for May: 18 AF
I think someone else said they are going on a cruise this month. I will be going to Alaska at the end of the month. To make the lowest cost drink package worthwhile, I would have to drink 6-7 beers daily. I don't think I could do that even if I wanted to! So, no drink package for me. I'm glad Iooked into it before purchasing.
Thanks to @MissMay for keeping this community up and running!
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AF = 3
A = 0
Still no wine. Visited MIL and though she was just back from dialysis and tired, she looked more rested than she was the last time I saw her.4 -
Hi, MFP LA pals. You guys are so inspirational!
Thank you, @MissMay, for the May thread.
@Womona hope the interview and visit were fantastic and you have a horribly difficult decision to make between 2 great options. With your sailing, tennis and golf activities, you certainly will make new friends and have a great social circle in no time if you guys go for it!
@SunnyDays930 much lament for the pup angst. I feel you, sis. I kinda had the opposite situation where DH was mad when I came home with the dog alive because he thought it was time and the vet thought "salvage drugs" (prednisone) could buy a few more good days. It's hard and it hurts. I agree with the poster (sorry I don't remember who, but you're wise!) who said you will know when it's time. It's just a rough patch of road.
@michleib I love your garden spruce up reunion energy. What fun stuff you have planned! You go! I appreciate your thought process on balancing moderation with enjoying fine wine, so thanks for putting that out there.
@itladyee Glad seeing you and admire your 1A/week goal. Ima gonna give that a think. My weekends have not been going well, and that may be the reframe I need.
@NonnieDoiron and @forestdweller1 you guys are cracking me up with the yummy egg muffins.
I'm leaving out a bunch of you guys -- new and old. I read all your posts and appreciated them. Thank you. I'm re-swizzling where I spend energy, and candidly, I do not have it figured out. Unforeseen family events have created a lot of tumult and work short term, but they're changes I think ultimately are good. Starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel on my friend's estate which has been so much more work that expected. I am so sad about it. I'm not sure whether dealing with it forces me to process all the feelings faster or if dealing with it every day is just more occasions for feeling sad. I dunno. On the one hand I need accountability as much as ever, and on the other I have less time and energy for it. Have you guys heard the expression, "I resist most that which I need most"?
Anywhoo, I just booked a beach long weekend with DD#2 and although I'm in my weight maintenance range, I will feel a little more confident in my way too small for my age swimsuits if I lose 3 lb. I need 6 weeks and I have 7 weeks.
goal:
M-Th AF
F-Su <2 ... but I may try @itladyee 's plan6 -
@ahoy_m8 I’m glad we could give you a laugh especially while your on this emotional roller coaster with your friend’s estate. As for accountability even if you can’t come here to post, at least write it down. Keep a notepad by the bed and just tally it every night as you go to bed. When you have time and energy, you can give us an update. I hope you enjoy your beach weekend!4
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This popped up in my TikTok today. If you have TikTok, take a listen. Motivation for your end of week!
https://www.tiktok.com/@terrykaye/video/7364842976322850090?_t=8m4HgDyiPfO&_r=
I needed to hear it! Do you?2
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