MY OLDER SISTER CALLED ME OVERWEIGHT/FAT

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mommacuca
mommacuca Posts: 19 Member
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So I'm up pumping- breastfeeding- and I was excited to come log my excercise because I just weiged in and I lost 3 lbs :) when the thought came to me "ahh who cares I'm fat anyway"-
yesterday my super skinny model esq sister really hurt me and I really want to quit on here and stop trying to lose weight- Im 5'8 231lbs- the last time I was 197-196lbs was when I met my husabnd october of 2009- I just feel so done trying to lose weight, like accepting this is how I am and just not trying I just feel hopeless now - like "how am I going to do this. ugh 31 lbs to go? thats crazy- I dont know- she messed me up

I'm broken
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  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
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    Giving up will really show her! Come on! Love yourself better than that! Who cares what she says! If you are happy the way you are then fine, but if not, pull yourself up and do something about it!!!
  • cmiles23
    cmiles23 Posts: 234 Member
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    THIS ISNT ABOUT YOUR SISTER THIS IS ABOUT YOU, LOSING WEIGHT TAKES DEDICATION AND HARD WORK AND IT CAN BE DONE WITH THE RIGHT FOCUS. WHO CARE WHAT SHE SAID, IT IS EASY FOR HER TO SAY MEAN THINGS BECAUSE SHE HAS NEVER BEEN IN YOUR POSITION. YOU CAN DO THIS, DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!! ALSO GO LOOK UNDER SUCCES STORIES TAB, IF THEY CAN DO IT SO CAN YOU!
  • jennajava
    jennajava Posts: 2,176 Member
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    When you are a victim, you're saying other people are in control of your life. That's BS! Is your sister in control of your life? NO! You can do this. Who cares what she thinks. People who belittle others just do it because they're insecure about something. She's probably jealous of what a great mommy you are. Please don't give up!
  • FireMama_24
    FireMama_24 Posts: 169 Member
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    I know how you feel. Don't worry my sister is a lot skinner then me and ALWAYS says shes fat and look at this fat here (where there is none) I just keep going. It is frustrating trust me but it will catch up with them sooner or later.
  • DWilbanks
    DWilbanks Posts: 420 Member
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    Why would you let someone else dictate how good or bad you feel about yourself? Your sister is her own person, she'll always be the way she is. But you on the other hand control your own destiny. Personally I don't let someone else get in my head like that. For me it would be, I knew how great I felt when I stepped on the scale and saw those 3 pounds gone, and I'd want to keep that feeling instead of anything negative.
  • netchik
    netchik Posts: 587 Member
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    Don't discuss it with her anymore, and you'll surprise her when you're super healthy. There's a great support system here on MFP, but we can't protect you from RL - so remember... "Sticks and Stones"...

    You can do it hon! Show your sister that you can have a killer figure and not be a b1tch about it! It will take a while, but be Soooooo worth it
  • mandyschalk
    mandyschalk Posts: 93 Member
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    You CAN lose it!! Think of how good you will feel once you have! It is hard to heat hurtful things try to turn it into motivation!!
  • brynakrauth
    brynakrauth Posts: 53
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    Oh honey. Your sister is so intimidated by the fact that you might look better than her that all she can do is keep you down and hope you stay where you are. I don't even know you or this girl but I can tell you she is so intimidated by you and frankly, she sounds like a very insecure person. The only thing she can do to build herself up is to tear you (and probably others) down.

    You have a beautiful child. You are strong and probably happy. Keep with your program, keep your heart in the right place and keep you eye on the prize. You CAN do this. DO NOT give up.

    BTW: breast feeding burns an extra 500 calories a day! The weight will come off faster than you imagine.

    HUGS!!!! Big hugs to you girlfriend.
  • jennajava
    jennajava Posts: 2,176 Member
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    I know how you feel. Don't worry my sister is a lot skinner then me and ALWAYS says shes fat and look at this fat here (where there is none) I just keep going. It is frustrating trust me but it will catch up with them sooner or later.

    I know the feeling. I have a relative (not naming names, bc I have some on here) who complains about how her size, but asks to borrow my clothes. Gee thanks. I've just learned to be a duck. Let it roll off my back, because I'm sure she doesn't really mean anything by it anyway.

    ***edited for spelling mistake.
  • TrishKennett
    TrishKennett Posts: 22
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    Simply refuse to allow anyone - family included - to have that much power over you.

    Your body, your choices - you are considerably stronger than you can ever imagine.

