Married to a man child?

its about perspective. I learned to do a lot of things on my own for this reason. I can balance the budget, kill spiders, fix broken things, mow the lawn, change my oil, all the "man" things. Because I never had any help. Made me a well rounded woman. Also made me less angry to look at it that way. Now.... choose to continue to live that way or change it is up to you

Haha, I was just going to say, this sounds like my wife.

This sounds exactly like my husband. After our son was diagnosed with ADHD my husband was tested and has Adult ADHD. It's worth looking into. Talk to his family to see what he was like as a child.

throw something at him...
shoes work great--the pointy kind

You still love him and he must be doing SOMETHING right. Just focus on the good qualities and face the music...we (women) do it all better anyway.

One more reason why I just adore you Becks lol

Maybe a little action on the side to take your mind off things.

I love my husband dearly. He is an awesome guy. But sometimes I feel like I have 2 kids instead of just the one I gave birth to! He can never remember to do anything, doesn't notice what's going on around him. Doesn't notice the garbage is overflowing, or the dog is flipping out because he has to go outside. He'll tell me he'll take care of doing something and after 2 weeks or longer, I remind him again and then just do it myself. I've tried talking to him about it but it just comes out as nagging (I can't even stand the way i sound!). It's just become a real problem for me because I feel like I can't count on him to handle responsibilities. It's more irritating than anything. What happens if I forgot to pay the bills, or forgot to pick up our daughter at daycare, or just forgot to buy groceries? Am I just supposed to accept that I'm the responsible one and he's can't be counted on? That's sad. As you can tell, I'm the wound up one in the relationship. Advice? And please be kind if possible.

You know it's football season right???? It all depends when/ what time you ask him. If it's during a game yeah good luck with that.

I love my husband dearly. He is an awesome guy. But sometimes I feel like I have 2 kids instead of just the one I gave birth to! He can never remember to do anything, doesn't notice what's going on around him. Doesn't notice the garbage is overflowing, or the dog is flipping out because he has to go outside. He'll tell me he'll take care of doing something and after 2 weeks or longer, I remind him again and then just do it myself. I've tried talking to him about it but it just comes out as nagging (I can't even stand the way i sound!). It's just become a real problem for me because I feel like I can't count on him to handle responsibilities. It's more irritating than anything. What happens if I forgot to pay the bills, or forgot to pick up our daughter at daycare, or just forgot to buy groceries? Am I just supposed to accept that I'm the responsible one and he's can't be counted on? That's sad. As you can tell, I'm the wound up one in the relationship. Advice? And please be kind if possible.

You know it's football season right???? It all depends when/ what time you ask him. If it's during a game yeah good luck with that.

Exactly. I don't acknowledge anyones existence on NFL Sunday.

I love my husband dearly. He is an awesome guy. But sometimes I feel like I have 2 kids instead of just the one I gave birth to! He can never remember to do anything, doesn't notice what's going on around him. Doesn't notice the garbage is overflowing, or the dog is flipping out because he has to go outside. He'll tell me he'll take care of doing something and after 2 weeks or longer, I remind him again and then just do it myself. I've tried talking to him about it but it just comes out as nagging (I can't even stand the way i sound!). It's just become a real problem for me because I feel like I can't count on him to handle responsibilities. It's more irritating than anything. What happens if I forgot to pay the bills, or forgot to pick up our daughter at daycare, or just forgot to buy groceries? Am I just supposed to accept that I'm the responsible one and he's can't be counted on? That's sad. As you can tell, I'm the wound up one in the relationship. Advice? And please be kind if possible.

This is my life.
Except I don't do it myself after 2 weeks, I nag and nag and nag until he does it 2 months later and then he is mad at me for "being a b!tch" and then I have to say "if you did it the first 10 times I asked I wouldn't HAVE to be" and on and on, rinse and repeat with the next item on the to-do list...

I've been married 18 years. BTDT.

Hubby put empty cans in the sink. Drove me crazy. I told him to just put them in recycle. He kept "forgetting". So one day I loaded the dishwasher an put the empty cans in it. Then I made sure he unloaded it. He was surprised to see the cans in there and asked why they were in there. I replied "Well I know you know how much it bugs me when you leave empty cans in the sink instead of putting them in recycle. I know you wouldn't continue to do something like that knowing it irritated me. So I figured you must want them for something or else you would have just put them in recycle. So I washed them for you." He NEVER put another can in the sink.

