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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,771 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    was tired but very irritated with dh (he said he was just dropping a check off at the new place for his mom-only in there a few minutes so I sat in the car. I had wanted him to drop me off at her home to take care of the dog like we have been doing. 45+ min later and it is dark he finally comes out. Get to her home and I quickly walk the dog in the dark- only one street light around the whole block plus it was cold. Jacket was at home. He takes his time getting things together to take to his mom tomorrow while I sat waiting. He knew I had planned on walking with my friends. Got home and he doesn't offer to feed the inside cats- not a huge deal- I have that down and get it done in just a few minutes but just the point. Messaged my friends and we meet 15 min later than planned. Son and his girlfriend got there at the same time I did so walked one lap with them until my friends came.
    Friends and I walked and talked....

    And I am ending my day with 23,000+ steps /10.4miles

    Should sleep good tonight, hopefully

    I've never been one to just sit and wait.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,103 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,771 Member
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,245 Member
    I’m planning a relaxed day. Just a short trip to our local shops for fresh bread and a Sunday roast. I have already written my piece for Creative Writing on Monday, and will prep a landscape workshop for Monday Painters.

    Next week will be busy.
    Mon am: Creative Writing
    Mon pm: Monday Painters
    Tuesday am: Craft
    Wed am: Psychology
    Fri pm: Card making

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    🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏 🙏 🙏 to those who want/need them.

    céad míle fáilte to our new ladies.

    ☘️ Terri
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,771 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    Machka never watched SWF, too scary. Likewise avoided “Waiting for Mr. Goodbar.” I’m just a wimp when it comes to scary movies, have sufficient nightmares without ‘em.

    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
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    2025: Chose NOW: to move more than yesterday, fuel better than yesterday, open heart and mind before mouth.


    I liked a number of the 1990s/2000s drama/thrillers.

    The Hand That Rocks the Cradle
    Single White Female
    A Perfect Murder
    The Talented Mr Ripley
    The Firm
    The Net
    Double Jeopardy
    The Sixth Sense
    The Thirteenth Floor
    True Lies ... although that's more of a comedy. We're watching it now.
    Murder By Numbers ... watched that last night!
    And more. :)

    And I like books along those lines too. :)

    They get my heart rate up. :grin:

  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,786 Member
    Good Morning,
    I think this past week as taken 2 weeks......I woke up excited that it was Sunday....it took me 30 mins to realize it was Saturday! I guess I have to go to work today. My back, hips, and ribs feel much better today .

    Just wiped down hot tub, draining currently, kittens are outside without leashes for first time! Will bring them in shortly for breakfast. This is like sending your kids out to play! They won't be out for a few days as temps will be in single digits. They don't have thick coats. They are enjoying running though. I do need to find them an outdoor house eventually. The plan is outside during day. Inside at night. They came in easily for food.

    Tracey That is quite a bit of money! WOW! Employee is lucky you have their back!

    Ginny I was told years ago that the tobacco industry puts additives in to make cigarettes even more addictive. It is so hard. Congrats to you too! I really have no desire to smoke again, but vaping is so easy, so this will be interesting. I kept telling myself I would quit when I got to my comfortable weight, well that isn't happening either so might as well do both at once.

    Time to leave for work. At least hot tub will be ready to get back in to tomorrow morning!

    Much love!
    Thankful for all of you!
    Continued hugs!

    Kylia in Ohio just before the bitter cold again!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,851 Member
    Did my writing transfers from tablet to laptop this morning. I don't usually 'work' at the weekend, but I had the bath mountain to climb yesterday and didn't write.
    I have probably only a chapter or so left to do, as a first draft. Then it's the formatting and editing.

    Had a lovely long chat with G after that. Mainly talking about the strange routes grief can take.

    I'm working myself up to doing my roots tomorrow. I probably will.

