LESS Alcohol ~ July 2025 ~ One Day at A Time
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@LittleSurferGirl7 @NonnieDoiron ( I appreciate the ear and I believe everyone's journey is different, I can only imagine what you went through), @chicbuc @globalhiker (they didn't recommend a partial…the size of the mass is 10cm, they felt to get 10cm and surrounding tissue, the entire breast was the best option. Granted, this is where 2nd opinions could come into play but not sure I want to put my sister through it all. She did say it would be outpatient. @Michieb125
Thank you all for your kind, supportive thoughts and prayers. It really is appreciated and it really does help. After a very stressful day, it all came crashing down. I went to bed at 8:30 last night and slept a pretty good portion of the night. Today was the MRI for me….the contrast dye made me nauseous, but I had to deal with it to not have to repeat the entire test over again. It will be a few days before I get results…
@chicbuc, @NonnieDoiron ~ loving your successes and the checkmarks!! and HYS isn't doing too bad either!! :) I'm going to work really hard to get out of my emotions today. I went into work after my appointment and I get my nails done afterwork so it will be late (7ish) when I get home. Dinner is already planned so I'm going to try to not have that pour!
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Been doing many circle walks in the campground loop while watching my DGD on her razor. Also took a wonderful walk this morning down to the lake front. Paused to notice the sun glistening across the water below the clear blue skies - oh I love summer. We decided to stay an extra night so will head home on Friday.
Funny story……Yesterday I ran over to a Raleys market alone (up where we’re glamping) as it has really nice foods like specialty cheeses and I like to check out the different wine varietals. I picked up some fresh salad stuff and then walked over to the nice bottles of wine on display —- I couldn’t believe the cost! Average cheap wine started at $17.00 and went up to $25 for something decent and then $57.00 00 for a bottle of a “really nice” white wine. I said to myself in my head, “that’s why I buy this one at Costco” lol. Then “I might as well buy a Black box for $17.99 which is on sale from $27.99.”
Needless to say I left without that box! Back in the day before LA I was known to bring one on a short camp trip and just refill my glass often. Grateful I’m part of the mindful drinking community now (for the last 2 years and 5 months).
This weeks target is a bit of a reach - 4 no wine days and 7-10 glasses measured.
July goal: 12 AF daysCurrent:
AF - 3
A - 4
LA - 2
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@Michieb125 I'm grateful to have found this community as well…Happy Glamping, enjoy the journey!
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@BurnMode05 I think we're all a work in progress and, as you pointed out, awareness of our habits and what we want to achieve is why we keep going on this journey.
Two vacations in one month 😮 I'm a bit jealous!@itladyee I think non-invasive stage 0 is the best thing you can hear after the word cancer. Still, I'm sorry you and your sister have to go through all of this.
I get that your brain keeps thinking about your own future (on top of your sister's) given your family history, but it might help relieve some stress to focus on all of the positive (good mamms, negative biopsies, etc. in the past). We can't control everything that happens to and in our bodies, but we can control what we put into them. Maybe try to work on your own health as much as you can until the 15th rolls around.
I'm keeping you and your sister in my thoughts and I hope 7/15 comes quickly for you. Hugs 🧡@NonnieDoiron I'm sorry to hear you had to go through such trauma. I've never been a parent, so I can't imagine the pain and fear that one goes through on a continuous basis when they hear their child has cancer, and then has to go through all of the "stuff" that happens after that moment. But you and your son got through it, and you're handling it now by being here with us and working on your LA journey. And, as @chicbuc wrote, "You're doing great this month!"
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@chicbuc Doesn't it feel great when me make such a healthy decision and barely have to think about it!
I have days when I struggle to fight cravings for an hour or more and end up caving in and going to the store. Other days (like that last 3 in a row) I barely think about wine and, when I do, the thoughts are basically "Hmm, I'm not even thinking about buying some wine, I wonder why that is?" I still haven't given myself an answer to that question, but I'm glad I'm having more and more days with it.@globalhiker Yikes, a spinal fusion does not sound fun. I hope the procedure gets done quickly and as painlessly as possible, and will keep you and your husband in my thoughts. I know that you already know this, but a prosecco of any temperature or size is not going to change the situation, or relieve your bonkers state. Happy to hear you pulled yourself back to reality. 💕 hugs
@Michieb125 Sounds like you're having a great time glamping - unplanned extra nights anywhere are always such a special treat to ourselves and our loved ones.
