WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2025

Happy Birthday Kylia!



RVRita

Happy Monday.....

So Saturday took an interesting turn.....On Friday, Sister-in-law mentioned workers coming to her house Tuesday afternoon. I reminded her that I am leaving at 330. She snottily said she knew. So I didn't also remind her that I would be in Columbus on Wednesday for training (she is usually off). After all it is on the calendar and I have reminded her a couple of times. Well, on Saturday, she kept talking about having the baby on Wednesday. I asked if she was bringing her to the shop? She got pissy when I asked that. I reminded her that I wouldn't be there. She said, no your training is on Thursday. Anyways....she expected me to change the date like I had choices. This is the only class close by. Yes, I could do it on line, but those were both Wednesdays too. Can't do at work as too many interruptions. It is her ex husband's son's girlfriend's little girl. Just grrr....sil did get care taken care of so is now off on Thursday. ....
Really didn't want to go to dinner after all of that....but I managed to pull up my big girl panties, dress up, and had a wonderful time at dinner in spite of awful service. I did get my 15 min house walk done in the morning. Helped DH with project in evening.

Yesterday, I started with 30 min house walk. I then let kittens outside and got in hot tub. Kittens got curious....Cali stood on the step with her front legs in the water to her shoulders before running off. Tory kept tempting fate reaching in from the edge. Well......Tory swims really well! Lol! She didn't panic when she fell in, just swam to otherside and jumped out. I think she was a little shocked! After that I got ready to run a couple of errands. I tried on two pairs of jeans......the third pair with old, but comfy shirt and a hug from DH and I quit crying. Seriously! I am doing what I need to do. I know I am doing something better for my health. I know this isn't fast or easy. My calendar says to love myself as I love others......
After that drama, I braved Costco with lots of patience and plenty of smiles. I avoid it on weekends, but needed before Thursday. After that went to Sephora/Kohls. Needed new cleanser/moisturizer, primer, foundation, and mascara. The new cleanser/moisturizer as I thought I had a reaction to my old stuffs. The specialist recommended I see a dermatologist as she is pretty sure it is rosecea. She too suffers from it. My cheeks look like I have blush on or am sunburned. At least they don't hurt today. After all that fun went to grocery! Man....nothing like piling things in one day! Was cloudy and chilly, but not hateful. After putting foods away, helped DH with a couple projects. Then he wanted pizza and we needed to pick up his prescription. So we took the Bronco out, picked up prescription, had a beer while waiting for pizza, brought pizza home for dinner. Then back to DH projects. Finally got meats separated and vacuum sealed and fruits portioned out around 10 pm. Long day! But I listened and subscribed to Lisa's videos while walking, I got errands out of the way, and got 10k steps!

Lisa "Want Less" spoke to me. After years of struggling to make ends meet, always wanting, and diligently tracking, I still came into this relationship with debt. It took me 20 years to finally get out of that mess. Had wanted to be debt free when we got married, got close, but then bought a new car. Ot is funny how now that I CAN afford to go shopping, I hate going shopping! It is nice to be able to afford the things I do want though!

Thank you for the birthday wishes. For today, it is work, DH doctor appt, and ending evening with massage. DYD asked if any special plans. I told her no, just a grateful day. I have an already busy week after a busy week. Tomorrow night is theater in Cincinnati. Wednesday is training in Columbus. Thursday is dentist,work, and hair colorist. Sunday evening is theater here in Dayton. Then I think I have a calm week.

Healing thoughts!
Hugs held extra long!
Grateful to feel all of your support as I continue my journey to end a bad habit and continue to work on good habits.

Love
🥰
Kylia in Ohio Thankful to have completed 62 years on this planet in relatively good shape.

The end of John's walk today.


Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Happy birthday Kylia!

Allie- hope you get extra sleep tonight

Show went well yesterday- dh was very skeptical, as always, saying he didn't think we would make even $200 and that none of his Godzilla stuff would sell- He was wrong!! Sales were not great but just over double what we had hoped to get and he sold quite a few of his Godzilla things. Sure wish we would sell the one big one- it is heavy and hard to pack. It has lights and sounds(the sound is very annoying when he tests it over and over around midnight when he was making it- I remember yelling to him from the bedroom "Yes, the sound chip works!!"
We met up with friends of his after for dinner at the Chinese place. Food was ok, the guys(4 of them plus me) had a great time visiting.One is a friend from high school, the other is one we met through that friend who now goes on any trip we take-he is like dh's BFF.
Got back to take care of the dog at 9PM so no walk for him- just let him out in the back yard. I will walk him today if it isn't raining too hard. At least around the block.
Cats were starving by the time they ate at 9:30 or so. They had dry food but were waiting for their real dinner.

