she said 'YOU DON'T NEED TO EAT THAT'

losing 20lbs is GREAT, but I do think you should have planned the trip better for healthy snacks. It's good to lose weight, but doing it the right way with eating through out the day is best. You can't deprive your body of what it needs. Your friend was wrong to blurt that out the way she did, but if you didn't express your feelings about it right then in there, it's best to let it go, but explain you'd like encouragement rather than judgement. Best of luck to you!

Say "you don't need to eat those either but you've been stuffing your face with them all day".

Exactly, cuz they aren't healthy for ANY ONE~!

As we lose weight and start to feel better, do more, etc.....our friends all have their own reaction - stemming from their insecurities and confidence and heart. She may be one to let go. You don't need someone who's gonna say things that make you feel bad - we need supportive friends. she may be trying to be supportive and just not have realized how it came across....give the hurt time to subside and see how you feel. No need to act right this moment.

There is the possibility that she was just trying to be helpful... tone of voice and facial expression as well as how she behaves to you overall make a big difference. Only you can evaluate that. Before you just decide you're being oversensitive, consider whether she's really intending to put you down or if she's just showing what she thinks is tough love.

Sad as it is, there ARE pathetic people out there who are so insecure that they will use humiliation and backhanded compliments to keep you down so that you won't end up skinnier or prettier than them, or whatever it is they're jealous about. I had this one "friend" a few years ago who weighed at least 80 lbs more than me, and she would constantly talk about how fat I was and how I wouldn't ever find a boyfriend because of it, blah, blah. My advice if she is like that... GET AWAY FROM THERE!!! It will only get worse, especially as you start looking even better.

If she is really a friend, you could talk to her about this and tell her that sort of thing is belitting and not ok with you. If you don't think you could be open with her about that or that you would not get a reasonable response, then I'd say she's no friend and you're better off without her negativity weighing you down.

Firstly, breathe. ^_^
I know that when I am hungry (and I can only imagine being ravenous after a trek like that!) I tend to be rather...sensitive, shall we say, to ANYTHING other people say to me that even hints of judgement or reprisal.
Now, I am not suggesting you are nearly s crazy as I can be when not fed properly, but perhaps do take into consideration that factor? She certainly did not need to give you sass about it, esp if that was her all day diet, but some people (myself admittedly included) don't always manage to think about how the words coming out of our faces are going to sound to the recipient.
If this is a person you have had a fair history of enjoyable times with, I'd say take the time to (once in a fairly calm state of mind) talk with her and see if she is aware of how frustrating/infuriating her comment was to you.

Don't let one comment ruin your vacation or your fitness quest), it just is not worth it!

Be strong, and know that you are the boss of you, not her, not the freakin' chips, just you!

It's only as big a deal as you let it be.

If someone made a comment like that, I'd leave and go to a bar and get food much tastier than the chips .

Sorry it impacted your vacation

I would have said 'I'm starving and I havent eaten all day, a handful of chips isnt going to hurt me'. That's it.

I totally agree with this!!!!

You sound like you don't want to be friends anymore, so don't.

I am 100 times more fit than this PRUNE.

Right, this comment and the comments you made in the OP make me feel like you have already decided to stop being friends with her. So don't worry about if we approve or disapprove. Just stop being friends with the person. Life is too short to have friends for whom you have obvious contempt.

losing 20lbs is GREAT, but I do think you should have planned the trip better for healthy snacks. It's good to lose weight, but doing it the right way with eating through out the day is best. You can't deprive your body of what it needs. Your friend was wrong to blurt that out the way she did, but if you didn't express your feelings about it right then in there, it's best to let it go, but explain you'd like encouragement rather than judgement. Best of luck to you!

But the whole point is that she had the money to go eat something, but her friend did not, so she was trying not to be selfish and go out and eat a meal by herself, leaving her friend still munching on a bag of potato chips. I don't think her friend saw her point of view, nor did she see her friends point of view. Her friend may have thought that the bag of chips was gonna be the only thing for her to eat the rest of the trip....I dunno, I can see both perspectives.

It is frustrating through to have someone pretty much dictating what you can and cannot have when they shouldn't have an opinion.

ok - it was VACATION! ONE week out of the year when I don't log, try not to gain 50 lbs (didn't gain a pound) but I eat & drink alcohol & enjoy myself.
IF I had wanted a FAT MENTOR, I'd have taken you guys or MY MOM. IT WAS VACATION- SUPPOSED TO BE FUN!
ALSO, I don't think comments like that are in any way helpful. It was rude, uncalled for and hurtful. HOW is that supposed to help? not something I would EVER say to someone, much less a friend - even if I thought it (which I don't) HOW RUDE to imply (or even think) that I deserve junk food others do not. I am somehow MORE worthy of unhealthy food because I wear a size 5 - nevermind that I drink beer all day instead of meals and smoke 3 PACKS OF CIGARETTES A DAY, CAN'T EVEN CLIMB A FLIGHT OF STAIRS.
I am 100 times more fit than this PRUNE.

From what you've implied it was a single off-handed comment. My boyfriend will often says things like that - not because he's being rude but because he knows how torn up I'll be over eating stupidly. I can also say that if I am tired or drained I can be pretty snappy to him (and she may well have been tired). You could have just told her it was hurtful and she could have explained why she said it.

But the way you talk about your 'friend' is incredibly rude which leads me to believe there is some other issue you have with her. One off-handed comment does not cause so much hate to emerge.