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More probing.. what is your idea of "modesty"

Iamfit4life
Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
Thought this would be fascinating.
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  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Im not modest for my morals are very open and only for my own interpretation. You live life ONCE.
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    I think it falls under that fine line between confidence and arrogance. If you can be confident in yourself and your accomplishments without being arrogant or cocky about it then you've achieved some degree of modesty or humility.

    And... I think the OP should also answer... hehe :tongue:
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    I think it falls under that fine line between confidence and arrogance. If you can be confident in yourself and your accomplishments without being arrogant or cocky about it then you've achieved some degree of modesty or humility.

    And... I think the OP should also answer... hehe :tongue:

    Well there is a huge difference in what I think is acceptable for myself, and what I think is acceptable for other people.

    As far as myself I'm pretty conservative in my dress. Mostly because I'm not available and don't want to appear so.

    As far as other people, as long as they aren't grinding anything on my significant other, I really don't care one bit.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Modesty means knowing when you cover your hooha, and when it's okay to be a little risque. You don't have to be a puritan to be modest, you just have to know what's appropriate and when.


    And for the record: The internet is always appropriate.
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    [/quote]

    Well there is a huge difference in what I think is acceptable for myself, and what I think is acceptable for other people.

    As far as myself I'm pretty conservative in my dress. Mostly because I'm not available and don't want to appear so.

    As far as other people, as long as they aren't grinding anything on my significant other, I really don't care one bit.
    [/quote]

    Ohhh... now I see what your original post is about... modesty... as in a woman's choice of outfit... no issues with either conservative or otherwise. I think it's up to the person. I don't think any differently about someone by the way they dress... actions speak much more loudly. Who am I to judge?
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    I was raised in a conservative Christian home (my dad is Pastor) I'm actually ridiculously modest, I don't wear much low cut clothing, I don't own much fitted clothing, I own ZERO skirts that stop above my knees.

    It has more to do with being comfortable than morals though. I don't care how other people dress, that's not my concern.
  • KLLever
    KLLever Posts: 39
    Im not modest for my morals are very open and only for my own interpretation. You live life ONCE.

    ...that

    and this...

    "I just want to play on my pan-pipes
    I just want to drink me some wine
    as soon as you're born you start dying
    so you might as well have a good time

    Sheep go to heaven
    Goats go to hell
    Sheep go to heaven
    Goats… go to hell"

    Teehee :)
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    Modesty means knowing when you cover your hooha, and when it's okay to be a little risque. You don't have to be a puritan to be modest, you just have to know what's appropriate and when.


    And for the record: The internet is always appropriate.
    I love you! :)
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    mod·es·ty (md-st)
    n.
    1. The state or quality of being modest.
    2. Reserve or propriety in speech, dress, or behavior.
    3. Lack of pretentiousness; simplicity.

    By the above definition, I would define myself as modest.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,108 Member
    I do not qualify here for clothing or character.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member

    Well there is a huge difference in what I think is acceptable for myself, and what I think is acceptable for other people.

    As far as myself I'm pretty conservative in my dress. Mostly because I'm not available and don't want to appear so.

    As far as other people, as long as they aren't grinding anything on my significant other, I really don't care one bit.

    exactly..and maybe clarify, what context are we talking for modesty? clothing? or confidence level?
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I don't usually allow probing until a second date. :noway: :wink:
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    I don't usually allow probing until a second date. :noway: :wink:

    ...are you the pitcher or catcher?....
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    mod·es·ty (md-st)
    n.
    1. The state or quality of being modest.
    2. Reserve or propriety in speech, dress, or behavior.
    3. Lack of pretentiousness; simplicity.

    By the above definition, I would define myself as modest.

    That would be me too.
  • nothingisred
    nothingisred Posts: 292
    If we're talking about modesty in terms of dress then I always think a good rule is if you're going low cut don't go short and vice versa.

    Personally I don't like too short skirts or too low cut tops because I just don't feel comfortable in them. I may change my mind about short skirts (although I don't think I'd ever wear properly mini skirts) when I lose more weight but having always had big boobs I never feel comfortable in low cut things.