Heading up to the VA after we take care of the dog(after dh gets out of the shower) to hopefully get some paperwork started to get MIL some help paying for her care home. VA is the only possible help for her, she doesn't qualify for anything else, at least that is what dh says. Any help he can get will help pay for her care for longer.

Zumba starts back tonight. Will be nice to see everyone. Hope I remember the routines. At least I will be moving, even if they are the wrong steps

Still raining off and on and will for the next few days I think- I am ok with it- don't need to water my garden now.


Debbie
Napa Valley,CA

Just checking in I am not sure where time is going.
Carla--Sory for your loss. Sending prayers.
Enjoyed seeing all the pictures. I have been overweight my whole life. At my highest I was 402 pounds. Last 10 years have been 260-270. I would like to lose 100 more and slowly working on it again. DH and I weigh each Tuesday morning and I track it.
I am one that also angry cry. Seems the only time I do.
I am just at the start of this month reading, so will work on catching up.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

Drove up to Fairfield to go to the VA- just to find that they don't have walk in appointments on Mondays.
Walk ins are T,W,TH. The next available appointment is 4/27.
We drove up because he said they are not good at actually answering the phones to set up appointments.
He said he might try to do walk in one day but a coworker said walk ins are crazy. I hope he at least tries. The soon the paperwork is started, the sooner he can get a little assistance for his mom's care.

barbiecat wrote: »

Yippee. The car is in my name. I had all the right papers. I told both workers at the Department of Licensing how kind, helpful, and patient they had been. The whole thing was so scary for me and they helped me navigate it.

Happy Birthday Kylia

Rebecca I feel your sister's pain. I can do only a few emotional activities in a day before turning on the TV and riding my exercise bike.

Barbie in NW WA 💖 🌞🌻

You listen to your heart, head and body. Being that my sister is living in her husband's childhood home, its seeped in his families history and him. No escaping. I always tell her that home will keep her active, but might also be the death of her. I am constantly telling her that I refuse to put on her tombstone, "she weeded well"!! She forgets to eat, forgets to stay hydrated, goes out to her back acreage to turn of the sprinklers at night, all these things drive me crazy but she is a go getter. Her kids have installed a ring camera in the front, and she has a watch deal that if she falls the watch detects it and asks her if she's ok and will call 911 if she doesn't answer. That's at least something.
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa

Hello, my tribe! Like Kylia, I identify you all as my tribe. I trust all of you more than some of my family.

I wanted to clarify something. Tracey, I could be wrong about your DH. It just appears that he is depressed. It may be something else. I do have to say that women are the strongest and are the nuts and bolts of a good home. I have seen some exceptions. Namely, my mother, who left us when I was nine, to figure life out without her constant guidance. Today, DH called me and asked me if I could send money to Julia for her possible yeast infection and COVID issue. Now Julia has lied so much about needing money for medical reasons that it is hard to believe her. Also, it has been an unspoken rule that after Julia broke her contract with me, DH would handle her needs. I had to purchase a new Apple computer for DS. Then, I was billed $174.00 for DS's storage fees when he left for the holidays. I bought airline tickets and did Christmas for both DS and DD. DH made more money than I did last year, yet he didn't buy any gifts and was disappointed that I didn't get his mother anything. So, I said no. Julia needs to get her life together. He can continue to enable her, but I will not be a part of it. I told her that if she didn't go to college or do anything toward her future, she would be on her own, and I meant it.

Before I ask for your advice, I want to thank Barbie.

Barbie, thank you for bringing us this month. I was amid my work stretch and forgot it was a new month. I was catching up in January for a while and saw the link. I am bookmarked and ready to go.

Happy Birthday, Sue! I hope you enjoyed every crumb of your pie.

Machka, I love your posts; they are so insightful and genuine.

Debbie, you must take it up and spell out what he needs to share in the workload with DH. Since DS is moving to your MIL's house, will he also take over the dog duties? I have to put DH in his place, too, but he never admits he was wrong. He acknowledges that he has trouble with that because he feels right. I get so frustrated sometimes. Reading your post, I was frustrated that your DH didn't care for the dog.

