Giving sufferer's of ED's a bad name.

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LemonPoppySeedMuffin
LemonPoppySeedMuffin Posts: 302
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I suffer from anorexia, along with other mental disorders. It makes me cringe when I see another ED sufferer encourage & support unhealthy behaviours on others. When I see someone who hasn't eaten enough I try encourage them to eat more then I see other sufferers congratulating them. Are they trying to kill that person? I don't understand how anyone can praise eating disorder thoughts & behaviours.
Even at my lowest of the low, I'd never want to see anyone go through what I go through. I don't want anyone else to go through this hell. If I could, I'd take everyone else's pain off them & suffer for them!
I just hate the bad picture we have, there some of us (like me) who would do anything to get rid of EDs.
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  • MonkeyLover1993XxX
    MonkeyLover1993XxX Posts: 36
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    I suffer from anorexia, along with other mental disorders. It makes me cringe when I see another ED sufferer encourage & support unhealthy behaviours on others. When I see someone who hasn't eaten enough I try encourage them to eat more then I see other sufferers congratulating them. Are they trying to kill that person? I don't understand how anyone can praise eating disorder thoughts & behaviours.
    Even at my lowest of the low, I'd never want to see anyone go through what I go through. I don't want anyone else to go through this hell. If I could, I'd take everyone else's pain off them & suffer for them!
    I just hate the bad picture we have, there some of us (like me) who would do anything to get rid of EDs.
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    Luckily I've managed to befriend people who seem to be free of ED. It is def not helpful for people who are mentally ill to be egged on by the people who are not suffering from ED. In order to keep you healthy and on the right track, I wouldn't do anything but delete. You can't save the world, and chances are a couple posts from you about eating more is not going to help them get the help they need. Delete to prevent triggering and keep trying.

    GL.
  • Aviendha_RJ
    Aviendha_RJ Posts: 600 Member
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    OMG - Can't tell you how many times I've seen "good job" written by friends onto days when someone had COFFEE for breakfast... & salad for lunch, & 180 calories of SOUP for dinner. THEN they exercise like, 2000 calories off, & have a deficit of 2500 calories for the day. I could SHOOT people! :explode:

    When I say "you should have more for breakfast... some eggs, or some cereal with fruit... a piece of toast and peanut butter and some yogurt or something" I get UNFRIENDED.

    These people make me sick. And the REALLY sad part? They're making THEMSELVES sick in the name of getting healthy.
  • wbgolden
    wbgolden Posts: 2,071 Member
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    oh that ED. nevermind...
  • sarahkatara
    sarahkatara Posts: 826 Member
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    It's very sad. I struggled horribly for years and am in recovery from anorexia. it's a terrible thing. Try and find healthy friends and if you need any healthy support, encouragement, or motivation, please friend me. if health is your goal, i'm happy to be there for you. i know what it's like- it sucks, but it's going to be the best thing you ever do.
  • JacksMom12
    JacksMom12 Posts: 1,044 Member
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    Luckily I've managed to befriend people who seem to be free of ED. It is def not helpful for people who are mentally ill to be egged on by the people who are not suffering from ED. In order to keep you healthy and on the right track, I wouldn't do anything but delete. You can't save the world, and chances are a couple posts from you about eating more is not going to help them get the help they need. Delete to prevent triggering and keep trying.

    GL.

    THIS ^^
  • LemonPoppySeedMuffin
    LemonPoppySeedMuffin Posts: 302
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    OMG - Can't tell you how many times I've seen "good job" written by friends onto days when someone had COFFEE for breakfast... & salad for lunch, & 180 calories of SOUP for dinner. THEN they exercise like, 2000 calories off, & have a deficit of 2500 calories for the day. I could SHOOT people! :explode:

    When I say "you should have more for breakfast... some eggs, or some cereal with fruit... a piece of toast and peanut butter and some yogurt or something" I get UNFRIENDED.

    These people make me sick. And the REALLY sad part? They're making THEMSELVES sick in the name of getting healthy.

    It frustrates me so much too. I've also been unfriended loads of times trying to encourage others to eat more. Some sufferer's of EDs can have quite manipulative personalities too so they can suck anyone in easily.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
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    For the majority of site users, being slightly under for calories warrants a "good job". If any of my friends on here have an ED, I don't know about it, so I'm hoping that they are all using this site to get healthier, not starve themselves. I certainly don't want to encourage a victim of ED to harm themselves, but I also dont want to intrude by asking personal questions. Also, I usually don't read every diary.
    If people with EDs are using this site to monitor their food to make sure they are getting enough calories, I applaud them for being diligent in taking care of themselves. Hopefully this is the case.
  • MusicKeepsMeSane
    MusicKeepsMeSane Posts: 309
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    It's very sad. I'm trying to recover from an ED and some days where I eat little food I'm still getting comments saying "awesome" "good job", etc. I see that on everyone else's too. I notice that some people eat like a total of 900 calories for the day and then burn 500 during exercise. That's only a net of 400 a day and that shouldn't be encouraged. Whenever I see that I tell people that they need to try and get a net of at least 1200 calories. I get so angry when people are encouraging / giving positive feedback to people who are making very unhealthy eating decisions. If I don't like the comments I get from people on days when I have a bad day I will unfriend them. I don't need people encouraging negative behavior!
  • Phoenix1401
    Phoenix1401 Posts: 711 Member
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    oh that ED. nevermind...

