WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2025
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No, Machka, I wouldn't be 'comfortable '. Neither is she. It's always a big stretch to talk in public. She was almost fainting before her first TEDX talk. She is quite self-effacing.
Do I want to? Yes. I used to do a great deal in the public eye. Always very, very, very nervous, but I did it. Speaking engagements, teaching presentation skills and theatre skills, having a theatre company, recruiting for seminars that I ran. Guesting for writing festivals. I even went to Kenya for the British Council as a guest lecturer.
I loved it, but I was always sick with nerves beforehand. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Since retirement, I have stepped back, but I feel ready, at the age of 75, to step into my place again. I have a lot to share with the world.
I did do a radio interview a couple of years ago, which was a great experience. Plus publicity in magazines. I'm thinking of doing something like Lisa, by putting my toe into YouTube. I'm established on Instagram, have an author page on Amazon, and have a website, which needs updating. When my new book is finished, I will concentrate more on this.
I feel very much on purpose these days.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx6 -
Forgot to say, I even went to Kenya for the British Council, as a guest speaker and lecturer. That was wonderful, and I went on safari afterwards in the Masai Mara. Met some fabulous people.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx5 -
Carla - I'm so sorry for your loss. It never gets easy.
Heather - I highly recommend putting together a YouTube channel. It has pushed me harder than anything I've done since I retired. I also highly recommend getting someone else to edit your videos. Seriously, that has been the biggest PITA of this whole process, and I'm actually very conversant and comfortable with computers. Video editing, in its current form, at least, is just not intuitive. AI is coming along fast though! One app I found will actually edit out any pauses like "ums" and "ahs." I will say that this process has pushed me into truly believing the "better done than perfect" philosophy. Also taught me what I look like and sound like, which apparently, I never knew. I thought I looked like Audrey Hepburn (occasionally Sophia Loren) and sounded like Reba McEntire. None of those things are true in the slightest! 😉😂🐈⬛ Well done to Jessamy.
The day started out weird, as, long story short, Corey sunk his truck up to the axles turning around in our front yard, in the mud. Which, of course, I had warned him of before he came home, and yes, it is the same place our friends sunk their 5th wheel camper trailer. He does fine with stuff like that, doesn't lash out or anything, just feels stupid, and I hate that for him.
The picture is right after he got it stuck, and we tried for about an hour to dig it out and pull it out with his old Ford truck. By the time we were done, it was buried another foot deeper and covered in mud from spinning tires, but it was dark, so we quit. His brother grabbed a dump truck from work this morning and came out and pulled him out, so the day started slow and weird. He's much calmer than I would have been under the same circumstances.
So, Egg and I are alone, finally, but I need to run into town - I need to get the paperwork at that medical office filled out, and there was another reason, which I'm going to have to try to remember at some point, but it flew out of my head the moment he stuck that truck. I need to remember that before I head in...
Later, babies,
Love,
Lisa in AR
Edit to Add - I remembered as soon as I closed this tab on my browser, because the Home Depot email was still open - the flooring for the bathroom, just a couple boxes of vinyl plank, is in and I want to go by and pick that up. Whew!
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The washer and dryer came yesterday. I switched back to an electric dryer for a couple of reasons. Went smoothly until it was plugged in with no power to the dryer.
It has been twenty years since I have had an electric dryer. I think what happened is in the intervening years we had other electrical work done like our AC. I believe the AC installers took this circuit not realizing it had the dryer plug on it. It had not been marked when it was added. I know because I went through and rewrote what electrical parts of the house went with what in the house. I looked at the original set up and what my DH did a few years ago to update the box. This was after we had gone back to a gas dryer. We added the electrical dryer plug installed when we moved in 40 years ago.
Yes frustrating but it is fixable and no one is hurt or died...It also got me to update the fuse box. Long overdue. Getting this washer and dryer will get me to do a major clean out of my garden supplies and some other piles in that area. It was good to give the area a good clean and clean out the venting to the dryer.
Lesson learned when work is done document and take notes for how the system works so I better understand and prevent future problems...
Looking forward to having a working dryer soon.
Electrician is coming at 10 to figure it out. I have done my homework so I am ready for him.