    Very grey out there. :(

    Expecting a big Amazon delivery today of lots of bits and pieces. All boring stuff, but saves me having to go out searching for it. One of the bits is 'moth beans', a stupid translation of an Indian word. Yesterday I sprouted a cupful in the IP, and I am using a third tonight, curried with coconut. The others are in the freezer. We are having it with sea bass and green beans.

    Much love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 3,014 Member
    edited January 18
    Morning, all,

    Kylia - Regarding smoking - probably boring to those who never have:
    I always described it as "the skin inside out" feeling when the nicotine cravings were at their worst. And the hand-to-mouth habit of the vape itself, even with zero nicotine, turned into a waiting game for me. I would tell myself at the beginning, when the urge to vape came across, that I could do it in five minutes. In five minutes, of course, I'd be engrossed in what I was doing. Then ten minutes.

    Then I put more and more fences around it - not at the computer, not at work, only outside, etc., etc. That time just naturally got longer and longer, and it wasn't nearly as hard to break as the nicotine itself. You are going to feel so strong and powerful when you walk away from them. I still do, years later.

    What always impressed me about my husband is that every time I quit smoking, he did. He kept vaping about a year after I quit, because his vaping didn't bother me and never made me want to (don't know why). But then he started feeling like it was making his lungs feel wet and boggy, something I had felt as well. He went off them the same way I did, and hasn't used one for about three years now. Neither one of us has ever walked away from nicotine for this long, and it's only been since I quit vaping that I genuinely feel like I'm a non-smoker. Even when I was vaping, I still felt like a smoker, just someone who was smoking in a different and better way.

    Heather - So pleased the writing is going along so well. I got my hair done earlier in the week. Always pleased to have that over with. Grief does take strange forms, but I agree with Rebecca that the "sneaker waves" are the hardest bit, as you're moving into this new world around you without another person, and the grief just swamps you to the point where your knees wobble. About grief - I don't know if it's a trigger for some, so I put it in a spoiler. Don't read if it will bother you.
    When I lost my mother, I was commuting an hour each way to my master's degree work at Texas A&M--I would literally scream and wail at the top of my lungs, and cry and beat on the steering wheel for a large part of it. It was the only time I was ever truly alone! Then I'd clean myself up, go to class, and do the same on the way back home.

    I also wrote her letters every morning for a long, long time, too. That is, until I realized I was lying in my letters as if that way, she wouldn't know how bad things had gotten in my marriage. Two years it took me to finally wrench myself out of that despondence. She was the person I would have talked to about how hard it was, and she was the one who was gone. Broke me for a while.

    Wow, spoilering stuff right left and center.

    Ginny - Your granddaughter looks like an absolute delight.

    Allie - Your granddaughter is so lucky to have you in her life. Please take care of yourself, too!

    Tracey - So pleased you were able to push corporate into getting the pay right for this woman. $15K is a chunk of change, no matter who you are.

    Amanda in KY - While our Allie isn't on Mounjaro, she's had tremendous success on Trulicity, which is another one of the GLP-1s, and lost quite a bit of weight. Glad you like our stories, feel free to tell your own - we're all working toward gaining or regaining our health as much if not more than weight loss, per se. It's an eclectic bunch! :smiley:

    Corey's headed in to work for a couple hours this morning, he and his brother Pat need to replace the tracks on one of the small skid steers. If you don't know what that means, don't worry, I'm not going to explain it! 😜🐈‍⬛😸 Just saying that, with the bitter cold on its way back in, they'd rather do the work this morning at 35 degrees (1.5C) than Monday when it's 18 (-7C). We won't be as cold as Kylia and Ginny in Ohio, or the East Coasties, but cold enough!

    I am finally going to seriously look for some chair yoga videos, as I just can't lay down on the floor right now. Overall I feel OK, but major changes in my head movement are still not good. My eyes feel a little dry and scratchy in my sockets. Again, nothing to get upset over, just... not right. But I've had 11 days in a row of 10-15 minutes of exercise a day, and I don't want to break it. Very pleased to have gotten this far.