    LMAO! I KNOW RIGHT?
    Sadly that's why I came here just to giggle and think about "Smilin Bob" xD
  • rebeccaME207
    rebeccaME207 Posts: 90 Member
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    For the majority of site users, being slightly under for calories warrants a "good job". If any of my friends on here have an ED, I don't know about it, so I'm hoping that they are all using this site to get healthier, not starve themselves. I certainly don't want to encourage a victim of ED to harm themselves, but I also dont want to intrude by asking personal questions. Also, I usually don't read every diary.
    If people with EDs are using this site to monitor their food to make sure they are getting enough calories, I applaud them for being diligent in taking care of themselves. Hopefully this is the case.

    i agree! Im here cause i cant stay under my cals ! we are all here for different goals. and if I see a pal who wants to be a bit under not over in order to be healthier im gonna praise the. I think this place encourages healthy living and eating not way to just drink coffee all day!
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
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    I suffer from anorexia, along with other mental disorders. It makes me cringe when I see another ED sufferer encourage & support unhealthy behaviours on others. When I see someone who hasn't eaten enough I try encourage them to eat more then I see other sufferers congratulating them. Are they trying to kill that person? I don't understand how anyone can praise eating disorder thoughts & behaviours.
    Even at my lowest of the low, I'd never want to see anyone go through what I go through. I don't want anyone else to go through this hell. If I could, I'd take everyone else's pain off them & suffer for them!
    I just hate the bad picture we have, there some of us (like me) who would do anything to get rid of EDs.

    I completely agree. It took me years to conquer my battle with an eating disorder, and I never thought such behavior would be glorified. I understand wanting to befriend others going through the same thing, but in order to be strong and support each other to have the courage to try and get healthy, not to encourage this deadly behavior.
  • LemonPoppySeedMuffin
    LemonPoppySeedMuffin Posts: 302
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    Even if someone is overweight & they are clearly starving themselves, I will say something. Nobody's body deserves to be starved, no matter how big or small they are.
  • rebeccaME207
    rebeccaME207 Posts: 90 Member
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    obviously! :smile:
  • LemonPoppySeedMuffin
    LemonPoppySeedMuffin Posts: 302
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    It is sick and wrong....but...but....
    you should know better than anyone that hearing, "Eat more honey, you're too thin." only encourages.
    In a world where that's all you hear, it's nice to have an ally.
    In the world of addiction, addicts encourage addicts. Here, do another line with me.
    Sucks, but not being alone is nice.
    Sick and wrong, but that's the point.

    You can show someone that they aren't alone by other forms. How can you justify encouraging their bad ED behaviours?
  • TheDoctor90
    TheDoctor90 Posts: 461 Member
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    It is sick and wrong....but...but....
    you should know better than anyone that hearing, "Eat more honey, you're too thin." only encourages.
    In a world where that's all you hear, it's nice to have an ally.
    In the world of addiction, addicts encourage addicts. Here, do another line with me.
    Sucks, but not being alone is nice.
    Sick and wrong, but that's the point.

    You can show someone that they aren't alone by other forms. How can you justify encouraging their bad ED behaviours?

    That's not what she said. No where did she say you can justify encouraging ED behaviour. What Erin said (and is completely correct) is that saying 'eat more, you're too skinny' rarely has the desired effect, and actually, only encourages poor behaviour.
  • caveats
    caveats Posts: 493 Member
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    Yeah, Erin's right. The "you're too thin" confirms for the person with ED that what they're doing is correct (because they WANT the "too thin" look -- think about what supermodels look like -- TOO THIN!) <--- also, to clarify, I also did not read into Erin's comment that she encourages ED behavior, and neither do I

    What we need to encourage is healthy eating. So "eat more, eat this, eat that" because "I'm worried about your health" and "I care about you" is the message we're trying to get across.
  • olivetree_
    olivetree_ Posts: 75 Member
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    There's this girl I know, she has anorexia and bulimia. She used to look at pictures of stunningly beautiful girls and call them fat and ugly; she'd tell people that they were gross and if she looked like them, she'd cry every day. She's told me and a lot of other people to "befriend" Ana and Mia. I cannot explain how angry that makes me. When you have an ED, you know how hard and terrible it is to deal with it. How can you encourage someone to go through the same pain?

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