I have my list of trusted companies. I find them when I do have problems like this I often not always get better service. I know it cost me more in the short term but peace of mind and long term I know I save money and frustration.
It is not the fault of the people who came to install the washer and dryer!
Steadily getting better from my fall. I slept on couch last night because I had less pain from fall injury! I read it takes 2-6 weeks to recover from this type of injury. I think I am on the two week program as long as I don't further injure it.8 -
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(((Carla))) There are no words...
Kim thanks for info on insurance...
Heather and MO beautiful!
Learned anger is a message to me. Tells me something must be protected or restored. Not always an easy path to do so. I find it sometimes equally hard to forgive myself for my reaction to said anger. I tell myself my reaction is what gets me to start thinking of a solutions where hopefully everyone wins! Again easier said than done. Also learned getting upset okay I just need to go to the tool box and find healthy ways to soothe myself quickly so anger does not damage me or someone else or someone else!5 -
Sorry for your loss Carla. It’s always hard.
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Carla, I am so sorry for your family's loss. It is so sad, so I have no words as well. Sending hugs all around. It is a cruel reminder of how precious and unpredictable life can be.
One more tight hug.
Love,
Mo in Mississippi.
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I was correct as to what caused the problem for the electrical. There are two possible solutions and it will get fixed next week. I did learn if you have work that requires an inspection to keep the paperwork from the inspector because when house is sold having that paper work can come in handy when you have your home inspected for sale.
Yes replacing my gas with a gas dryer in the short run would have been better. Long term I am glad to have this fixed!2 -
Crying Because of the medications I’m on, I really don’t cry. I haven’t since my dad died about 15 years ago.
Anger When I get angry, my brain simply shuts off my verbal abilities. I just lose my words, so walk away think, and come back after I’ve calmed down. So I’ve learned to not get angry, hold my tongue then ask the other person a question like, “what would you have done differently” or “what do you think should be done.” These two questions stop people in their tracks, and calms my anger.
Didn’t sleep well last night, I think it is the prednisone. Got up 3 times with the dogs, and woke up to go to the bathroom at midnight, couldn’t go back to sleep, so read, and finally fell asleep around 3 AM. Head fuzzy this morning, but we have planned to go to Sam’s today, but that may not happen. I got up this morning and found the car trunk hatch was open and we now have a dead battery. Not a good way to start the day, so probably will stay home today.
Thought for the day:
This one is a little dark……
Our dad died due to us not being able to remember his blood type. As he died, he kept insisting that we “be positive”, but it’s hard without him.
Love,
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Lisa ~ What kind of videos are you making?
Heather ~ You have had lots of experiences using the outgoing talents you were blessed with. I can see Bea following in your steps!
Carla ~ Sorry for the loss of your relative. It must be very hard for his family to go through this.
Carol in GA3 -
Carol, Tracey you are not alone. Hi! My name is Barbara and I’m an evening snackaholic. Debbie you said it, salty, then sweet, then salty again, all of the above!
Heidi I loved the McCall ice sculpture festival when we lived in Idaho. Amazing what so many sculptors did with just a chainsaw…
Allie, Tracy’s sourdough looks scrumptions! My first attempt at whole wheat sourdough made a nice doorstop.
Michele it makes me sad that your bowling frustration left you in tears. IMHO, just stop it! Do you really need to do something that makes you cry? Please take this advise with a grain of sald. I am the not-so-proud possessor of my company’s “Most Atrocious Bowler” trophy… ;}
Rebecca Was your eldest’s van 4-wheel drive? Love the pic of you in the fancy blue dress and heels. IMHO waking up from surgery crying is your body’s way of coping. Surgery, no matter how well intentioned and therapeutic, is still traumatic. Likewise extensive dental work. Really believe the crying response is as much physical as it is emotional.
Beth prayers for Friday’s surgery and that recovery is quick, comfortable and complete!
Rita ((hugs)) and condolences, your ex MIL was quite a gal to side with you against her son in the divorce. Good catch on the rental scam. When we were looking for a rental in Idaho while readying our home for sale, there were several “too good to be true” postings on Cragslist, scammers spoofed legitimate Zillow listings. [sigh]
Lisa what a score! Love the wrapper. Wow what a lot of work went into that afghan. Well done! And Bravissima for checking the vanity before the delivery guys left. A reminder to us all… As for rage, when I’m REALLY angry I first lose my voice, then the bitter, angry, tears squeeze out.
