Hubby has been mugged and beaten by a gang of 10 *kitten*

that is just horrible! were the police notifed? i am glad that they didn't use a weapon or anything...i know he is really hurt but it could have been much worse.

That's really messed up. I'm so sorry to hear that. What gang is that?

Ugh...how awful...

Pamper him with his favorite meal, make him as comfortable as possible, and fawn over him as much as you can.

Did he call the police? You need to try ad catch the *kitten*!!

Pamper him and call the police (or become a vigilante and take matters into your own hands)

I like this idea haha

Erm i've experienced similar with a family member. I think it shocks you to the core, you're reminded of your own mortality, weaknesses and anger etc

In cases like this I think only time will help. Support him, forgive him his (probable) moods over it (to an extent) and watch out for your own symptoms, I know how it hit me and how it still hits me at times.

That is so terrible, I have no advice on what to do to help him but I will pray for you both. God bless.

Pricks. That's the only way they can win is in a big group...cowards.

Oh my gosh, how awful. It actually brought tears to my eyes reading that, to be reminded that people can be so mean and brutal to an innocent person. I am so sorry for him. Just be there for him, be on his side and sure pamper him a bit, without over fussing. And I agree, he should report it to the police.

All the best to both of you,

Lucy

Remind him that no matter what he is feeling or thinking now, he has been through an unusual event and anything that he is thinking or feeling is perfectly normal. Avoid alcohol and drugs as they will not help and may only lead to problems later. Let him talk even if he has to tell you every detail 5, 10, or 125 times. That is what he needs at the moment.

Rationalising about what he could've, should've done won't help. He did the best he could in extraordinary circumstances.

This was advice given to me after I had walked through the middle of a, fortunately, minor street shooting many years ago.

Encourage him to get some counselling if he has flashbacks, sleep disturbance or can't stop thinking about the attack. It is better if he seeks help sooner rather than later.

This is horrible. I was jumped in the projects once it was 5 of them and just me. I basically hit the ground and covered what I could with my arms to block the blows. I never told anyone and when people asked about the brusies I lied and said I fell on the stairs. It is a blow to the ego because not to brag I could always hold my own so I know how he feels. report it to the authorities and pray it doesn't happen again.

A few years ago, my husband was working at his dad's store in a mall when a shooter came into the mall and started shooting up the place. The *kitten* was taken out by the police when they arrived, but several people were killed. Thank god my husband wasn't hurt, but a thing like that is scarring. He's much better than he used to be, but you don't forget something like that. I felt completely helpless! What made it worse, was he refused to talk to me about any of it because he wanted to protect me from what he witnessed, so he was baring this burden on his own. He finally did go talk to a therapist. Just continue to love him, support him, be there for him, try to get him to talk about it either to you or someone else, but don't push the subject. I'm so sorry this happened to your family. <<hugs>>

He will need to talk about it but as a fella - in his own time. he may not even want to talk to you or family about it as he will be worried that it's going to worry you. Our men do these things. Over time if he wants to look into self defence courses maybe, they are great for everyone to do. That's an unfair number against you. He will go through a few different moods and many might be just thinking things over, like the 'what if's' as they always come. He cant change what happened, he can let it go so it doesn't get to him but that can only be done after he's dealt with it. He should write it down and get it out if he doesn't feel like talking to anyone else. He can call the mens help lines as they are counsellors able to deal with this sought of trauma. He will want to get his confidence back and that will come with time. He will know you are there for him, but he is also going to be aware of how this is affecting you also and may not want to talk to help protect you. Dont push him to talk, just let him know you are there to just listen and are concerned for how this event is making him feel. Men sometimes dont want answers or resolve for things or the 'what ifs' from us, but just want to be able to get it out and be heard I suppose. Hope you are able to cope with this also. It is scarey for you too to have experienced something traumatic like this to the one you love. There is a protective nature there between partners. Sex is a wonderful relaxation technique, but also try body massage, low lights and the mindset he can just lie there and fall asleep. Go with the massage and see where it goes, no pressure. You know your man. It may also be such a distraction that sex isn't a goa for now, traumatic experiences can react in our bodies in a physical manner that we haven't got control over. Let him know it's a big deal he has gone through and that it will take time to deal with it thoroughly but that you are there for him. He would already know that by the sounds of things. you are a great supportive wife and sound very concerned. Here to talk or just to listen, any time for you or for your husband. Take care Louisa.

It did happen to me. I was violently assaulted about 16 years ago. They also took my purse with my license and my keys and were at my house before the police even got to me. Only one of the guys was caught and he refused to talk so I was kept on a victim list for years. I was notified every time he was released from prison and every time he moved.

Time heals all wounds and I eventually asked to be removed from the victim list. Every time I received that letter, I was a victim again.

So...listen when he wants to talk and give him the time and space to heal on his own. Most important - if he doesn't want to talk about it, he doesn't want to talk about it.

Not sure where you live, but I'd consider getttig a concealed carry permit. You can't trust that the guys won't be back and maybe do worse next time. If your husband travels the same route as part of his daily routine, he should watch out. If those guys got their kicks there once, they'll probably still be in the area. If nothing else at least get some mace.