Reality check..I never felt as over weight as I look...do yo

No I know exactly what you mean. I used to be tiny and in my mind I still am, but in the mirror I'm definitely not. Also I've always had a lot of muscle so I used the old "muscle weighs more than fat" saying as a crutch. As much as I hate the way I look right now, I know it's better to see it and change it than to live in denial. Good for you on seeing yourself the way you really are, now you can tackle it head on!!

What a problem to have; thinking you look better than you do!

I have the same perception; whether it's mental of physical, I don't feel as big as I am. My little me is trapped inside this body dying to get out!

At least we aren't anorexic and think we look obese! I like my warped perception thank you very much! :flowerforyou:

I had the same problem before I lost the extra weight then I realized I was to big for my frame, I'm barely 5 1 now that I lost the weight it's hard for me to see that I'm actually small again. People complimant me and I'm so surprised to know that they see me as small. It's crazy:huh:

umm, pictures are the worst for me. :grumble: in the mirror, at least i could turn a different angle or change the shirt or whatever. but in pics when it looks like i have 17 chins are the killers for me! :grumble: but i guess it's good now because now that i've lost some, i look at the pics and think "wow, look how much better i look already!" we'll get there

same thing here.. i used to avoid photos at all costs (i reasoned i was shy).. Then my 4yr old nephew came to stay with me for christmas and he took videos with grans recorder of my ferrets (also got me and my mum in). When we played it back i couldn't believe i was looking at myself.. i looked so much older and fatter than what i thought i looked like.. Was a real shocker. Now i look in the mirror and see what i really look like, lol i was still the average weight 21 yr old in my own mind. But hey i'm so glad because now finally I am doing something about it and I feel so much better. Even losing the 16lbs i have so far has made a big difference, I feel like for last 10 years i have put myself on hold for my work. But now I feel that by looking after myself not only my personal life has improved but my work too. Thankyou MFP pals, you are all so wonderful.

I have the same problem and it includes the I still think I am young and kinda pretty. Then I take a minute to stop and look and I see an overweight and wrinkled face. O geeeeeee that cant be me.. I think...and then I realize it really is. I am getting to those years where you start to understand why rich people get plastic surgery. But when I see the wrinkles I try to remember that I have memories for every one. I earned them and Ill keep them. I wouldnt want to look like Joan Rivers for the world and I do like knowing I can feel my face smile.. (referring to joan rivers commercial.) scary! LOL

ABSOLUTELY.

I had the opposite view of myself. Sure I wasn't totally happy with how I looked like, but I never thought I was as big as I was. i would look in the mirror and think, I am not so bad... I could afford to lose weight but really, I am not that bad.

Of course it is when ou look in photos and see the realization.

I remember when I got my first highest weight (162) and I said I would never be this weight ever again and I dropped like 50 lbs in 2 years and I was still seeing the same person I saw in the mirror from when I was 162. It is crazy but true. The only evidence was that my clothes were litterally bag and falling off of me.

Now here I am at my 2nd highest (170) and while currently I see a really overweight person (for my height) over the past year, I saw thin me and that is what led me to over eat again and again and again and look where I am.

wow I totally know what you mean! I look at pictures of me before I had my son when I was 31 and am like...omg girl!!! that's what you're suppose to look like! lol....I'll get there...we all will....for now I try to hold my head up high and just know its a work in progress....rome wasn't built in a day, I didn't gain it in a few months...its gonna take time, but every day closer to my goals I feel better....usually! lol

hugs!!!
Ali

I though i was alone in this !! god to know that i am not !

I think i always refused to accept that i was so big. Last chrismas my nice (shes 8) asked me if i was pregnant !!! hooo and a couple weeks before that i was jumping on her trempoline and she said, you better stop before you break it ! (she didnt care for the rest of the family to go on !! all at the same time !! )

but when i look in the mirror ,, its not so bad,, arghhh just cant face reality !!
but those days are over. i'll show my niece i can do better !!!

Thanks for the support !
may

I am really seeing myself as I must look to others for the first time:noway: If I didn't look in the mirror I wouldn't feel and look in my mind tobe this over weight. I don't know if that makes any sense. But sense I started this diet I see myself as obeise ( wish they had spell check on here) I'm not saying everyone is obeise like me . I don't know maybe I have been in denial.

This happens to me too. You are definitely NOT alone in that. I really hate buying new clothes. I avoid it in fact because it's such a reality check that is hard to swallow for me. It ruins my whole day. I just had my second baby and I'm really making efforts now, and I hope that will make me feel better just knowing that I'm doing something about it.

We can muster up enough motivation to do something about this...all of us together.

No mustering necessary; you're already here!