WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,359 Member

    I watched a video the other day entitled, 'The most important thing to do when learning a foreign language'. It was, 'make mistakes'. 😀 Yesterday I couldn't remember the French for money! Dinero was firmly stuck in my head. In the end I said 'monnaie', which means small change, but honestly!!! Someone did give me the right word, 'argent'. I think it's called a 'brain f..t'. 🤣

    Rori - Yes, I remember doing that with you too. 😍 In fact, most of the places I've lived in have been like this, a 'village' in the city, with local shops and a sense of community. In London, I lived in Camden Town in the early 70s, Dartmouth Park, near Hampstead Heath, from 1977-1994. It broke my heart to leave, more than the divorce. Tufnell Park was a bit more spread out, but I still enjoyed the local Greek bakery and the Asian corner shop. Of course, these places are very sought after, and are now the preserve of the very well off. Not so when we first bought there. My old house in Dartmouth Park is now worth several million. We had over 300 acres of beautiful parkland at the bottom of our road, with pockets of untouched, ancient forest. I sooooo did not want to leave. I think it was one of the reasons we held on for so long.

    It's the main reason we left our country house. No village centre, no shop. I hated having to get in the car every time I wanted a pint of milk. I did love my yoga though, in the village hall. 😊 And running through the lanes. We managed 8 years there.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,389 Member

    Tracy just told me that Kyle doesn't want me in the house when nobody is home..,

    Allie — I can understand that. I wouldn't want someone in the house when we weren't home. Setting aside what the person might do left alone, I would also be concerned about what could happen. What if the person slipped on our hardwood floors and hurt themselves.

    I feel sorry for the kids in your situation. Kyle is Kyle. Tracy made her choices (and paid a lot of money for a couple of them). But the kids will have deal with the life they've found themselves in.

    Machka - I don’t do so well on ferries either.

    Tracey — I don't mind short ferry rides (usually) like the one between Vancouver and Vancouver Island or the Dover Calais ferry … but I need a lie down on the longer ones.

    When I was a parent I always underplayed academic excellence

    Heather - why would you do that?

    Academic excellence was something my family valued. Between the 4 of us (parents, brother and me), we all completed our compulsory education (K-12) and a total of at least 36 years of post-secondary education.

    My recommendation for the young has always been:

    • Get practical education
    • Get academic education

    Practical:

    Both my husbands got their heavy vehicle licences. I got my Engineering Technology Certificate, Business Administration Diploma and Software Development Certificate. But there are numerous practical options.

    The practical education opens up job opportunities to pay for the academic education and balances/rounds out the academic education. It may also pair nicely with the academic education when entering a career.

    Academic:

    In the past, people could advance through companies/organisations by starting in the mail room and being with the company/organisation for decades. However, I've noticed that these days, if a person wants to advance, the piece of paper saying that academic education has been acquired is desirable.

    Heather academic talent is something to be celebrated just like athletic or musical talent. Sometimes it gets forgotten because there aren't trophies or events. Or it becomes the expected level.

    Annie — agreed wholeheartedly.

    M  according to my Creatine and my kidney function at 59. If I just go by those numbers it is at the beginnings of stage 3a. The problem with kidney disease it is often silent until it is at very late stages.

    Margaret

    My urine Albumin/Creatinine Ratio (ACR) is a little high which indicates microalbuminuria - early detection of declining kidney function. 

    My eGFR is a little low.

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    And the results of a kidney ultrasound I had a few years ago says this:

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    The formal diagnosis is chronic kidney disease, but early … Stage 2, perhaps, although I do have a few of the 3a symptoms.

    https://www.healthline.com/health/ckd-stages

    "People with stage 2 CKD have an estimated glomerular filtration rate (eGFR) between 60 and 89 and ongoing kidney damage for 3 months or more.

    “Kidney damage” can mean many things. This often presents as albuminuria – having a urine albumin-creatinine ratio (uACR) of 30 or more for at least three months. Other examples of kidney damage can include frequent and/or long-lasting urinary tract infections (UTIs)blood in the urine (hematuria)kidney stoneskidney cysts, or abnormal findings during medical imaging (ultrasound, MRI, or CT scan) or urinalysis."

    https://www.kidney.org/kidney-topics/stages-chronic-kidney-disease-ckd

    According to that site, at Stage 2, the recommendations are:

    • Exercise regularly. Remember, it’s okay to start slowly – taking short walks is a great way to begin.

    • Sleeping well is important, too. Try to get enough sleep so you are well-rested.

    • If you are overweight, losing weight through a balanced diet and physical activity can help improve your health in many ways.

    • Find ways to reduce and manage stress in your life.

    And I am supposed to lower my BP, which I have done!! 😁 For years after my husband's accident, my BP was high, but this year, my BP has dropped to normal.

    Stage 2 Diet Recommendations

    https://kitchen.kidneyfund.org/eating-healthy-with-kidney-disease/kidney-disease-stages-1-and-2/

    Stages 3-5 Diet Recommendations

    https://kitchen.kidneyfund.org/eating-healthy-with-kidney-disease/kidney-disease-stages-3-4-5-not-on-dialysis/

    Machka in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,389 Member

    Poirot's flat was for sale in 2016: https://www.countrylife.co.uk/property/poirots-flat-for-sale-82925

    Yes, we watch Poirot, Miss Marple, Midsommer Murders, Father Brown, Death in Paradise, Beyond Paradise, Ludwig, As Time Goes By, Vera, Shaun the Sheep, anything with Mr Bean, Vicar of Dibley and several others from time to time. We get a lot of British shows here on Free to Air.

    Heather, have you read Peter James books?

    French — I learned French throughout school and then I took French courses when I got my Bachelor of Education. I was planning to major in French but then they changed the program and I couldn't. But I got 2 years of French in. I've also attended a couple years of community conversation classes not long after I moved to Australia.

    All that, and I still struggle a bit with French conversation, but I read French fairly well.

    A Chinese girl at work and I are trying to speak French to each other at work. ☺️

    Machka in Oz

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 18,154 Member

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,359 Member

    A postscript. It's a bit like being praised for natural beauty. You did nothing to deserve it, it just is.

    Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 3,576 Member
    edited July 17

    Morning, my dears…

    Slept in! It was just past 7 when I opened my eyes, and woke only twice, for mere seconds, during the night. I know it's weird, but I think I am sleeping better without the Fitbit on my wrist. I was also oddly relieved that I wouldn't know how many steps I walked vacuuming.

    Because, in the end, that's what I did. I walked outside to get the lawn mower out, and turned around and walked right back in. Too hot, too wet, just too uncomfortable. So, instead (and I thought of you, Mo, as the other person here who joins me in the least-loved chore list) I did my most hated chore and did all the floors. Pulled up all the washable rugs and got those washed and then on the line. Used the battery operated smaller vac to vacuum all the edges and corners, then used the big corded vacuum to clean the larger rugs and the carpet, which is only in the bedroom. Then I mopped all the hardwood and tile, as well. And I bleached and scrubbed the bathtub. Woot!

    Then I went to my PT at 1:30, which was not nearly as exhausting as Monday, or painful.

    Thanks for the comments on the pillows! I bought a new, inexpensive bed pillow, cut in half and used that with my stash of fabric to create two sofa-sized pillow forms. Less than a third of the price of one blank pillow form in the craft stores. Prices are unbelievable for so many things…

    And… I need to go back and catch up on my reading! Back in a bit.

    Love,
    Lisa in AR

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,389 Member
    edited July 17

    I'm glad and thankful that my parents recognised the time, effort, energy, dedication, determination my brother and I put into our academic endeavours, even if we both have a reasonable degree of talent. 😊 They've always been very supportive of what we do.

    I have attended all 9 of my graduations (high school + 8 post-secondary graduations) and my parents attended 3 in person and 3 virtually. My parents have attended a few of my brother's graduations too.

    From my perspective, I put in a whole lot of work to do well academically and I am proud of that. 😊 Graduations are a celebration of all that work!

    I'm proud of anyone who puts in the time, effort, energy, dedication, determination to attain certificates, diplomas and degrees.

    I feel the same about people who do well at their chosen profession, sports, arts, etc. etc.

    Machka in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,389 Member
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    One of my favourite quotes.

  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 4,037 Member
    edited July 17

    Rebecca - adorable haircut. It's perfect for you - shows off that natural wave. 😉

    Carol - your son's family will sure miss their pup. What breed/s was it?

    Rori - good job brushing up on your French. I wonder if residents of big cities are normally fluent in several languages so if a person gets brain freeze and switches to another language, like Heather mentioned, if they understand anyhow? Like substituting a French word for lunch with a Spanish word. Luckily there are probably folks who speak some English - add that to the mix, lol.

    Barbara - glad to hear the visitors worked out well. I'm so lucky to live on a private road with houses on large lots but still close enough. We all have the best "mailbox" and "yard" "drive by" conversations, especially in the summer. Getting to know the neighbors builds trust and a feeling of safety - so far. We don't all agree on everything but in the event of a major disaster, we'd all band together.😁

    Lisa - when I heard of the earthquake in the Aleutians yesterday and tsunami warning, I panicked for a second and though of Corey's relatives in Southeast - tho that area didn't seem to be on the watch list. Sounds like the warning was quickly cancelled, thank goodness. You are superwoman, you got a lot done yesterday and still went to PT. So glad it's helping.

    Beth - That new truck sounds great! Ziebart has been around a long time, I remember when I was a kid my dad would would buy used cars down from down south where they didn't salt the roads, bring them to Indiana and get them Ziebarted right away. How did your DH's visit with the doctor go? More surgery for him?

    Debbie - I hope it works out for burying MIL's and brother's ashes on a Saturday. A needed closure there. Sounds like your DH is slowly enjoying getting his life back. He might have PTSD for a while.

    Heather - is Cadiz the first stop? Thank you for posting the itinerary, I am so interested to follow along.

    Mo - Hope the MRI was helpful. I'm with you - meeting someone at a restaurant is ideal. 1.) Don't have to clean the house beforehand. 2.) Don't have to worry about having snacks ready. 3.) When the meal is finished, say goodbye and go your separate ways. This is important because some people stay way too long at my house to suit me, lol. Rosie makes such a racket I have the perfect excuse to not have people come over these days. How do you folks let someone know they've overstayed their welcome?

    Tracey - so happy you like this job and and it's working out so well.

    Michele - haven't heard from you for a day. (I think.) Hope you got over your illness!

    Heading to town this morning to stop at the bank and take care of business then meet M for our monthly lunch. Thought I'd have to make a grocery stop but still have plenty in the fridge to last at least until Sunday.

    Need to hit the shower.

    Lanette😎

    SW WA State

  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 3,576 Member

    Thanks, Beth, that made me feel a little less weird, anyway. 😜 Congrats to your hubby on the new truck. The sticker prices are a little staggering, but if the news is correct, they're going to go way up by next year, so good to get one now.

    Rebecca - Which reminds me, kinda lovin' your new little get-around buggy, too. Looks a lot like my Kicks, only yellow!

    Debbie - Your husband has some rough goodbyes to say all at once, including to your very old kitty, and it must seem like it's all whirling around him at once.

    Heather - Interesting how our cultures affect our outlook:

    The U.S. is in the throes of dealing with a massive cohort of young people who were taught the only way to wealth and security was to get a university degree. What we call "trade schools," which aren't as advanced in the STEM areas as your "polytechnical" schools, are hands-on training to get certificates in everything from medical transcription to nursing to mechanical to plumbing to heating/air conditioning to styling hair.

    They have always been looked down on.

    There was some odd sense that those people who went to them couldn't make it in a "professional" degree like medicine or anything leading to advanced education, like law or medicine. And now, a good plumber makes significantly more on an hourly basis than a university professor. A specialized mechanic, say for BMW or one of the high-dollar vehicles, can make well over six figures a year.

    But now, the US is scrambling for tradespeople, and on average, only one in three degreed people are working in the field where they got their degree. A significant number of people with degrees are working in jobs that don't require a degree at all!

    I don't think I have an opinion on rewarding a child for academic excellence, though. From my earliest moments, it was understood that I would excel academically, so I did. I was shamed, in fact, if I didn't excel. But my baby sister got a lot of praise for simply passing her classes at all! She thought I was a little dim, and I thought she was, and it turns out, neither of us were! 😍

    Allie - if I don't drop back in before you go, hope you enjoy your trip!

    Mo - If we do sell the house, it will be four to six years from now, and it's possible we won't. Apparently, my husband and I need a five-year plan. Because we're that kind of people. I'm going to have to get a lot healthier between now and any possibility of going full-time RV life. I need to get healthier anyway, so there's that.

    Anyway… I went outside and Corey happened to call while I was out there. I got sweaty just walking down to the mailbox. We agreed he'll do the ground-work, like the push mower and trimming, this weekend, and I'll get on the big zero turn and do that, which is actually pretty pleasant, even when it's hot, as you create your own breeze! OK, maybe that's just me. 🤣 But for now, I'm staying inside. Got a couple projects I'm working on, and that will keep me occupied… Just finished my full set of PT exercises, time to relax for a bit.