    Oh - and my next colonoscopy is mid-May. I'll try not to start whining about it until at least May 1. 😜😸🐈‍⬛ I really do not like them, but then again, I would be extremely worried about anyone who does!

    Later y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa in AR

    Edit to Add - Kept my streak going! Found I had to get away from chair yoga and go to "chair exercises for seniors" to find something that didn't make me move my head much more than I wanted to. Pleased with it, and boy am I feeling it in my lower belly:
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  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,316 Member
    (((Barbie))) Yes some things go smoothly and quickly and others not so...Some things you think will be done and there is some glitch. Give yourself lots of hugs and celebrate when one of the boxes gets checked off. I only had one piece I was unable to complete because they wanted proof of power of Attorney. When a person dies power of attorney is no longer valid. That is for when the person is alive. It is a process and you will get there. I called it the third wave after a DH dies. First the death, then the funeral, and then the settling of the estate.

    Again know the user names and passwords, know what investments and titles and with whom loved one has dealings with example pensions, 401K, homes, cars, have 3 months of income stashed away that is in your name/social security number that you can access when loved one dies. Know where your birth certificate is and marriage certificate are helps too. You will need to change utilities into your name too! It can be a hard enough process anyway but having those pieces in place helps to make some things go better.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,454 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,429 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    Barbie - glad your visit with the attorney went well and things are moving along. Unsettling to not be sure of the next step with this stuff. Very proud of Annie for being a good girl while you left her in the car. <3

    Kylia - I remember reading that nicotine is one of the most addictive drugs. Good for you paring it down. Funny tho - one of my favorite memories of my DH is that faint tobacco smell he always had. Not the fresh stinking smoke smell, just a faint odor on his skin and clothing. He rolled his own. There's a stub in the ashtray of the Camry I just left in there for old time's sake.

    Lisa - so sorry your world is spinning. :( Hope today is better.

    Barbara - I have no hesitancy eating eggs either from my girls or from the store. From what I've read, there's only been one fatality and that fellow had underlying conditions and for most people that get it, the symptoms are mild. Seems like there were once strains that were far worse with high fatality but this one doesn't seem too bad right now.

    Heather - you mentioned Mel Robbins "Let Them" a week or so ago. She kept popping up in my FB feed so I've taken the time to watch some of her little videos. This morning she had one where a young lady was unable to go to her mom's for Christmas and her mom laid a guilt trip on her. It made me think about how these types of people use guilt as a means of control. In my life, I sometimes find it hard to break that chain and just "let them" be mad or disappointed that I don't give in - luckily I'm rarely put in that position anymore. "Let them" goes hand in hand with saying "No" without guilt. I have the "Let Them" book on order from the library - there's a big waiting list.

    Ginny - what a sweet happy granddaughter. <3 Thanks to all of you who let us have a glimpse of those special little ones in your lives.

    Allie - seeing Delia and SMiles always makes my day too. <3

    By the way, the uninstall of McAfee from this old laptop and simply turning on MS Defender anti-virus went off without a hitch. I expected to get a lot of reminder pop-ups from McAfee but haven't seen one. Maybe W11 and/or Defender screens them out.

    Making Italian Beef in the crockpot - Safeway had nice chuck roasts on sale so I grabbed one. I simply dump half a jar of Marinara sauce over it and let it cook all day. Craving beef these days.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State
    My DH makes something like your Italian Beef but calls it Brajoili. He uses a tough piece of beef, usually chuck or flank beats it flat with a mallet then seasons one side how he want, usually Italian style, sometimes puts slices of pepperoni or other sausage in there, then roll it like a pumpkin roll, tie with kitchen put in pot with spaghetti sauce of varying types depending on what we have on hand, then cooked it all day. Slice the beef which should be kind of falling apart when done for nice rollettes and service with pasta or rice, or whatever, I sometime eat it with just the tomato sauce and beef. Awesome stuff… He has never used poultry, but i bet it would be good too! He has done it with venison and pork. Experiment! beating down make it very tender! He used to use a regular hammer until I got him an inexpensive plastic meat tenderizer. Amazon has them in different colors. His is yellow. I think I may have got it at a dollar store, not sure.

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    RVRita in Roswell

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,203 Member
    Hello all
    Sheesh this cold just wont go away and after Delia's baptism tomorrow we will be getting around 8 inches of snow luckily I dont have to watch D on monday as it is a holiday.
    Going to get the garbage together for Dan for this afternoon. But im just laying low and sneezing my.fool head off. Ugh
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,708 Member
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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,740 Member
    edited January 18
    Carol - so glad your DH is nearly at the end of BnL's estate tasks. Seems like it turned into quite a big job.

    Heather - I've been thinking about your friends who had brain scans. Is that a common procedure in the UK?

    Amanda in KY - I'm a former farm girl - raised on a farm in N. Indiana and my DH and I had a farm in SW Washington where we raised sheep and hay up until 2007 when we had to move to suburbia because of his health. Still have 3 hens though. :p You are doing great losing 15# since the middle of December. For me, upping the protein and cutting the sugar and simple carbs made a big difference too. Feel free to share farm stories. Can I ask what line of work you are in? Maybe you said and I'm too lazy to go back through the posts, lol.

    Debbie - you are the walking queen, wow. So glad you have friends to walk with, good therapy. :p Glad MIL has moved, hope things settle back into a better schedule for your DH. AND hope she gets along well at the new place.

    Barbie - glad to hear you are getting things wrapped up and that Annie is being a good girl watching the car for you.

    Kylia - I too liked the smell of pipe tobacco, DH smoked one of those for a while. Sounds like you had a very productive day, feels so good to get caught up, doesn't it? <3

    Smoking - I smoked during my 20's and 30's, then got a bad case of bronchitis and tossed the cigs and lighter into the dumpster at work. Took me several more tries but finally it took. However, sometimes my DH would buy a pack of Player's cigarettes from Canada. None - or not very many - of the additives. Boy they smelled good and a couple times I almost reached for one, but didn't. :p

    Gave in and started a fire in the woodstove this morning. I was chilly all day yesterday, icy fog until about 3 pm then we had a tiny bit of sunshine. 27F and icy fog again this morning so I got the fire lit and the house is getting mighty cozy.

    Make it a fabulous weekend ladies!

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,429 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Hello all
    Sheesh this cold just wont go away and after Delia's baptism tomorrow we will be getting around 8 inches of snow luckily I dont have to watch D on monday as it is a holiday.
    Going to get the garbage together for Dan for this afternoon. But im just laying low and sneezing my.fool head off. Ugh

    I right there with you Allie! I’m starting week three and round 2 of the whole thing. Feels like the first day all over again! I’ll get there, just one day at a time. Still on antibiotics and Mucinex. I foresee them for the rest of January!

    Thought for today:

    What do you call a dinosaur with an extensive vocabulary?

    A thesaurus!

    This on is harder: I was going to tell you a time-traveling joke, but you didn’t like it.

    RVRita
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,995 Member
    Rita, the time-traveling joke, after I finally got it, reminded me of why I don’t like books with a time-traveling theme. Lol.

    Amanda, I think Mounjaro is what my sister takes. It really manages her A1C and it has also helped with some bathroom issues from her previous medication. I’m not sure what that was - probably metformin. She has lost about 20 lbs, some in her belly, but also some in her arms and legs which were stick-thin to begin with. Weight wise she doesn’t need to lose more, but bidy-shape wise, she doesn’t still have some belly fat. If you could only target where the weight comes off! She has been on it a while and feels comfortable enough to skip a dose if she doesn’t want to take a chance of getting sick and/or to stretch the time between shots to make it last longer.

    My FB feed reminded me that it was 11 years ago today that I broke my wrist - and we are still keeping the orthopedic clinic in business. Bless my heart and call me Grace!

  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,993 Member
    edited January 18
    Today is a weird day. One of my pen pals that now I just text to decided to call me many expletives and blocked me. I won't get into the specifics but it involved me saying that's its good thing to read a newspaper or listen to the news once in awhile. This resulted in her telling me that she didn't care about knowing what's happening news wise because its all gloom and doom and she doesn't need that in her life. But she's 23 and wants to be a therapist. She is my pen pal that his depression issues, but takes medicine, sees a therapist weekly, has a cat, all positive things. Anyways I don't know how to feel. It was things I think she needed to hear. And I kind of knew she would have that reaction, as she has does this type of response to many. I was just waiting for her to do it to me. *sighs*
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,708 Member
    Rebecca ~ Maybe it's time to say good-by to that pen pal.

    I haven't taken my antidepressants since August but have decided I need to take them again as all I have done lately is cry at the least thing. I feel like a blubbering mess! LOL! :)

    Carol in GA
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,993 Member
    It all started after I said, "isn't is crazy about the fires in California"? She responded, " oh, tell me what's going on". I sent her photos, the extent of the fires in stats. I told her it was weird spoon feeding her the info. That it would be good to buy a newspaper once in awhile just to stay informed. She responded with, "I am not going to read a bulk newspaper to read about things I don't care about, and gloom and doom. Young adults nowadays even if they have issues they're dealing with, I just don't get it.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,993 Member
    And she can't handle a newspaper but she wants to attend college....*sighes*
    Ok I am done venting.
    Hopefully I can chat with youngest an eldest sons today.💖👍🏼
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,310 Member
    :) From the sublime to the ridiculous. Today my challenge was putting gas in the car---something I haven't done for years. I succeeded.

    :)Rebecca I don't read a newspaper or watch the news on TV or online and and I'm fine with that. Your pen pal needs to accept criticism and different opinions with grace and not throw a fit about it.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA 💖
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,454 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walknw/family- 1hr 41min 11sec, 11932steps, 99elev, 2.94ap, 79ahr, 99mhr, 5.08mi= 502c
    Strava app- 615c
    Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 24min 48sec, 1837elev, 117aw, 14.2amph, 1st 5mi @ gear50, 2nd 5mi @gear40, 3rd 5mi @ gear35, last 5mi @ gear50, 109ahr, 126mhr, 20.12mi= 532c
    Strava app- 567c
    Zwift stats- 1hr 24min 47sec, 1838elev, 116aw, 45arpm, 14.22amph, 20.1mi= 567c

    Total cal 1034

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  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,685 Member
    edited January 18
    Hello all.

    Hugs, Carol. I'm sorry you are having a rough time. You have a lot going on.

    Thinking about you a lot, Barbie.

    I find myself thinking a lot of you, Kim, as well.

    I've been reading, but not keeping everything straight, to be honest. We've got a lot going on. Not as horrible as some that you all are dealing with. And actually, not all of it bad, at all. I'll put the bulk of it in a spoiler.

    My youngest has a girlfriend.
    This is not his first girlfriend. He got his heart broken about six months ago, so I am happy to see that he has recovered. They've been dating for a month, but he just told us last night. We all knew something was up, but it was still nice for him to tell us. I asked him if he'd met her parents, and he said, "Do you want to hear a story?" Apparently, on the date where they decided to be a couple, they were "kissing" in his car in the parking lot of In N Out. Suddenly, they hear a rap on the window. He did not realize that she had a curfew, nor did he know that her parents have a tracking device on her phone. Since she was late getting home, her father had come to look for her. So yes, he's met her father, but it was awkward, to say the least. Her father took her home. Needless to say, perhaps. But I guess it's all good now. :lol:

    My youngest made his college commitment.
    I can't remember if I mentioned this before or not. He'll be going to a university just six miles from us, but far enough that I promised him we would ignore him as much as he wants us to. It is crazy expensive, obscenely expensive (tuition $53,000/year) but because they are very well endowed, they gave him a very generous merit scholarship. Additionally, because I also work at a private university, another portion of the tuition is covered through tuition exchange. His grandparents have offered to pay the rest. Praise God! So we just have to worry about room and board, which just is what it is, no matter where you go. He is so excited. He applied only there, so I was on pins and needles waiting to hear back because we didn't really have a suitable second choice.

    My youngest's activities
    He is crazy busy for his last semester. He is playing cello in the pit for the high school musical, The Little Mermaid; he got the lead in the spring play, Peter and the Starcatcher; he will be in another play -- Radium Girls for his high school acting class; and he is writing a one act for the high school spring one act competitions. And he is mentoring a 5th grader on Tuesday and Thursday afternoons at one of the local grade schools. He makes us tired, just watching him. Needless to say, he doesn't have a paying job, which he sometimes feels bad about, but we told him these activities are his job, so I just put money on his debit card when it gets low.

    My daughter is getting married on Tuesday.
    They are getting married at the courthouse for reasons. It has been a little stressful just because they've been engaged for a while but decided in November that they needed to get married quickly. Her partner found out yesterday that their father took a restraining order out against their mother. They were put into the position of having to choose which to have at the ceremony live and which to have watch online. This has been incredibly heartbreaking, never mind why the order (we didn't ask). On a day when you are wanting everyone to be happy and celebrate, there is this pall. They both came over last night to tell us, and I just hugged my daughter's partner for a few minutes while they cried. :cry: We were already stressed because it's a courthouse wedding, number 1, and it's an LGBTQ+ wedding, number 2, so we just don't know what to expect, and then on top of that, there's this parental issue. Lots of deep breathing going on, trying to calm myself not to worry.

    Hubby got a new job.
    What an ordeal this has been. On the one hand, we are thankful he was able to quit his old job -- last day is next Friday. He starts the new job on the 27th -- in Seattle. Yep. He will be commuting to Seattle, at least in the short term, every week, for three days in the office. It's not as horrible as it sounds because there's AMTRAK, so even though it will take four hours, I think, those are hours he can work or rest, so much better than trying to drive up, especially with navigating Olympia, the base, Tacoma, and Seattle traffic (and parking!) Still, this will be a huge adjustment for our family. We are hoping once he gets settled, they will allow him to come up just one week a month, but the call back to the office has been strong, and a little unreasonable, in most cases. ETA He will get a hotel room for the nights he is there. It kind of sounded like he was going to commute eight hours a day; just eight hours a week.

    We are freezing here, although not as bad as most of the country. We are wimps here when it comes to the cold. However, at least today it is sunny. The last few days have been foggy from morning to dusk.

    That gets everyone up to date with me and mine. We are sick about the fires. My husband is from that area, and he can't bear to watch the news about it at all. I'm just keeping up with the news. We are one of those that stopped watching the news. I listen a little to NPR, just for a few minutes at a time, then have to turn it to music. I keep up with headlines on my google feed, but most of the time don't click in, because it's all too depressing.

    Love you all.
    Flea, Willamette Valley, OR
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,685 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :) From the sublime to the ridiculous. Today my challenge was putting gas in the car---something I haven't done for years. I succeeded.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA 💖

    Speaking as an Oregon girl, this is not ridiculous. I have a plug-in hybrid, which I rarely fill with gas. And when I have, it is pumped for me. I went to the station earlier this week to have them fill it, and it was "Self-Serve Only." I panicked, just a little. I had to take a deep breath and tell myself I can do this. I haven't had to fill my own tank since I was last in Washington State. Blasted self-serve. And it was cold out!!

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR

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