    I like wearing things like sheer blouses though where you can see my bra, that doesn't bother me as long as they're not completely see through!
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    I don't usually allow probing until a second date. :noway: :wink:

    ...are you the pitcher or catcher?....

    That is not exactly a soup question now is it. :wink:
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    I was mostly thinking of clothing.. since there seem to be some quite strong opinons. :)
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    In terms of the way people dress, I would define modesty as dressing so as not to draw undue attention to yourself. So I think intent is more critical than the clothing itself. Some people are just really good-looking and can't help that they get stared at everywhere they go. Some people try way too hard to be noticed.
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    i don't wear that many revealing clothes. as you can see by the fact i still have about 150 to lose. LOL. but i will hike up the girls and put them on display for ren faire, halloween... tuesdays.

    as far as modesty in speech... HAHAHAHAH! no.

    as far as what i think is ok for others to wear - as long as they're over 18, they can wear whatever they want. but i will admit to being disgusted that they make JUICY shorts for toddlers... something has gone wrong there. but if an adult wants to walk down the street in a PVC cat suit or a slutty dorothy costume or panties and beads - that's not for me to judge. and more power to them.
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    mod·es·ty (md-st)
    n.
    1. The state or quality of being modest.
    2. Reserve or propriety in speech, dress, or behavior.
    3. Lack of pretentiousness; simplicity.

    By the above definition, I would define myself as modest.

    Even by this definition, I think it's more of a question of knowing the right time and place. I do occasionally wear lowcut shirts, but nothing more.

    I will sometimes cuss like a sailor, but not in mixed company or in professional locales.

    I do hate pretense, though. You can't talk/show yourself one day and then bash others for doing the same thing another day.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I definitely agree that context is important. Wearing a certain top to work may be completely inappropriate, but at a club on a Saturday night, it may be modest in comparison to what a lot of the hoochies are wearing.
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    I'm very modest when it comes to clothing. I don't show cleavage and my skirts and dresses are never any shorter than just above the knees. Also I don't wear anything see through unless I have a camisole or slip underneath. For me it has nothing to do with not having self confidence, it's tied in with my conservative fundamental faith. A lot of people would probably consider me a prude (I know my son does :laugh: ) and that's just fine with me. :smile:
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    When I wear pants for the day - that's modesty.
  • crazygirl78
    crazygirl78 Posts: 15
    I sum it up like this: Be a lady on the street and a freak in the bed.:blushing:
  • rissadiane
    rissadiane Posts: 355 Member
    I sum it up like this: Be a lady on the street and a freak in the bed.:blushing:

    Bahahaha! Amen to that :wink:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Modesty means knowing when you cover your hooha, and when it's okay to be a little risque. You don't have to be a puritan to be modest, you just have to know what's appropriate and when.


    And for the record: The internet is always appropriate.

    Knowing when to cover your hooha *LMAO*
  • BobinNC66
    BobinNC66 Posts: 192 Member
    OK, I am going to confess some of my own hypocrisy here. I have one standard of modesty for my daughters and another for my wife. I love for my wife to be able to turn heads, but turn a head to look at my daughter and I might remind you that I have a conceal carry permit!
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    To those claiming they are modest....that's not very modest of you. :drinker:
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    OK, I am going to confess some of my own hypocrisy here. I have one standard of modesty for my daughters and another for my wife. I love for my wife to be able to turn heads, but turn a head to look at my daughter and I might remind you that I have a conceal carry permit!

    I'm not sure if that is hypocrisy, or just being a parent, lol
    I think more than half the reason I am so conservative in my dress now is my daughter.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I think modesty related to dressing is dressing appropriately for the situation. For a class presentation, you wouldn't wear a low-cut shirt or a short skirt. But if you're going out to the bar, it's acceptable. I'm modest to some extent - I dress nice for class, but I show off cleavage and stuff on the weekends. I'm definitely modest when it comes to my body though. I hate when people get naked in the locker room. I know it's normal and stuff, but it makes me blush when someone just whips their pants off. I cover up with a towel and turn away from everybody when I change. I could never just stand naked in the locker room.

    Speaking of modesty as related to accomplishments, for me, personally, it varies. Sometimes, especially related to weight loss, I try to be modest. But if it's an accomplishment academically. I'm not too modest. I'll accept the compliment happily.
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