    Later, my babies,
    Love,
    Lisa in wet and steamy (and not in a good way!) Arkansas

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,691 Member

    Here are a few sites with Kidney information and diet. These are all ".org" sites which are more valid than the .com. I hope this helps someone. I've been to all these sites and they pretty much say the same things. This is the same info my Renal doctor gave me to review.

    Kidney-friendly eating plan - American Kidney Fund
    STAGES Nutrition and *Not on Dialysis Chronic Kidney Disease
    Stage 3 Kidney Disease Diet | CKD Healthcare
    The Best Foods for Kidney Health
    Diabetes and Kidney Disease: What to Eat? | Diabetes
    Diet For Chronic Kidney Disease Stage 3 | CKD …
    Kidney diet (renal diet) - Mayo Clinic

    These are some of the same sites Machka listed. My eGFR last blood work was 54 which is stage 3A CKD.

    Spanish/French I grew up in a Canadian French speaking family and went to a private Catholic school that had French as a required language. I then went on to High School and took French for 4 more years. I can still read French very well but have no one to speak to so lost most of it. I took 1 year of Spanish in College and have been using Duolingo. When I work in the pay both, many cars have non-English speaking Hispanics. I have learned a good deal of local Mexican Spanish to get by. If they speak too fast, I ask "despacio por favor" to get them to slow down. And like Heather and Mo, sometimes the French just comes out when I draw a blank for the Spanish! I do/did find Spanish pretty easy for me as it is close to French in a lot of ways.

    Lisa, I really love your pillows! I may borrow the gist of the colors! LOL

    Thought for Today:

    Did you hear about that new Lego store that just opened up?

    People are lined up for blocks…

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    RVRita in Roswell

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,691 Member

    Found this and though it was a good chart and easy to understand:

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    RVRita in Roswell

  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 2,028 Member

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,573 Member

    Afternoon ladies

    Got up early for my shrink appointment, he was very nice.. and prescribed me Welbutrin on top of the Sertraliene(sp) im taking.getting down to the wire as I leave tomorrow early am.

    Was going to stop and see kids ,but Kyle came home early..so thats out..told Tracy gave her my flight numbers and told her to go on Flight aware and Miles can track my trip,might keep him occupied

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    Miles crashed out after a car ride

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    And miss Delia chowing down on corn fritters

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,359 Member

    Lisa - this was way back in the late 60s. We have the same problems now with graduates. AI is going to take over so many jobs. Much better to be a tradesperson, doing something useful. My step daughter works in the publishing industry, which is in shreds. She is still hanging on, but so many have been Ai'd out of existence. She is doing the work that used to be done by six or more people. I see more and more that tenacity, determination, and people skills, are the new golden ticket. Of course, those traits are not distributed evenly either!

    Yes, Machka, I've read all the Peter James books and watched all the TV series. The series is a disgrace, woefully miscast, and I only watch it for glimpses of my home town. The books started off well, but soon became repetitive and annoying. And completely over the top. I did learn not to take my mobile phone with me when I'm committing a crime, even if it's switched off.

    Lanette - Cadiz is the last stop. We were scheduled to go there on a previous cruise, and had excitedly booked our excursion, but we had to cancel the cruise with 4 days to go. Italy, a big part of the cruise, had decided, at the last minute, not to let cruise ships in because of a covid surge. For me, that negated the main object of the holiday, with Pompeii on the menu, and Sicily. So we withdrew from the cruise and got all our money back. I was very sorry about Cadiz.

    LLove to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 18,154 Member

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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 3,576 Member

    Hey, guys,

    So… I broke down and got a truly new glasses style. I've been wearing the type with the dark frames on the left for a LONG time, pretty much ever since I started wearing glasses all the time 15 years ago or so.

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    I honestly don't know which ones I like the look of better - but I wanted to open up my field of vision, and it did, quite a bit, especially when looking down. Egg will probably appreciate that a lot.

    Cor's actually on his way home early, as he just finished up on a repair only 10 minutes away, so it will be nice to have him home early.

    I did nothing today of note or that could remotely be described as productive. Kinda proud of that. Perhaps someday I'll figure out how to be retired? I dunno. 🤣😜🐈‍⬛

    I need to act more like my cat, I think. Just progress from one nap to another and let people feed me and water me.

    Oh, and pet me. That's important! 🐱🤣🐱

    Later, my darlin' peoples…

    And much love from scorching hot Arkansas, where the "feels-like" temperature is up to 104, and will be even higher tomorrow.

    Lisa

  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 3,576 Member

    Heather - Well done to Edie! Woot! Not always easy to play the villain, either…