Michelle, I wish I was in Florida again; sometimes, one week is not enough. We have so many NATs lately that it isn't funny (NAT- Non-accidental trauma). The worst one happened a few years back when a 6-week-old had a black eye, bruised ribs, and fractured skull. The mom said she heard a meow on the monitor, so the cat must have beaten her baby. I told my co-workers that if cats were going around beating up on people like that, I would stay inside. Shame on them for blaming the cat. The police didn't buy it, and they were arrested and the baby had an alias name so she could be safe. I hate when the system fails and continues to put the children in danger by sending them home. Then you find out later they died from continuous malnutrition, being abused to death, or being left in a car. It is terrible.

Did you hear about the NICU nurse who was breaking the baby's bones? I truly hope her hell begins in jail. Nancy Grace was ticked off about the abuse on her show. I heard about it at work.

Allie, Wow, you are doing fantastic! Delia seems to love spending time with Grandma.

Lisa, Congrats on your exercise streak.

Heidi, I am sorry. I thought Margaret posted the I sculpture pictures. I thought they were terrific.

Rebecca, you saw some exciting places. I am glad they are giving your son a break to help with his Crohn's.

Barbara, Baby Suko is my bestie. I gave her that nickname in grade school. Her real name is Linette, but she is the family's baby, and her middle name is Itsuko( she is Japanese Hawaiian). Everyone in my family, including my dad, called her Baby Suko. So it stuck, but DH calls her Linette.

I have grabbed so much that I will ask for advice tomorrow. My head is hurting, so I need to make some tea. You all have a fantastic night. I missed you all this weekend. Take care.
Tight hugs to you all.
Sincerely,
Mo in Mississippi

Flea - I wish everyone would just calm down and be kind. I feel like we are moving backwards in time it makes me sad. It’s such an angry time and it’s getting worse instead of better.

Machka - what is the Australian way of making grilled cheese compared to Canada’s?
We have hamburgers and pasta almost weekly as well. Ours aren’t as healthy as yours.

Beth - sorry your Mom had a fall. It’s a common problem, the residents doing things they aren’t supposed to.

Kylia - Happy birthday!
Today is my eldest daughter’s 36th.

Barbara - I was surprised to learn how much history talked about “On the Basis of Sex” I was alive for as well.

My crafting day:
It is bitterly cold here. Supposed to have a couple more days of it.
Tracey in Edmonton

Happy birthday Kylia!

Missed yoga today due to electrical inspector coming. Seems the heating company that installed the furnace requested the wrong permit. Now it has to be inspected again.

Could do without the cold and snow here but glad there is snow in the mountains. Planning to go to Leavenworth for a horsedrawn sleigh ride on Thursday.

Everyone take care, Sue in WA

Scottish macaroni and cheese ...

In Canada & Australia, the macaroni and cheese I have had usually comes out of a box. Kraft mac & cheese or similar which I will often have with soya sauce. My husband and I often add steamed veggies too. My mother had a version where she mixed elbow macaroni with tomato sauce and topped with sliced cheese which she grilled brown.

Those are OK ... better than many meal options.

However ... I would go back to Scotland just for the macaroni and cheese!!

Here's the recipe from one Scottish restaurant:
https://foodanddrink.scotsman.com/recipes/recipe-sloans-legendary-macaroni-cheese/

It's served like this:


Or like this:




Here's another recipe:
https://glasgowdiet.com/2020/10/30/ultimate-macaroni-cheese/

I'm not into the bacon, but this is another similar sort of recipe:
https://www.documentingmydinner.com/2017/07/30/ultimate-mac-cheese/

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Canadian Grilled Cheese ... compared with Australian Grilled Cheese ...

For Australian Grilled Cheese, you make a cheese sandwich, then open the griller, put in the sandwich, let it grill on one side, flip and let it grill on the other side. Basically a toasted cheese sandwich. For me ... it isn't quite right.

For Canadian Grilled Cheese, you get a frying pan out and heated up, while it's heating, you butter two slices of bread very well, and slice some cheese. Then put one piece of bread in the frying pan, butter side down and quickly lay on the slices of cheese. You could add mustard or a meat spread or tomato slices. Then pop the other piece of bread on top, butter side up. Let it sizzle ... then flip, and sizzle.


Machka in Oz