Margaret sorry to hear about the fall, thankful you have taken such good care of your health that I know you will recover quickly. What you said about good neighbors, truth!
Mo you are amazing, your loving heart just keeps stretching to include more needy ones. What a blessing you are to them and us! “Baby Suko” is that like son of Kong? Sweetie that’s not sweat, you are positively GLOWING!
Good thing indeed that scum is in jail, hope he stays there a loooong time, (and that somebody there, throws HIM down some stairs.)
Heather Burns night, paintings, writing, reaching out. You ROCK galfriend! Hope the back pain was temporary and is now gone.
Barbie “Do it self”
Lanette, modifying the lid lock or its latch could cause the machine to stop functioning (drum might not spin) and would certainly void your warranty. Yest I think it started out by just catching occasionally, then locking and staying locked. Sometimes cycling would release, other times power off on, other times unplug, and there were certainly times when I just gave it a d@mn good whack! Surge protector is working so far.
Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Belkin-Single-SurgeCube-Protector-F9H100-CW/dp/B00006BBAB
An ill-advised organizing start and a couple of time-sensitive cooking/gift projects have left the OMG room in chaos. Forecast is for cold, wet, windy, blustery. Good thing I got all the grocery shopping done today. Here are my rainy day projects.Incoming BlusterTea: Bigelow “Lemon Lift” every morning, 3 cups w/5g sugar in each. For awhile was drinking Good Earth Sweet’n’Spicy original without sugar, but it started triggering some GERD as does my favorite chai tea latte. Occasional Nutcracker Sweet, Constant Comment, Honey Lemon Ginseng, Tasty Tangerine, and Yogi herbals as needed.
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Today’s gratitude: Cold and windy as it was fighting the shopping wars this afternoon, at least it wasn’t snowing! So grateful we moved to Brookings from Boise ;}
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2025: Chose NOW: to move more than yesterday, fuel better than yesterday, open heart and mind before mouth.
I don't think it was 4 wheel drive, it was a 1994 luxury Japanese van and I don't believe it had that. But she was pretty!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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mcmillonmail wrote: »Tracey, I know each of you could do my job because you all have big hearts. Tracey and Heather, I don't think Rodger can do anything right now because it sounds like he is experiencing Major Depression. If this is true, it can be debilitating. All he can do is exist. He needs medical help. Tracey, you are like me. If I am working hard, I expect my mate to work hard. What you described reminds me of patients that I saw in the VA when I was in school. I remember when I was depressed but had to work because I had mouths to feed.
Okay, everyone. Stay safe, get healthy, and have a wonderful weekend. I'll be back tomorrow.
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
I blame myself and my MIL for dh's lack of help around the house. When he was growing up, she wouldn't let him or his brother do any household chores. When he started dating me(he was 28 and still living at home) he started bringing his laundry to my house to do- she would go in his room and do it before he came back from work. She never taught them to cook anything. The older brother died at 49yrs old, still living at home and her doing every single thing for him-waiting on him hand and foot- jumping when he was missing the soy sauce or a spoon.
When we got married, I was used to doing all the household chores by myself(did this when I was married the first time-just the way I was raised, like mom did things).
The first year we were married, he was working full time and I wasn't working at all yet(had closed down my daycare when I moved here. So, I felt it was my job to do all the housework. Still felt that way when I started working part time. Once I was working full time, it was here in the house doing daycare again so beings I was in the house all day so I continued it, even when I had the daycare kids 11 hrs a day with the newborn triplets. He also never helped with our son when he was little(that is why son is super close to me and not at all with his dad).
I know, I should have spoken up a long time ago.
Married almost 33 yrs and I am still the one that does all the cooking/dishes/laundry plus feeding all the cats. He does the litter boxes more than I do but I do them too.
The one chore he used to do multiple times a day was vacuuming-obsession with it, late at night after I was in bed. He still vacuums around the litter boxes but not in the house as much anymore.
