I need to vent about my ex!!

You know what happens when you assume?

You get pregnant. Every Dang Time!

;-)

No, you make an *kitten* out of u and me!

Road Dog - To be fair mate I don't think your original post was that bad. People always jump on the over reaction bandwagon.

Thank you, but I did not translate my thoughts to print well and I learned from it.

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

This is what upsets me about your and your posts to my comments - because this isn't the first time....

1. You insinuate I would tell my child any of this
2. You insinuate I'm lying
3. You insinuate I'm not acting like an adult
4. You repeatedly come across as having a holier than thou attitude - yet post things asking who has had an affair to state that you'd never cheat and have never cheated on your wife of 20+ years. Is it fair to then assume you're also lying as there's two other sides to that story? If I recall, you were once divorced, and have discussed it... You do not know anything about my divorce, but yet don't ask valid questions instead you have continually made assumptions. That is what I don't understand.

Coming to an anonymous message board to vent my frustrations, could actually be seen as a respectable way of releasing tension. You don't need to view it that way, but that's how I have chosen to deal with this stress.

So, in the spirit of honesty, I am telling you in a straight non-snarky manner, why I have a problem communicating with you. Take it as you will. It is a public message board and I respect everyone's right to respond as they wish.... And in that same spirit, this is my response to you.

BRAVO! *Standing ovation*

Agreed
much kinder than my reaction would have been

First of all, to Odusglup, I want to apologise. I was not trying to insinuate any of the things you thought I was insinuating. I take the beating for not articulating myself better. I had a similar situation many years ago and was trying to point out some of the things that we did wrong so that you might possibly avoid them yourself. I should have conveyed that in a private message. Again, I apologise, I was in no way suggesting that you were doing any of the things I was advising against.

As for the rest of you that stood up for her. Bravo. You should stand up for your friends. I apologise to you as well. There will be no need to administer an "*kitten*-whoopin" or a "beat down" , but if you feel that is the only way to defend her honor, feel free to send me a message for directions and I will give you the opportunity.

Nice apology Road Dog! Kudo's to you for apologizing and understanding how she felt with your earlier post.

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

This is what upsets me about your and your posts to my comments - because this isn't the first time....

1. You insinuate I would tell my child any of this
2. You insinuate I'm lying
3. You insinuate I'm not acting like an adult
4. You repeatedly come across as having a holier than thou attitude - yet post things asking who has had an affair to state that you'd never cheat and have never cheated on your wife of 20+ years. Is it fair to then assume you're also lying as there's two other sides to that story? If I recall, you were once divorced, and have discussed it... You do not know anything about my divorce, but yet don't ask valid questions instead you have continually made assumptions. That is what I don't understand.

Coming to an anonymous message board to vent my frustrations, could actually be seen as a respectable way of releasing tension. You don't need to view it that way, but that's how I have chosen to deal with this stress.

So, in the spirit of honesty, I am telling you in a straight non-snarky manner, why I have a problem communicating with you. Take it as you will. It is a public message board and I respect everyone's right to respond as they wish.... And in that same spirit, this is my response to you.

BRAVO! *Standing ovation*

Agreed
much kinder than my reaction would have been

First of all, to Odusglup, I want to apologise. I was not trying to insinuate any of the things you thought I was insinuating. I take the beating for not articulating myself better. I had a similar situation many years ago and was trying to point out some of the things that we did wrong so that you might possibly avoid them yourself. I should have conveyed that in a private message. Again, I apologise, I was in no way suggesting that you were doing any of the things I was advising against.

As for the rest of you that stood up for her. Bravo. You should stand up for your friends. I apologise to you as well. There will be no need to administer an "*kitten*-whoopin" or a "beat down" , but if you feel that is the only way to defend her honor, feel free to send me a message for directions and I will give you the opportunity.

Really sort of sick of these threats RD. You are not near the bad *kitten* that you'd have others believe, and maybe you believe as well. Easy to say "travel across the country, I'll kick yer *kitten*". Meaningless really isn't it.

lol, i have three exes. none of them are presently in my life , and i like it. My last ex, and father of my four year old, is equally as mature as yours. His last stunt was to claim to social services i do cocaine. So i took a test, passed it with flying colors, and now he has to shut up. My house which i owned solely before i met him , was trashed by friends of his, my oldest daughter caught him with an 18 year old, and he was of no financial support or help for my daughter. He threatened our lives twice, injured my two older children, and falsely reported whatever he could make up to social services. He could never take responsibility for any mistakes he made, and has a gambling and drinking problem. Which he will never admit to. He started an arguement with a nurse last year in the town my kids and i moved away from the year before, and then tried to blame me for it.lol . he filed a complaint with the regional health board about this same nurse, and the person in charge of the complaint department phoned me. When she asked who did i discuss my situation with that would work in that region, i told the truth, his mother. Yes i know its a shame we both can't be grown-ups for my daughter's sake. But guess what, he won't be changing. And i know this.I could trust a total stranger more than him any day, and he will never stop trying to harass me.But he now has no knowledge of where we live. And i will be keeping it that way. for my kids and my safety. Oh and also, he and i were never married.But he still threatened to try to take me for half of my house. Even though i owned it solely before he moved himself in, and i worked two jobs usually to support my family.While he sat on his duff collecting unemployment for four months.Lol the word loser often comes to peoples minds when i reflect upon anything about him.When i did try to keep up his relationship seeing our daughter,as it used to be court ordered, i used to have to drive for an hour and a half to get there. On winter roads, and all. Still he would be a jerk. one time the highways were closed, and it was still my fault as far as he was concerned, as he said i was just using an excuse not to drive her there. Yes i conclude, he is not worth the bother, nor did he appreciate any time with her,that he was given.