I'm always amazed at your LA goals and how you're able to follow or adjust as needed (I have more of an all-or-nothing mindset, LOL).
I'm also very grateful that I found this space to share, vent or just report/track.3 -
July stats
AF 6
LA 1
A 2
I hope to catch up on the chat soon. All the best.4 -
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3 LA
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@itlaydee your sister’s diagnosis is not nearly as bad as I was expecting. Stage 0 is a good stage, all things considered. So glad they caught it early, and that she understood what is involved. But you still have a road ahead of you.
Meanwhile, sorry to hear the MRI contrast stuff made you queasy. Hope you feel better now.
Thinking of you both.
@NonnieDoiron I can only imagine what you went through with your son going through all those treatments. So glad he came through and has remained cancer free.@globalhiker hope the surgery gets scheduled soon, I hate the thought of your hubby being in so much pain. The fusion should make him feel so much better.
Only half a glass of wine tonight. I did better this past weekend on the boat… until Sunday. Time to reset.3 -
I went to my eye doctor appt yesterday. When my condition first started, about a year and a half ago, I saw an optometrist. She had an ophthalmologist (in the office) come in to verify what she was diagnosing. It seems that I had had a hemorrhage in the back of my right eye. At the time, my vision in my left eye was 20/20. But, she said, she wasn't going to give me a prescription at that time and referred me to a retinol specialist.
Anyways, my vision is actually slightly worse than 5 months ago (I was supposed to see him sooner, but I rescheduled) . Before seeing the doctor, the technician brought me back and did all the tests. I asked the technician what my vision was and he said that my left eye is 20/25 and my right eye (the bad one) is 20/50. So, not so good.
I caved again today. My husband had an appt at the VA hospital at 3:30. I had some work to do in the yard and I thought that I better get something before he leaves and takes the car. We have an old truck that I bought brand new 43 years ago (it still runs great). But, I don't like driving it lately because it's a manual transmission and the clutch is very heavy duty.
I wanted you all to know that there's been some pretty heavy situations being discussed lately. And I just wanted everybody to know that I'm not real good with words. Sometimes I don't know what to say. So, if I don't say anything, just know that I'm still thinking of you all.
Have a great night everyone!
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AF-7Last night was rough. My corporate office is based out of Houston, and I’m on the east coast. I typically work from 6:30 or 7:00 to 3:30 or 4:00, and the VP I work for on the contract knows this. I will answer my phone for her until 5:00, but typically the conversation ends with, “I’ll take care of it in the morning.”
Yesterday, I was seconds away from shutting everything down when she called on Teams. Then, I had to set up an immediate call with our client, and then she roped me into a 4:30 meeting that was completely asinine and a waste of time. I saw what the problem was in the first 3 seconds, called it out, knew what the fix was, and the meeting kept going. Our client apparently feels the need to validate his title and breaks everything down to the most granular level and often sounds like a 5 year old in meetings trying to understand. He also doesn’t seem to fully understand his job, so we end up having to explain what he should be doing. Then, he has the worst habits a person can have when you’re on Teams calls, he stammers, only listens to respond, and talks over people without understanding what they are saying. So, his Teams call was not great way to end my day.
To top it off, my husband is working a handyman job and his partner didn’t show up yesterday. So he was in a foul mood all day and kept yelling at my son who was trying to help him, but due to autism wasn’t fully understanding what needed to be done. I could hear him while I was working yelling at him from our shop where they were stripping cabinet doors. I hate when he does that. I was planning to say something to him last night, but he was in such a bad mood and tired he went to bed early.
Anyway, I didn’t drink as much as I wanted to go buy a bottle, I didn’t. Tomorrow may be magic day, so I’m waiting.😉
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@NonnieDoiron ugh what a day! The pointless meetings that can be handled in 3 minutes and drag on for half an hour. Time to re-read the old Dilbert comics for some commiseration! Hope your discussion with your husband goes well, it’s never cool to be harsh with your kids.
@LittleSurferGirl7 what is the treatment for the retina? Did the hemorrhage get re-absorbed or is it still there messing with your retina? Sorry to hear it wasn’t better news.2 -
I just had a long post typed out on my tablet and managed to delete it…blah. Love to all
AF=9
A=0
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@Womona I guess I should have had you go to the appt with me because I have no idea what is going on with my eye. I should have asked the doctor the questions that you asked me. But, he seemed in a hurry. And, to be honest, I just wanted to get out of there.
When I first started seeing him, he would say out loud what he was seeing in the pictures (in technical terms). I thought he was talking to me, but I guess he was talking to the gal in the room on the computer transcribing the notes.
