ladies: how can we compliment without it being creepy?

There is absolutely a way to compliment without being creepy. The two examples you gave are both fabulous and very probably wouldn't be taken as creepy. Now, if you were to send an essay going on about the way that person's abs glistened or how very seductive that perfume was ... that's creepy.

A simple compliment, though? Welcomed and appreciated.

Having said that, you look absolutely incredible!

Creepiness is mostly created by the receiver. Say what you want, but be prepared to duck!

Depends on how self absorbed the person is. Give the compliment you want to give, if they take it for more than it's meant as then that's their arrogant problem.

As a guy I think it's OK compliment general appearance.

" That dress looks nice on you"
"That color looks good on you"

Or something similar. Don't get specific about a specific area or use there word "hot" or "sexy" or anything as aggressive as that.

It seems best to keep it simple and a little more general.

I often wonder this... both on sites like this one (where there are a lot of attractive people showing off attractive bodies) and just in every day life. As a guy, how can I give a woman a compliment without it being creepy or a come-on or whatever else.

Say I see a profile pic of someone showing off their abs... can I send them a simple message saying "Hey, great abs!" or "wow, nice abs... your hard work is really paying off!"

If I'm inline behind someone at Target and I notice their perfume, can I say, "I like your perfume"?

Is there even such a thing as an innocent compliment any more?

I think not personalizing it and not taking it too far is how you avoid being creepy. A simple straight to the point message like "Nice job on those abs" would be acceptable, to me anyways.

Also out in the real world, I think it's perfectly fine to say something like "I like your perfume, it's a pleasant fragrance". Don't say something like "You smell really good", that makes some of us feel like you've been sniffing us while our backs are turned. I compliment people, male and female often. The other day at Osaka, I thought the girl next to us had lovely hair so I told her so. She didn't seem to be put off by it. It does depend on the person though.

I think ladies can still take compliments. I don't see anything creepy with the ones you listed.

However, be mindful that there will ALWAYS be women who take it the wrong way because they think they are God's gift to this earth and that only certain people are allowed the privilege to speak with them lol...

I got a friend request from some random guy, as the message he put something like "I like your abs and body ", which creeped me out- I DEFINITELY don't think that only certain privileged people can speak to me! Comments like that just make me uncomfortable =/

none of those sound creepy. now, "i want to lick your abs" or "your perfume makes me hungry" etc...crossing the line.

LOL too funny...
usually for me its the men that whistle or make noises that i think r creepy... i dont know what i'd do if i got a genuine compliment lol - i guess its all about how you say it "wow you are really pretty" is entirely diff than *creepy guy voice* "mmm girl you are so damn sexy"

Meh.. I usually intend it to be creepy anyway.



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It really depends on the person. I would be thrilled if someone complimented me. The change of pace with the amount of rudeness on a daily basis, some positive feedback once in a while would be lovely. If some one gives you crap, there is something wrong with them.

A compliment is a compliment and I think all of us women love them and will take them wherever we can get them. By all means tell someone they look good or smell good, if they are at all offended by this, it's their loss.