    Take one breath, one meal at a time, and forgt about "showing her" - you need to "show yourself" just how capable you are, and are going to be!
  • carebear7951
    carebear7951 Posts: 404 Member
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    Do you want to know how you will lose 31 lbs?? ONE POUND AT A TIME. Don't think about 31 lbs. Think about 1 lb, and then another. And you show your sister (who is RUDE and unsupportive at this time anyway-maybe she is threatened that if you lose weight she won't have that "over" you anymore!?) You can do this-slow and steady if you are bf'ing your baby! Get some kind of movement every day and make good food choices!!!!!
  • BPayton27
    BPayton27 Posts: 626 Member
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    Please don't give up. Don't give your sister that much control over your life! You and you alone are responsible for yourself. This is a marathon, not a sprint after all. You're still nursing for crying out loud! Is this your first baby? Your body needs some time to find it's footing. Eating healthy and exercising is that much more difficult when you're sleep deprived and stressed. Do this for you and ignore what your sister has to say. I don't know WHERE I'd be if I listened to all my mother's negative comments. Good luck to you.
  • Chairless
    Chairless Posts: 588 Member
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    I just feel hopeless now - like "how am I going to do this. ugh 31 lbs to go? thats crazy

    3 months of logging and sticking to it saw me scream past that number, its as impossible /crazy as you make it.
  • janic1968
    janic1968 Posts: 6
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    Hello, if there is one thing I want to tell you is, do not quite. you lost 3 pounds and you are going to keep loosing. I started this in april and I lost 20 pounds. That sister of yours should stay out of your life, if that's all she has to say. You are going to stay on this site and we will encourage each other. She probably thought all her life that she was better than you because of her skinny body, but you know she just proved that she is not a better person. Someone who says that to her sister can't be happy with herself. Stay here and we will do it,,,,,,,, not for her but for us. I was 173 and I'm down to 153 now. we will do it one pound a week. ok...... please don't let me down and stay away from that jealous sister of yours. Probably just jealous of you and your beautiful family.
  • NashvilleShelley
    NashvilleShelley Posts: 238
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    Wow! You LOST 3 pounds!!! That should motivate you!!!! You seem to be doing a great job! Don't stop now!! You can do this! Keep up the great work!!
  • mamalula
    mamalula Posts: 42
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    Please don't give up, you are doing so well. I know how much it hurts when someone calls you fat, it is so incredibly painful to hear! But you have done so well already. I know it is hard but try and see all the positive things in your life, your beautiful baby who needs you to be strong and healthy. You can do it!
  • GownleyC2
    GownleyC2 Posts: 72 Member
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    Mom,
    I first want to say I am sorry that your sister said that to you. If you look at my profile you will se that I have 100 pounds to lose and I will lose it. I was always in shape and lost my way after having my son, going back to school and working a very stressful job. You can do it!!! Don't let others control your life. I lost 4pounds the other day and I am so excited!! I am still 228 pounds and someone who is thin might look at me like why are you so happy you are still "fat". But it was a great accomplishment for me. So enter that weight loss with pride and keep coming back!!! This is your journey!!! Don't get lost in the negativity!!
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
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    You are being harder on yourself than your sister. You can do this. You need to take baby steps. Don't look at the whole 31lb, look for the next 2 lbs, the next one 1lb. They all add up.

    You are doing this for you and for your little baby. Don't let some comment deter you from that.


    :flowerforyou:
  • Alysgrma
    Alysgrma Posts: 365 Member
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    Honey I feel for you...but who cares what anyone says about you? If you know you need to lose weight it doesn't fall on anyone but you! You have a baby, do you want to be around to see your child grow up, get married and have babies of their own? Yes I know you do so, you being a mother which makes you stronger then most people you will do what you have to do. It may take you awhile and you will stumble along the way but you will reach your weight....not just for you but your child.
    Next time when your sister or anyone tries to bring you down, look at her and thank her for loving you, and then tell her with her and Gods help you will reach your goals.
    You can do this!!! If I can lose what I have anyone can. We all have struggles/monsters/demons we face each and every day....we can and we will do this. I am right there with you!
    Mary
  • shcarter67
    shcarter67 Posts: 46
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    Do not give up on yourself. This is your sister's issue, not yours. You are doing what's best for you. Try not to let things other people say deter you from your goals. I also have a sister who is very thin and I have learned that she makes negative comments about me (and others) because she is not happy with herself and her life and she wants others to feel the same way. Remain strong and committed. You have to do this for yourself. Feel free to add me if you wish.:smile:

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