I imagine the blood was re-absorbed because I no longer have floaters. But I don't think there's any treatment. He told me to look in this little scope thing with lines and if the lines got more wavy, to call him. The only thing that I learned was my vision numbers because I asked the technician. They've never told me before. So it was kind of a wasted appt.
Oh well…I'm hoping it improves on it's own. I think if I quit drinking things might improve. But, unfortunately, that won't be happening today. I'm a bit hungover and I'm waiting for the liquor store to open. I will get there soon.
I was wondering if everyone tells their doctors that they drink or not. A lot of the time, I will quit for a week or so before my appt and then when I'm filling out the pre-registration on the computer, when I'm asked about my drinking, I'll check "None" because at the time I am not drinking. I should probably check "Occasionally", but then there may be a discussion that I prefer to avoid. I'm just wondering what others do.
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@LittleSurferGirl7 Having worked for an ophthalmologist and an optometrist, I just wanted to say that your vision is actually pretty good in your good eye and not terrible in your "bad" eye. If you're diabetic make sure you have your blood sugar well controlled and that will help. Try not to fret, and take care of yourself.
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@chicbuc Thank you for the information. It's reassuring to know that my bad eye is not "terrible". When I first saw the optometrist and ophthalmologist (in the same office), they explained everything to me (what they were doing and what they were seeing). This doctor just doesn't seem to explain anything to me. Fortunately, I'm not diabetic.
BTW…you're doing great with your streak. Keep it up! I will be back on board again soon. This time after I get a day or two AF, I'm going to keep going and I'm not looking back. My goal is to go 30, 60, 90 days AF. After that, I'm hoping that I won't want it anymore.
Thanks again! You're always so helpful!
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I haven't done well this year at all, as far as AF days go. I was looking back at my calendar and I had 8 AF days in January, 4 AF days in Feb, 2 AF days in Mar, 0 AF days in Apr and May, and 2 AF days in June. I really need to light a fire under my butt!
I keep a couple of years of my old calendars. When I have an AF day, I write a "1" circled in red in the upper right corner of the day. If the next day is AF, I write a "2" circled in red, etc. If I drink, I start back at "1". Anyways, in 2024, I had a 21-day streak in August. I also had 21 AF days in April. And, the other months have quite a few red circled numbers on them. So I need to improve and start marking up my calendar with red circled numbers again!!! I can do it!
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@LittleSurferGirl7 I’m normally honest about my drinking on the doctor’s forms. Honestly, my doctors have never said anything to me about it. The only time I’ve had a doctor say anything it was my kids’ pediatrician and she asked me what I drank.🤷🏻♀️
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@NonnieDoiron Thanks! I guess I should have given more background information. I have a prescription for Xanax. And, I'm afraid if I tell him I'm drinking more than I should, he may not refill my prescription. I was prescribed a few years ago after a hospital visit (to be taken at bedtime). I do mainly only take it at night for sleep (and only half of the dosage stated on the bottle).
I know that everyone is going to think, "That's addictive!". But, I took it daily from 1996 to 2003 (due to panic attacks). I moved back to Oregon in 2003 and I had a few refills left. At the time, I didn't have medical insurance or a doctor. So, when I ran out, I ran out. I had no problems at all. I feel like if you take medications as prescribed (and not abuse them), most of the meds aren't as bad as they get labeled. Unfortunately, so many people do abuse prescription drugs that the people that take them as prescribed have to jump through hoops to get their prescriptions filled.
Have a relaxing evening…I know you need it!
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@LittleSurferGirl7, catching up on the posts, first, congratulations on the AF day! It's still early in July, so you may be to add more red circles to your calendar. Like @NonnieDoiron, I try to be honest with my doctors about how much alcohol I drink. I'm on prescription antidepressants, and should avoid alcohol, but my Primary Care Physician has never threatened to discontinue a prescription. I think most doctors will offer a warning, but are pretty realistic about patients "self medicating" with alcohol. Withholding a needed medication to "bribe" someone to stop drinking would be unethical, probably. I don't really know, but that's my two cents.
It seems to me that most of us have something serious going on in life, and being here is a powerful step towards owning our response to our problems with a drink. I think we all recognize how difficult it is to change that.
I'm always inspired and amazed at how courageous the members of this thread are. 💪 Thanks.
July stats
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@LittleSurferGirl7 I can understand the hesitation then.
