ladies: how can we compliment without it being creepy?

I don't think that either would be creepy. Especially on here, if we are showing pics of our hard work, it is nice to have someone say so. And if someone takes an innocent compliment as anything more, maybe they shouldn't post those pics?

Go ahead, compliment away! It's when the girl is clearly uninterested and yet the guy continues to pursue that it becomes creepy.

I think ladies can still take compliments. I don't see anything creepy with the ones you listed.

However, be mindful that there will ALWAYS be women who take it the wrong way because they think they are God's gift to this earth and that only certain people are allowed the privilege to speak with them lol...

THIS ^

I don't like compliments...

Say I see a profile pic of someone showing off their abs... can I send them a simple message saying "Hey, great abs!" or "wow, nice abs... your hard work is really paying off!"

Is there even such a thing as an innocent compliment any more?

See, I personally think these are innocent enough compliments. Nice, even. When you move into the creeper territory, you pretty know you did and its generally on purpose. I like to think that most people are just being nice and paying a compliment...

As a guy I think it's OK compliment general appearance.

" That dress looks nice on you"
"That color looks good on you"

Or something similar. Don't get specific about a specific area or use there word "hot" or "sexy" or anything as aggressive as that.

It seems best to keep it simple and a little more general.

Good advice. ^^^ I agree -- sometimes focusing on specific parts can be perceived as creepy.

Personally, I've never had an issue with the compliment.. it's the strange maniacal laugh and air hump I do right afterwards that sends creeper signals.

IRL body language can play in to it ... if you sweep up behind me and I can feel you sniff my hair, don't compliment me on it...


But in general, a simple "Nice Abs.. hard work.. blah blah" is fine .. as is "Your perfume smells very nice" .. are totally acceptable and awesome, IMO. I think people should give more compliments when they're due.

Creepiness is mostly created by the receiver. Say what you want, but be prepared to duck!

False.

There is absolutely a way to compliment without being creepy. The two examples you gave are both fabulous and very probably wouldn't be taken as creepy. Now, if you were to send an essay going on about the way that person's abs glistened or how very seductive that perfume was ... that's creepy.

A simple compliment, though? Welcomed and appreciated.

Having said that, you look absolutely incredible!

I'll second this one!

Recently I was trying out a new perfume...can't seem to find one I like for the fall/winter season. While out shopping, I had a gentlemen compliment it....I did blush and laugh a little b/c I'm a geek about taking compliments LoL however I just said thank you and was NOT creeped out, made me feel good

For instance: A message saying "You sure do got a pretty mouth" is not the way to go when complimenting a lady. Neither is it impressive because you've screwed the whole line up from the movie douche!

.....based on true events :laugh:

I often wonder this... both on sites like this one (where there are a lot of attractive people showing off attractive bodies) and just in every day life. As a guy, how can I give a woman a compliment without it being creepy or a come-on or whatever else.

Say I see a profile pic of someone showing off their abs... can I send them a simple message saying "Hey, great abs!" or "wow, nice abs... your hard work is really paying off!"

If I'm inline behind someone at Target and I notice their perfume, can I say, "I like your perfume"?

Is there even such a thing as an innocent compliment any more?

Yes. There is such a thing as an "innocent compliment".

On a site like this, where everyone is working on their health and fitness, it is perfectly proper to congratulate someone on their weight loss, say they are looking great in their new photos, have worked hard on their abs and it shows etc

Don't forget people posted their photos on the website for a reason ... they want to share their accomplishments with the rest of the forum.

As far as elsewhere is concerned, co-workers comment on my appearance from time to time. They are like brothers. It isn't scary, and no offence is meant or taken.

As far as commenting on somebody's perfume, I think it depends on the situation. You could start off by saying, I hope you don't mind me making a personal comment but ...

In the past I have commented to strangers (I am female) on the colours/texture of their jacket etc. They have smiled and thanked me for the compliment.

As long as you don't call her stunning or darling when you compliment a woman on here, I think the creep factor is very low.

TOLD YOU! I'm creeptastic...


darling.

if there is any doubt, just don't compliment. if you know that they are married or something, i don't think it's appropriate.

and for me, it's not about creepiness....i like a great compliment as much as the next girl. it's more about appropriateness. JMO.

IMHO, a compliment has nothing to do with interest. And without interest, married or not, has no bearing.

Would you also suggest a married man has no business complimenting another woman? I know some women will feel that way but I'd suggest it's their own insecurity that makes it not Ok.

A simple smile with a few kind words can really brighten someone's day. Wouldn't it be nice if everyone wanted to brighten someone's day?

if you want to compliment someone, go ahead. things said or done are always interpreted differently from person to person. you can't let someone's negative reaction stop you from being genuinely supportive, appreciative, etc....