Is a divorced woman/single mother less attractive?

Iamfit4life
Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
edited October 4 in Chit-Chat
Turnabout is fairplay.
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  • Shanna_Inc86
    Shanna_Inc86 Posts: 781 Member
    I feel less attractive...

    I work with a guy who refuses to date single mom's and I've talked to several men (not in a dating situation) that won't as well.
    I know I'm to a point where I instantly have my guard up...I just assume most men have an issue and really I'm sure they don't but its made things difficult

    **EDIT**

    After being primarily single for the past 3.5 years, I'm fine with staying a single mom at this point. I've been doing just fine on my own so far. If its not broke why "fix it"
  • skinnylizzard
    skinnylizzard Posts: 460 Member
    More attractive!:smooched:
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    less attractive than what, what is the comparator?
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Not sure what prompted this, but I've been a single mother for 17 years and haven't noticed less male attention because of it. :-)

    I've lived with someone the last almost seven years, though.
  • Goldenwoof
    Goldenwoof Posts: 535 Member
    Oh, screw it. I tried to post a link to my "I (heart) Hot Moms" t-shirt, but it didn't work. :)

    Anyway, to answer the question, absolutely NOT. Divorce happens. Sometimes, through no fault of either party. There are times when both parties realize they're just not a match and are better off not being a couple. That's how it was with me when I was married (and divorced). It was probably the friendliest divorce ever, and we remained friends.

    And kids? The only issue there is that they can be an inconvenience in getting together, but true adults can deal with that and understand that the kids always come first. So no...kids aren't an issue either.

    The only thing that matters is, do the two people wanna be together? If so, previous relationships and children aren't the least bit important.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    LOL! We better not be!!
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I hope not! (divorced w/o kids)
  • rrrbecca11
    rrrbecca11 Posts: 477
    Oh good Lord. Seriously??
  • misty589
    misty589 Posts: 319 Member
    less attractive than what, what is the comparator?


    I'm assuming the same woman if she were not divorced/single mother
  • katyclev
    katyclev Posts: 41 Member
    ummmm, than people without kids? lol
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I feel less attractive...

    I work with a guy who refuses to date single mom's and I've talked to several men (not in a dating situation) that won't as well.
    I know I'm to a point where I instantly have my guard up...I just assume most men have an issue and really I'm sure they don't but its made things difficult

    I dated a guy for a year who "would never date a single mother."

    Current man said the same, then married a woman who was a single mother and after they divorced ended up with me.

    They say they won't until the right single mother comes along.
  • liveletl0ve
    liveletl0ve Posts: 40
    LESS i mean can u blame em? We have so much responsibility on our hands and things to take care of. being with a single mom is harder than with a mom with no kids, you just have to find the right guy who is willing to deal.
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    Not sure what prompted this, but I've been a single mother for 17 years and haven't noticed less male attention because of it. :-)

    I've lived with someone the last almost seven years, though.

    the "divorced man" thread.

    I'm actually quite confident in being a single mother!
  • SueGeer
    SueGeer Posts: 1,169 Member
    Unfortunately, I think there is a social stigma about this......but one should never judge unless they know the circumstances.

    Sue :smile: x
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    I'm curious as well.........
  • glockster972
    glockster972 Posts: 704 Member
    Not at all.
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    ahahaha, I posted that in the "is a divorced guy less attractive" thread. And, my response would be NO way. You are a hotty! In general, no, they are magic workers! :love:
  • frugalmomsrock
    frugalmomsrock Posts: 1,123
    I was a single mom of two when I met my husband. Good thing he didn't think I was less attractive just because of the kids. And he had no experience with children at all (although he was 43 and I had two young children-ages 4 and 6). We have now added to the family and have five. He still tells me I'm H-O-T.

    I guess as long as you find a guy that's half blind....

    haha
  • liftingbro
    liftingbro Posts: 2,029 Member
    IMO, divorced women and single mothers are not less attractive but much more complicated which does factor in.
  • couponfun
    couponfun Posts: 714 Member
    That's part of the reason I'm still with my husband. 36 with 2 kids and health issues...yeah I'm not much of a catch :laugh:
  • kbjork7
    kbjork7 Posts: 1
    My best guy friend says that he knows alot of guys that actually prefer dating divorcees regardless of the children because the woman is usually more mature and experienced when it comes to relationships.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Not sure what prompted this, but I've been a single mother for 17 years and haven't noticed less male attention because of it. :-)

    I've lived with someone the last almost seven years, though.

    the "divorced man" thread.

    I'm actually quite confident in being a single mother!

    I'll have to go look. I haven't really been on the boards much today and haven't seen it.

    Anyway, like I said above, a lot of men say they'll never date a single mom until they meet one they like. I guess the era of online dating is detrimental to that because if you say you don't have a kid to attract men at the initial stages, then you're lying. But a lot of guys WILL write you off over it without getting to know you. The same men who if they met you elsewhere might rethink their stance.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Divorced woman would be fine if it's one divorce, more than that I'd have to think about it.

    Single mom would be fine if I wanted kids, but since I don't, I would not date her.
  • PBJunky
    PBJunky Posts: 737 Member
    Uhm hell no...we have a divorced woman in our office building which is breathtakingly beautiful and best of all she has a personality to die for...so easy to approach and have a conversation with her.
  • Bigaug
    Bigaug Posts: 395 Member
    In a word, no. To elaborate, single moms are just as a attractive as any woman. I have dated on both sides of the fence and the reasons I had problems with single moms was generally single fathers. Who needs all that bloody drama?
  • Deckershann
    Deckershann Posts: 272 Member
    Ummm I'm not single but my mom is...single mom of four and to me she has never looked sexier, stronger, or more beautiful than now. She is my hero. Her relationship of 27 freakin' years was mostly a nightmare. I look up to her more than any other woman.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    Turnabout is fairplay.

    i know i'm about to get sooooo much hate mail for this but ---- i agree.





    i will not date you seriously if you have kids. and if i do? *whispers... (then i'm probably just sticking around for the sleepovers)

    hate if you want, it's the truth.
  • SarabellPlus3
    SarabellPlus3 Posts: 496 Member
    My experience with friends is that divorce isn't really an issue, but not everyone wants to take on kids, I guess that seems fair to me.
  • superflyrbi
    superflyrbi Posts: 80 Member
    Not even. My current wife was a single mother and that chick was/is hot! (still 12 years later)
  • Loko_Ino
    Loko_Ino Posts: 544 Member
    simply put, no
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