@nbruns83 I don’t know if it’s unethical to deny a medication because of someone’s drinking because some medications are dangerous when mixed with alcohol.
Now that I think about it, I did have a doctor tell me I had to stop drinking if he put me on a medication once. I don’t remember what it was, maybe an antibiotic. I struggled with it, but I’m pretty sure I managed to not drink while on it.
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AF-8I did talk to my husband this morning about him yelling at our son yesterday while they were working. He said that he realized he was doing it, and he had already apologized to him. And, he apologize again to him this morning. I’m glad he is catching himself.
The magician goes grocery shopping tomorrow. I don’t know if I should be worried or hopeful.🤔 I do have a 6-day streak going.
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@LittleSurferGirl7 - chiming in on what I tell my doctor. 10 years ago, I lied. I said occasionally
Then i thought, if I'm truthful, then i will know what I'm really dealing with and they know what to look for,,,
I started telling them I drink daily, 2 to 3 glasses of wine, although I'm generally better now. I expected cause of alarm but my doctor didn't bat an eye but did suggest cutting back, which I have done.
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@NonnieDoiron 👍 So you do understand!
You're right about some medications being dangerous when mixed with alcohol. Mine being one of them. But, I've never had a problem. I always take the minimal amount of medications to be effective. The only other medication that I take is for blood pressure. And, of course, I take the amount as prescribed.
For quite some time now, I've started researching medications and supplements on the computer. Whether, it's prescription or OTC, you really need to be careful. I always thought that if I can buy it at the drug store, it must be OK. But, that's not always the case. My eye doctor told me not to take steroids or corticosteroids. That family includes Flonase, Cortisone 10, and many, many others. And, many of the supplements that are hyped may be fine for most. But some people that have certain medical conditions may have adverse effects. It could be people with high blood pressure, diabetes, bleeding disorders, heart, liver, kidney conditions…you name it.
Oh! And the thing about antibiotics and alcohol. Mixing them won't kill you. But drinking alcohol makes antibiotics less effective. If you have a serious infection or just had surgery, the antibiotics won't be helping. Not good!
Anyways tomorrow is Friday…will he or won't he? That is the question?
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@nbruns83 Thanks for your input. But, as @NonnieDoiron pointed out there are some medications that can be dangerous when mixed with alcohol. The reason, IMO, is that some people just overdo their meds.
Alcohol isn't the only thing that can interact with prescription meds. My elderly neighbor was taken to the hospital a couple of years ago by ambulance with lights on. It turned out that her doctor had prescribed two meds that reacted with one another. After leaving the hospital, she changed meds and her doctor and afterwards didn't have any problems.
BTW…your July stats are great!
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@itladyee Thanks for chiming in. It's funny because every time I go to see my primary care, I'm always nervous and I always walk out relaxed thinking "That was easy!". He never says anything negative or shines a bright light in my eyes. I don't know what I'm afraid of? It's kind of like being called in to the principal's office in school. I actually was called into the principal's office once in high school. I was so nervous. But, I had no reason to be nervous, I had made the "Principal's Honor Roll". What a relief!
You said, when you finally told your doctor how much you were drinking that he didn't even bat an eye. That's probably how most doctors are. Most people have some sort of vice.
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Hi @SparkSpringtime69 thank you for your kinds words…..it’s true I’m always shifting, making changes, and still forging ahead lol. I am learning this LA journey isn’t All or Nothing for me! You are right, we are all a work in progress (not striving for
perfection).
July goal: 12 AF days
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I love your comment and agree that although life brings challenges and unexpected changes, we have the power to choose our responses @rnbruns83. This pertains to anything we choose to consume. Each and every day - for me, there is freedoms in that! Especially around my relationship with alcohol.
No longer is there only AA where people “admit they are powerless” over alcohol. My dad loved AA for over 40 years then passed at the age of 79, but not of alcohol. Good for him in finding his own path. I like today’s newer trends around mindful drinking that offer plentiful options to quit or cut back for those who are curious. The freedom of choice has made all the difference for me to walk my LA path. I know not everyone may agree and I respect all opinions around what works for each of us - sobriety or less as we are uniquely created individuals. I’m thankful for this LA community.Heading back home today. Take care of yourself today!
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The magician performed his trick, and honestly I’m not mad at it. I’m trying to work today but so disinterested. I could literally turn off my computer and curl up on the couch with a cup of coffee or take a nap… not sure which. (Save the wine for later.)
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@NonnieDoiron Well, I guess I got my answer. The magician still has it 😀
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