Long distance relationships?

My 1st love was a LDR. I'm in London, England and she was in Toronto, Canada. We valued our time togther but it was so hard being so far apart.

If she was in the same country, I'm sure we would still be together now.

LDR do work, as long as one of you is prepared to relocate. But leaving your friends and family to start a new life somewhere else isn't easy.

Did an international (US/Canada) long distance relationship for 8 months. I would take the train from Detroit to Ottawa every other weekend or so, a few week long visits here and there. I moved to Ottawa in May 2001, engaged Nov01, married April02. it was hard leaving everything and everyone I knew behind and going through immigration but it was worth it.

I met my husband online a couple years ago. I think online relationships are great because you can really talk to a person when there isn't sexual tension, etc.

as for LDR...I hate them.

there is sexual tension in relationships started online, believe you me!

well I have a bit of a personal stake in this so I say when you are all that man can think of, when you spend the day texing back and forth, when you are still up past 3 am in the morning on the phone with each other and 2 hours later he has to get up to start his day. when you dream of him and him of you...... well I think its worth a try. Sometimes the best things in life are the ones we have to work for. I know it wont be easy. but I know you are what that man wants I know you are what he needs. you make him smile. no matter how bad of a day he is having the sound of your voice turns it around, to him you are beautiful, all u have to do is smile and he melts. U make a strong man weak. but..... like I said....... I have a personal stake in this

well I have a bit of a personal stake in this so I say when you are all that man can think of, when you spend the day texing back and forth, when you are still up past 3 am in the morning on the phone with each other and 2 hours later he has to get up to start his day. when you dream of him and him of you...... well I think its worth a try. Sometimes the best things in life are the ones we have to work for. I know it wont be easy. but I know you are what that man wants I know you are what he needs. you make him smile. no matter how bad of a day he is having the sound of your voice turns it around, to him you are beautiful, all u have to do is smile and he melts. U make a strong man weak. but..... like I said....... I have a personal stake in this

That was beautiful.

LDR can work. In some ways they are harder than regular relationships. In other ways they are actually easier. I met my hubby 22 years ago. We weren't a LDR until nearly a decade later. He was activated with the Nat. Guard and sent to Iraq in 2003. He was gone for 14 months. The distance actually saved our marriage. We'd been going through some rough times but having him so far away allowed me the time I needed to think without having to deal with him every day. Our relationship was MUCH stronger after he got home than it had been before. He also went to Kuwait in 06 for 18 months. Again, it was tough but you do what you have to do. I love him and he loves me. The distance sucked but it really does make you talk with each other more instead of falling into the same pattern that a lot of couples do where they come home from work, grunt a bit at each other, eat, watch TV, then off to bed.

Right now my hubby is on his way home from being in Afghanistan since Feb. The absences suck but the reunion is almost worth it. We've been married 18 years and I'm as giddy to see him as I was the day we got married.

It doesn't matter if it's a LDR or a close relationship. All that really matters is how you feel about each other.

My husband is in the Navy so we've been doing the long distance thing for a few months now, and will have many separations ahead of us. I wouldn't choose it, but often you don't get to choose who you fall in love with. It's tough and we have to work on it every day, but it's worth it to be with the right person.

I'd say visits are pretty crucial, and so is being able to trust your partner. Commitment and a good sense of humor are also must-haves in my opinion. Good chemistry helps. On some level, I think every relationship has to be easy. I mean, yeah, relationships take work, but he should be someone who is easy for you to be with. If things are really tough when you're living in the same place, then it'll be multiplied when you're separated.

On the "cons" side, my best friend has moved across the country three times for relationships that ended up not working out. She always ends up heartbroken and I feel terrible for her because she keeps sacrificing her life in one place and moving thousands of miles to be with someone she met online only to find that they don't work in person. So I would say take it slow and get to know the person before you jump in with both feet.

well I have a bit of a personal stake in this so I say when you are all that man can think of, when you spend the day texing back and forth, when you are still up past 3 am in the morning on the phone with each other and 2 hours later he has to get up to start his day. when you dream of him and him of you...... well I think its worth a try. Sometimes the best things in life are the ones we have to work for. I know it wont be easy. but I know you are what that man wants I know you are what he needs. you make him smile. no matter how bad of a day he is having the sound of your voice turns it around, to him you are beautiful, all u have to do is smile and he melts. U make a strong man weak. but..... like I said....... I have a personal stake in this

hehehe GMANN & Kimmy! As my friends here on MFP you both are awesome!!! Long distance always has the potential to work out if the willingness is there. I've experienced both a negative and a positive with a LDR. First one was two people who meet locally and had strong feelings for each other but didn't commit due to the circumstances of war keeping us apart days after meeting. Unfortunately the party fighting in the war saw temptation local to him. Not so much a bad thing since I believe you have to be hurt to know what not to look for! The second experience has a better ending (like I hope this potential relationship will have) I met my boyfriend on facebook. Random first encounter through a message. Started with talking and ended with a plane ticket from Boston to Orange County. Still together a year and a half later even with the 6 months of long distance and plans to get married soon. You never know who you end up liking or falling for nor do you get to pick. Just make sure both parties have similar expectation and always remember "I wish I had" usually ends up hurting more than "One time I....." Love you both!

Either you have asked the right question, or I've replied the right thread. Lol

My boyfriend and I are in a LDR. We met while playing online games (killing zombies) both of us have the same interest. I wasn't really expecting to be with him because I was trying to get over my ex at the time, and he was in a complicated situation with another girl. Then we chatted and talked everyday. I am here in Singapore and he's there in the States. 12 hours apart and 7000 plus miles away. I went there twice but I'm still waiting for him to come here. It took me almost a day or more to fly there and I spent almost 5k of my savings to spend time with him. *sigh* and LDR is really, really, really tough. But no I have no intention to date other people, or tempted in another way. Call me faithful :P

Someone is going to have to give up their entire life for the other. Pretty high expectations, right there.

People move all the time.

It's different when you have to uproot your entire life for the sake of a relationship. Tough call, I say.

Oh, I'm willing to move. Lol

Don't let the "You might have to move" bit hold you back either. You never know what the future holds. I met my hubby in MI at college. At one point we even lived in the same apartment building (didn't live together, just the same building.) We lived in MI. Our families lived in MI. We got married in MI. We bought our first and 2nd homes in MI. In 2003 he was sent to Iraq for 14 months. His job laid him off when they found out he'd be getting deployed (yes it's illegal but Ford has deeper pockets for lawyers than we do.) When he came back in 2004 we figured that since he didn't hav a job in MI anyhow and the economy was on it's way down we'd go ahead and move to AZ. We'd wanted to do that for years but his income couldn't be matched there. So we moved.

In 2009 he got a great job offer in Germany. It was supposed to be 2-5 years. We took it and moved. It turned out to be 1 1/2 years due to idiocy on the part of the company. Then he got a job in VA so we moved here last year. If something happens in the future we may well move again. We don't want to. We like it here. But we aren't going to look at moving as a big negative. It's always an opportunity for new experiences. Whether you move for love or employment or family moving isn't a bad thing unless you expect it to be.