Yard work we both do. I do it because I enjoy it. Mowing our tiny lawn is a huge chore for him.
I still get so frustrated and angry about it almost daily but not enough to speak up most of the time.
I did just speak up- he had said when he and his friend were going out for lunch, they would go take care of the dog at his mom's. Great, one less thing for me to do. This morning he came in after sleeping in and said, "so, are you going to take care of the dog? You can wait until closer to picking up Ezie(daycare girl) and do it both at the same time?"
I said I thought they were going to do it- and he got very pissy- "Sorry I changed my mind and didn't tell you- didn't think it was going to be a big deal- FINE, I will just do it"
Seriously -I am not in the mood for this.
He was in a mood because he had to clean up some mess from the old momma cat because I didn't do it when I got up or the litter boxes. I was having my tea first.
Thankfully, I will be at mom's next weekend- just for two days. Need to be home to take him to the oral surgeon at 7AM on Monday-failed root canal that is constantly infected and has been for 2 yrs- finally going to take care of it.
The following weekend, he will be away doing a show for the whole weekend. SO looking forward to that.
Ok, Rant is over. Going to have my tea and catch up on a few things online- a bit behind and it is the end of the month- woops.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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mcmillonmail wrote: »Tracey, I know each of you could do my job because you all have big hearts. Tracey and Heather, I don't think Rodger can do anything right now because it sounds like he is experiencing Major Depression. If this is true, it can be debilitating. All he can do is exist. He needs medical help. Tracey, you are like me. If I am working hard, I expect my mate to work hard. What you described reminds me of patients that I saw in the VA when I was in school. I remember when I was depressed but had to work because I had mouths to feed.
Machka, I love those things as well. I love to travel to see them.
Beth, I hope you feel better soon.
Rebecca, have you ever gone out with your sons, or are they on the ship? My uncle always wanted me to join the Navy, and I wish I had. I wish I had so I could have had the benefits. Keep up the great work of staying healthy.
Okay, everyone. Stay safe, get healthy, and have a wonderful weekend. I'll be back tomorrow.
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
My eldest son is with a squadron in Japan, so he's what I call air Navy, and the youngest sailor son is also in Japan but he was on a ship so sea Navy, well until he found out he has Crohn's and is in medical hold there until he can get stateside for further stateside treatment. My middle son is out, but he was in the flight crew as a mechanic. I have only gone on two dependent cruises where the Navy allows family to sailor with their sailor. Both were for my active duty husband. When we were stationed in Japan we rode the ship from Yokosuka to Shimoda for a festival. It was an overnight deal so really interesting. I have taken a trip with 20 or so wives from Yokosuka to Thailand, and another trip was to Korea. We were able to do some sightseeing before the ship arrived and then we all met back up a couple days later at the airport. Our eldest has only a couple of years left before he retires with 20 years served. For Aviation Machinist Mate, its been a hard, physically demanding job. As a 35 year old, his body is kind of spent, with bruises all over. It will be nice when he's able to come home, get a part time job, go to college and just relax. As a 1st Class Petty Officer, he has responsibilities, and honestly he hates that part of his job. In his idyllic world, just let him do his job and leave him alone.
I am kind of hoping that youngest, he's been in almost 8 years, will get separated from the Navy, get disability, and will also be able to live in Whidbey, get his own place, go to college on the Navy's dime, and manage his disease. He has dealt with the symptoms for years and suffered. He's so excited to get a bed, its so sad but precious. He's been in medical hold status for 1/2 a year living on a Navy barge berthing. So think metal floating box pier side, with rooms holding many racks for sleeping. Its meant for sailors on ships that are in dry dock. His ships crew have left and a new ships crew is in and he's that one lone guy no one knows. I am thankful he has a good sense of spirit, and is just enjoying his situation as his every 2 month infusions are helping greatly.
I had a massage yesterday and I was sore afterwards! Its been almost 10 years since my last massage so my muscles, and skin got quite a workout. Toxins flowing I read, so took some Advil with sleep aid and crashed last night. Today a lot better.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Debbie- I was married 13 yrs the first time and 20 the second.. but sheesh I would have walked if I was treated the way you get treated..your worth way more than that.
Carla- im so sorry for your loss,that was so quick..my condolences to you and his family.
Im exhausted..after watching Delia all week ..im beat.
Going to take a snooze.. have had a rocky stomach..so not much to eat..might have a cup of tea after nap.6 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Carla - I'm so sorry for your loss. It never gets easy.
Heather - I highly recommend putting together a YouTube channel. It has pushed me harder than anything I've done since I retired. I also highly recommend getting someone else to edit your videos. Seriously, that has been the biggest PITA of this whole process, and I'm actually very conversant and comfortable with computers. Video editing, in its current form, at least, is just not intuitive. AI is coming along fast though! One app I found will actually edit out any pauses like "ums" and "ahs." I will say that this process has pushed me into truly believing the "better done than perfect" philosophy. Also taught me what I look like and sound like, which apparently, I never knew. I thought I looked like Audrey Hepburn (occasionally Sophia Loren) and sounded like Reba McEntire. None of those things are true in the slightest! 😉😂🐈⬛ Well done to Jessamy.
The day started out weird, as, long story short, Corey sunk his truck up to the axles turning around in our front yard, in the mud. Which, of course, I had warned him of before he came home, and yes, it is the same place our friends sunk their 5th wheel camper trailer. He does fine with stuff like that, doesn't lash out or anything, just feels stupid, and I hate that for him.
The picture is right after he got it stuck, and we tried for about an hour to dig it out and pull it out with his old Ford truck. By the time we were done, it was buried another foot deeper and covered in mud from spinning tires, but it was dark, so we quit. His brother grabbed a dump truck from work this morning and came out and pulled him out, so the day started slow and weird. He's much calmer than I would have been under the same circumstances.
So, Egg and I are alone, finally, but I need to run into town - I need to get the paperwork at that medical office filled out, and there was another reason, which I'm going to have to try to remember at some point, but it flew out of my head the moment he stuck that truck. I need to remember that before I head in...
Later, babies,
Love,
Lisa in AR
Edit to Add - I remembered as soon as I closed this tab on my browser, because the Home Depot email was still open - the flooring for the bathroom, just a couple boxes of vinyl plank, is in and I want to go by and pick that up. Whew!
Later!
Its nice you have a mate that's calm and matter of fact like Corey is. Think of what your morning could have been if he was one to fly off the handle, stress and grumble! Blessings and feeling of grateful abound! Hugs friend!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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dlfk202000 wrote: »mcmillonmail wrote: »Tracey, I know each of you could do my job because you all have big hearts. Tracey and Heather, I don't think Rodger can do anything right now because it sounds like he is experiencing Major Depression. If this is true, it can be debilitating. All he can do is exist. He needs medical help. Tracey, you are like me. If I am working hard, I expect my mate to work hard. What you described reminds me of patients that I saw in the VA when I was in school. I remember when I was depressed but had to work because I had mouths to feed.
Okay, everyone. Stay safe, get healthy, and have a wonderful weekend. I'll be back tomorrow.
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
I blame myself and my MIL for dh's lack of help around the house. When he was growing up, she wouldn't let him or his brother do any household chores. When he started dating me(he was 28 and still living at home) he started bringing his laundry to my house to do- she would go in his room and do it before he came back from work. She never taught them to cook anything. The older brother died at 49yrs old, still living at home and her doing every single thing for him-waiting on him hand and foot- jumping when he was missing the soy sauce or a spoon.
When we got married, I was used to doing all the household chores by myself(did this when I was married the first time-just the way I was raised, like mom did things).
The first year we were married, he was working full time and I wasn't working at all yet(had closed down my daycare when I moved here. So, I felt it was my job to do all the housework. Still felt that way when I started working part time. Once I was working full time, it was here in the house doing daycare again so beings I was in the house all day so I continued it, even when I had the daycare kids 11 hrs a day with the newborn triplets. He also never helped with our son when he was little(that is why son is super close to me and not at all with his dad).
I know, I should have spoken up a long time ago.
Married almost 33 yrs and I am still the one that does all the cooking/dishes/laundry plus feeding all the cats. He does the litter boxes more than I do but I do them too.
The one chore he used to do multiple times a day was vacuuming-obsession with it, late at night after I was in bed. He still vacuums around the litter boxes but not in the house as much anymore.
Yard work we both do. I do it because I enjoy it. Mowing our tiny lawn is a huge chore for him.
I still get so frustrated and angry about it almost daily but not enough to speak up most of the time.
I did just speak up- he had said when he and his friend were going out for lunch, they would go take care of the dog at his mom's. Great, one less thing for me to do. This morning he came in after sleeping in and said, "so, are you going to take care of the dog? You can wait until closer to picking up Ezie(daycare girl) and do it both at the same time?"
I said I thought they were going to do it- and he got very pissy- "Sorry I changed my mind and didn't tell you- didn't think it was going to be a big deal- FINE, I will just do it"
Seriously -I am not in the mood for this.
He was in a mood because he had to clean up some mess from the old momma cat because I didn't do it when I got up or the litter boxes. I was having my tea first.
Thankfully, I will be at mom's next weekend- just for two days. Need to be home to take him to the oral surgeon at 7AM on Monday-failed root canal that is constantly infected and has been for 2 yrs- finally going to take care of it.
The following weekend, he will be away doing a show for the whole weekend. SO looking forward to that.
Ok, Rant is over. Going to have my tea and catch up on a few things online- a bit behind and it is the end of the month- woops.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
Its kind of a cultural thing I wanted to add, with Japanese kids being very dependent on Moms. When one of my kids were in kindergarten, one of the fellow students was Japanese. The Mom would arrive at lunchtime and feed him, like he was a baby. I knew the teacher as I was a helper, so she gossiped to me about it. She had to have a sit down meeting with her and explain that she probably shouldn't do that.🙄
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Carla- so sorry for your loss
Rebecca- thank you for the insight. Thankfully, I have taught my son how to do his own laundry and he can cook for himself AND does his own dishes when he is done. DH barely puts dishes in the sink and rarely rinses them even though I have talked to him about it so many times- Even had reminder notes over the sink. First one was nice "Please Rinse YOUR Dish", second one was "Rinse YOUR damn Dish"
. He and his girlfriend cook together once in a while. They will be doing more of that. He is trying to not eat out as much to save money. He will be starting to pay rent soon when he moves into MIL's house. (No, he doesn't pay anything to live at home right now)
Going to skip walking the wetlands today- raining off and on and will be for the next week plus my hips are not happy.
I have been walking at least 7 miles almost every day for the past 3 weeks. Only did less than 5 I think twice and I was close to it.
I may walk the dog this evening but depends on the weather. May just let him out in the back yard or just around the block.
Making chicken enchiladas for dinner tonight- simple and everyone likes them. Just need to pick up sour cream to put on top. Adding corn and green chilies to the chicken and cheese in the filling.
I use cottage cheese that has been frozen inside- when it defrosts, the consistency is like ricotta- just cheaper and lower fat.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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Rebecca - I am so grateful for Corey's presence in my life, and was lucky enough to marry two men who were slow to anger and knew the value of work. I could not survive married to someone as volatile as I am. The first marriage, though, I felt like I was in it alone. Corey and I fit together like two interlaced hands... good while apart, great together. It's the true partnership we were both seeking. And gratitude is so tame for what I feel about this man! I am absurdly fortunate.6
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Carol - I'm posting videos on whatever is tickling my brain that day. Much like my posts here. Thanks for asking.3
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Beth - hope the surgery goes well and recovery is smooth and easy.
Carla - so sorry for your family's loss. I'm no longer surprised when I look at the obits in the paper and see people I know, many younger than me, have passed away.
Margaret - Sorry the dryer will need an electrical update. I've been meaning to get an electrician out here to go over my circuit box and the wiring in the shop - DH did a lot of it out there. He's NOT an electrician though he was pretty knowledgeable about it. But now some of the outlets don't work anymore, something probably needs to be upgraded. Important to have this done before I think about selling this place, for sure.
Lisa - wow, that's some mud up to the hubcaps.
Glad Patrick was able to bring over the dump truck and pull him out. I watched your latest video - I thought you did a great job! Some of the YouTube content creators make several thousand $$ per month. If I was younger and had a niche I'd force myself to learn how to do it, lol. But then I'm pretty camera shy so maybe I'd just have Rosie and the hens do the talking.