In our 1st house we had a laundry chute in our bedroom. It was behind the door so you actually had to open the door to put your clothes down the chute. Hubby just left them on the floor. I got sick of putting his clothes down the chute and constantly bugging him to do it. So I just stopped. I did all the laundry that was in the laundry room, folded it, and put it away. The next day hubby asked "Can you do laundry soon please. I don't have anymore jeans or socks." I informed him that I had just gotten done with the laundry and there was no more laundry in the laundry room so I had no idea where his dirty clothes would be. He started putting his clothes down the chute.

One time he started arguing with me and saying I was nagging him too much. I told him that nagging just means that someone is constantly having to tell you to do something over and over and over again. If he'd do it the first or even the second time he was asked there would be no nagging.

I should add that all of the above was within the first few years of marriage. Once he realized that I wasn't going to fall for the "Oh I didn't notice the trash" or "I left the bowl in the sink because I didn't know if the dishwasher was clean or dirty" (open it. If it's empty or there are dirty dishes in it - it's dirty.) stuff he got much better. I work from home and don't put in nearly the hours he does so I take care of the house but he will pitch in and help out without being asked more often than not. If I do ask him to do something he does it. I might need to remind him once but never more than that.

kill spiders

Come to my apartment. Spiders make me scream like a girl.

I am so glad I don't have these issues. I am so NOT the typical beer drinking football watching guy. Give me a break you lazy sacks!!! lol

Seriously, I can not stand overflowing trash, and all the crap most guys "forget" to do. Believe me ladies, they don't forget, they 'choose' not to do it at all. It's sad, and then they claim "I'm just being a guy enjoying my football". More like neanderthals being cave men. You typical guys are lucky I don't live in your neighborhoods.... I'd be paying a visit to your houses to make sure all your chores are done... ALL YOUR CHORES

I'm just playing... but imagine how many guys are worried about that now... hmmmm

Where were you 8 years ago???

I'm a landlord of 3 grown men... Or should I say 2 grown men and a Man's man. The Man's man is the typical beer chugging, belching, football watching guy. He's a great roommate to have... fearless man's man. However, every single morning I awake to all the lights in the house on and last night's six pack of empty beer cans littered throughout the kitchen.

Seriously!!! I have 3 different recycle containers out back and a trash can in the kitchen. There is also a pre - recycle spot on the counter just for beer cans. WTF!!! lol

8 years ago? ... not available... But I am now!

ooooohhh .. Now ya got ME started! THAT is nothing unusual. My hubby, who for the record is my best friend, and I would die for him .. is a dork stick!

Over the 35 years we've had together, I am still the primary house 'keeper', garden 'tender', garbage 'taker outer', finder of lost things (especially HIS cell phone, HIS wallet, HIS work boots, HIS jacket, HIS truck keys .. HIS .. well, I think you got the picture. I can't walk across the room with empty hands .. I am letting the dogs out with one, picking up laundry with the other, and moving shoes away from the door way with another. and balancing plates and glasses that were left on the back step with another...While, making a grocery list, balancing my checkbook, and preparing the next evening meal.

THAT's my life! PLUS .. I work at least as many hours as he does .. most often times .. MORE hours in a day.

I find my problem is not him .. as much as it is ME. If I mention to him to pick up his dishes ..He will .. If I ask him to take the laundry basket into the laundry room he will, I just wish I didn't have to ask. He sometimes does it without me asking ...so, I have to give him credit for that .. but, for the most part, I find I just do it because it's become habit.

I am so glad I don't have these issues. I am so NOT the typical beer drinking football watching guy. Give me a break you lazy sacks!!! lol

Seriously, I can not stand overflowing trash, and all the crap most guys "forget" to do. Believe me ladies, they don't forget, they 'choose' not to do it at all. It's sad, and then they claim "I'm just being a guy enjoying my football". More like neanderthals being cave men. You typical guys are lucky I don't live in your neighborhoods.... I'd be paying a visit to your houses to make sure all your chores are done... ALL YOUR CHORES

I'm just playing... but imagine how many guys are worried about that now... hmmmm

You are the rarity. :grumble: