Embarrassed by weight loss

I was like you when I was younger. Someone gave me some advice and that was to just say "thank you" and move on. You will start to bask in the attention if you just let go with the self consciousness. I am very shy, so I totally understand.

Same here.... especially when it's people I know... you're just not used to attracting so much attention... I know I'm still not...

For insecure people the anxiety can be bad....

Probably one of the best problems to have so, hey. No worries okay?

Just keep your responses simple. "Thank you" or "Great of you to notice" as you walk away do just fine! :happy:

At one point in my life, I lost 60 pounds. Unfortunately, I've since gained it all back, but I remember the feeling.

People didn't recognize me, people would do double-takes at me. Most people said I looked great and asked how I did it. (I think that is such a stupid question. What do you do to heathily lose a lot of weight? Diet & Exercise, duh!)

I remember the feeling of being taken aback by some of these comments, though. I remember thinking, "Was I that fat before? Is this person calling me fat by saying I've lost so much weight?" I sometimes felt embarrassed by how much weight I had on prior to the weight loss, but I never felt embarrassed by losing the weight. I just felt like, "Gosh, did I look THAT BAD?"

I have to be realistic though, the answers are YES! I did look that bad; I was that fat.

I'm more embarrassed about gaining the weight back now. That's something to be embarrassed about. But to be embarrassed about losing the weight? I'm not sure I get your meaning.

BE PROUD and when you feel like "Was I that fat?" The answer might be yes, but it is also in the past and that is something to be proud of. Accept that your "fat-self" was who you ONCE were, not who you are now. Keep telling yourself that you're leaving that fat person behind.

Also, I use the word fat a lot because that is what it is. It's not conducive to your health to lie to yourself and be unrealistic. It's fat, it needs to go and it is what it is.

:happy: I agree. I usually just say thank you, smile & move on.

I know what you mean

Id b like 'yep I bn workin out hard, thanks...then switch my behind away, Id almost break a hip switching....No nd 2 feel embrassed u worked really hard 2 get 2 wear u r...STRUT ur stuff!

Yes, i experienced that when I lost my weight. My coworkers at store where I worked were really encouraging and always telling me how great I was looking during my journey. Then customers who I knew would walk up and say things. Then my coworkers would tell people they knew who came into the store and introduce me. I felt really self conscious. The question always came up, 'how did you do it?' I got really tired of repeating myself. You should enjoy it while you can, though, because it does stop eventually. Hahaha!

I was like you when I was younger. Someone gave me some advice and that was to just say "thank you" and move on. You will start to bask in the attention if you just let go with the self consciousness. I am very shy, so I totally understand.

This is probably the best advice. I'm the type that would probably gloat and enjoy all the attention... at first... But after a while, it'd irritate me that I actually looked that bad before that it's now really noticeable. You've worked hard for your weight loss and you deserve praise for it. So don't let all the new (and well meant) attention and comments make you feel self-conscious about it.

I agree totally, and completely understand! My problem is the incessant comments made by family members. EVERY TIME THEY SEE ME (several times a week) they feel the need to say something. It is a tremendous amount of pressure - I really do not want to talk about my weight loss everyday. I appreciated it in the beginning, but now it has become oppressive. Yes, I understand that it has become very obvious I have lost weight (almost 70 lbs.), but am growing weary with just the thought of the constant attention if I lose the last 30. I do try to, "just say thank you." But these family members can't just leave it alone - they have to have a detail discussion about it - even tho the conversation is exactly the same every time. GRRR.... It's like a daily reminder that I was obese. How do you move on and let all of that go if you are constantly reminded?

:-) Funny and cute!

Don't be embarrassed or apologetic! Say "Thank you, your encouragement keeps me motivated." I lost 75 lbs last year and people didn't recognized me if they hadn't seen me for quite awhile. That was a very uncomfortable feeling. My husband is in a very public job position so I meet a lot of people and only see them once or twice a year. Sometimes they can't remember me from before the weight loss so I just pretend that we have never met. They usually give me a puzzling look and say "Have we met before?" I just smile and say "no, it's nice to meet you!"

Recently I was re-introduced to a friend of my sister's, and she told my sister later , "I didn't know you had two sisters!" She remembered meeting the fat me, and mistakenly thought the improved version of me was a different person.

I try to reply with a thank you, I have been trying! and then move on. Because it also makes me feel strange.

The weirdest thing though, is I have a new job. The people I work with have only seen the recent version of me...so I get a lot of questions about why I won't eat in the cafeteria, etc. I finally brought out the "before" pics, and enjoyed their shocked faces.

Haha. My best friend has lost a lot of weight recently sort of on accident. She just started living with & hanging out with people who were more active & ate healthier. Whenever someone comments on it, she gets all embarrassed and says that she feels like people are “checking her out” lol.

I’m almost the opposite. I love when people compliment me, but I have been a dancer (not pole lmao) since I was tiny and am used to people looking at my body. Enjoy it! Live it up!

This kind of reminds me of when I was skinny. I was never overweight until after college. When I was in my teens, I got compliments right and left about my appearance, and I hated it, because I didn't do anything to look like that. I wanted to be complimented on my personality or work ethic, but not on my appearance.

After I gained weight, hardly anyone says anything to me about it, and it's almost nice being bigger, because the conversations lead to what I'm actually doing.

I think when I lose the weight, I will enjoy some compliments here or there, but if they start pouring in, I might be angry, because I hate being objectified. I don't exist simply for people to look at.