Debbie - sounds like your son moving into MIL's house will be a good transition for him. I am so grateful MIL has moved into that care home and your DH isn't saddled with the daily abuse anymore.
Barbara - I'm going to order one of those little surge protectors, just to have on hand even if I don't need it for the washer. Thanks for the link! And thanks to everyone's advice to not mess with the plastic clip.
I took a good look at it yesterday - the little hole where the clip fits into had dirt and lint in it so I cleaned it out with a damp Q-Tip, maybe that was part of the problem. I really do need to stop in the store where I bought the set and hopefully schedule a maintenance service call. I phoned about it last year and the person I talked to said "we don't do that." But I might have gotten a new employee. In person should get me more traction. 
Those of you who are interested in doing more "exercise snacks" - I ran across a couple more YouTube channels.
https://www.youtube.com/@easyfitnessover5066
https://www.youtube.com/@TrainerJune
I didn't sleep real well last night, lower back and neck hurting, I couldn't get comfortable. Thanks to advice from you ladies, I replaced the king-sized mattress with 2 XL twin's several years ago, so I'll switch to the "new" side of the bed. Some day when Charlie is out here I'll have him switch the mattresses - I like to sleep on "my side" of the bed. It's fewer steps to the bathroom.
Did some major grocery shopping early this morning and should be good for a week. Trying not to get anxiety over the upcoming weather forecast, which is rain/snow mixed and night temps in the 20's for the next week. Grateful I don't have to go to work on slick roads, and the hens will be fine, I just need to continue taking warm water out for them. And watch my footing.
Lanette
SW WA State7 -
Carla - So sorry for the family's devastating loss. So very hard on everyone. Sending my very best wishes to you ❤️
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Lanette, I'd watch the video with the hens talking, but pass on Rosie. The neighbor's dog provides enough barking to make me mildly Chihuahua-cidal as is.4
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dlfk202000 wrote: »Carla- so sorry for your loss
Rebecca- thank you for the insight. Thankfully, I have taught my son how to do his own laundry and he can cook for himself AND does his own dishes when he is done. DH barely puts dishes in the sink and rarely rinses them even though I have talked to him about it so many times- Even had reminder notes over the sink. First one was nice "Please Rinse YOUR Dish", second one was "Rinse YOUR damn Dish"
. He and his girlfriend cook together once in a while. They will be doing more of that. He is trying to not eat out as much to save money. He will be starting to pay rent soon when he moves into MIL's house. (No, he doesn't pay anything to live at home right now)
Going to skip walking the wetlands today- raining off and on and will be for the next week plus my hips are not happy.
I have been walking at least 7 miles almost every day for the past 3 weeks. Only did less than 5 I think twice and I was close to it.
I may walk the dog this evening but depends on the weather. May just let him out in the back yard or just around the block.
Making chicken enchiladas for dinner tonight- simple and everyone likes them. Just need to pick up sour cream to put on top. Adding corn and green chilies to the chicken and cheese in the filling.
I use cottage cheese that has been frozen inside- when it defrosts, the consistency is like ricotta- just cheaper and lower fat.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
I bought some Fage'0% yogurt and the taste is pretty darn close to sour cream. No guilt in putting it on a taco, or using it as a chip with chips. Its got a drier consistency, and once you remove the parchment paper that's on top, you can use it like sour cream. Now being a yogurt you can't cook with it. It will curdle.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Rebecca - I am so grateful for Corey's presence in my life, and was lucky enough to marry two men who were slow to anger and knew the value of work. I could not survive married to someone as volatile as I am. The first marriage, though, I felt like I was in it alone. Corey and I fit together like two interlaced hands... good while apart, great together. It's the true partnership we were both seeking. And gratitude is so tame for what I feel about this man! I am absurdly fortunate.
Awesome! Today I was organizing my bookshelves and saw a new paper just sitting there. It was the exact place where a pile once was for stuff I wanted to send to youngest son, but don't have an address yet. Well actually it was a newspaper holding a little figurine husband had painted and it was drying. Husband came down asking where the newspaper was. I said the one I thought we had saved for son to read? He's like, "no the one with a small figure drying on it". He kind of huffed, and I said the paper I put in my trash here, because I thought we didn't need to send him it. I only put paper and little things cut, so at least no liquid items. I looked thru the trash nothing, it had fell on the carpet. I was calm, he was calm but annoyed. I explained, said I was sorry and that was that. I told him it was an honest mistake. Maybe he needs to tell me when he puts a random newspaper on the bookshelf counter.😁🙄💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 47min 22sec, 12406steps, 43elev, 2.86ap, 79ahr, 94ahr, 5.26mi= 492c
Strava app= 638c
Stairclimber- 30min, 128ahr, 149mhr, 1225steps, 8mets, 202aw, speed 7, 126floors= 265c
Total cal 757
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dlfk202000 wrote: »mcmillonmail wrote: »Tracey, I know each of you could do my job because you all have big hearts. Tracey and Heather, I don't think Rodger can do anything right now because it sounds like he is experiencing Major Depression. If this is true, it can be debilitating. All he can do is exist. He needs medical help. Tracey, you are like me. If I am working hard, I expect my mate to work hard. What you described reminds me of patients that I saw in the VA when I was in school. I remember when I was depressed but had to work because I had mouths to feed.
Okay, everyone. Stay safe, get healthy, and have a wonderful weekend. I'll be back tomorrow.
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
I blame myself and my MIL for dh's lack of help around the house. When he was growing up, she wouldn't let him or his brother do any household chores. When he started dating me(he was 28 and still living at home) he started bringing his laundry to my house to do- she would go in his room and do it before he came back from work. She never taught them to cook anything. The older brother died at 49yrs old, still living at home and her doing every single thing for him-waiting on him hand and foot- jumping when he was missing the soy sauce or a spoon.
When we got married, I was used to doing all the household chores by myself(did this when I was married the first time-just the way I was raised, like mom did things).
The first year we were married, he was working full time and I wasn't working at all yet(had closed down my daycare when I moved here. So, I felt it was my job to do all the housework. Still felt that way when I started working part time. Once I was working full time, it was here in the house doing daycare again so beings I was in the house all day so I continued it, even when I had the daycare kids 11 hrs a day with the newborn triplets. He also never helped with our son when he was little(that is why son is super close to me and not at all with his dad).
I know, I should have spoken up a long time ago.
Married almost 33 yrs and I am still the one that does all the cooking/dishes/laundry plus feeding all the cats. He does the litter boxes more than I do but I do them too.
The one chore he used to do multiple times a day was vacuuming-obsession with it, late at night after I was in bed. He still vacuums around the litter boxes but not in the house as much anymore.
Yard work we both do. I do it because I enjoy it. Mowing our tiny lawn is a huge chore for him.
I still get so frustrated and angry about it almost daily but not enough to speak up most of the time.
I did just speak up- he had said when he and his friend were going out for lunch, they would go take care of the dog at his mom's. Great, one less thing for me to do. This morning he came in after sleeping in and said, "so, are you going to take care of the dog? You can wait until closer to picking up Ezie(daycare girl) and do it both at the same time?"
I said I thought they were going to do it- and he got very pissy- "Sorry I changed my mind and didn't tell you- didn't think it was going to be a big deal- FINE, I will just do it"
Seriously -I am not in the mood for this.
He was in a mood because he had to clean up some mess from the old momma cat because I didn't do it when I got up or the litter boxes. I was having my tea first.
Thankfully, I will be at mom's next weekend- just for two days. Need to be home to take him to the oral surgeon at 7AM on Monday-failed root canal that is constantly infected and has been for 2 yrs- finally going to take care of it.
The following weekend, he will be away doing a show for the whole weekend. SO looking forward to that.
Ok, Rant is over. Going to have my tea and catch up on a few things online- a bit behind and it is the end of the month- woops.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
Nope, wouldn’t happen with me, nope
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Carla: So so sorry for your loss, condolences to the family.
tempis fugit amor manet
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It's time to get ready for February. Here is the link to the new thread.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10932290/women-ages-50-for-february-2025/p1?new=11
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