Does Anyone Get Annoyed...
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Quite frankly, after traveling to Europe an other parts of the world who are not dealing with an obesity epidemic of the same magnitude as the US, I've realized that Americans have a strange view of what is a "healthy" weight. We are so used to seeing people who are overweight that we think people who are healthy weight are "too thin." Not saying this is what is going on with the OP, but just making a related remark.
This is so true. I went to Korea for a 3 weeks and I was amazed by the amount of thin people and really sprightly people 70+... an old lady was doing hula hoops with a bit of black garden tubing outside her apartment when I went to visit a friend... turns out she is 80!! Apparently alot of older people exercise in this way and it keeps their body "in balance" because it requires full body coordination.
My parents are both overweight - obese. everywhere we went the little stall holder ladies were trying to sell my mum "BIG SIZE!!", or L - XL in Australia (AUD/UK 16, US 14) which was something like XXL - XXXL for them. Most womens clothing is only a "one size fits all" (small/medium) which ranges between AUS/UK XS - S (~6/8 and 8/10) or a US S - M ~4/6 and 6/8.
When I got back to Australia, people I used to think were an acceptable weight started looking really unhealthy.0 -
Quite frankly, after traveling to Europe an other parts of the world who are not dealing with an obesity epidemic of the same magnitude as the US, I've realized that Americans have a strange view of what is a "healthy" weight. We are so used to seeing people who are overweight that we think people who are healthy weight are "too thin." Not saying this is what is going on with the OP, but just making a related remark.
This is so true. I went to Korea for a 3 weeks and I was amazed by the amount of thin people and really sprightly people 70+... an old lady was doing hula hoops with a bit of black garden tubing outside her apartment when I went to visit a friend... turns out she is 80!! Apparently alot of older people exercise in this way and it keeps their body "in balance" because it requires full body coordination.
My parents are both overweight - obese. everywhere we went the little stall holder ladies were trying to sell my mum "BIG SIZE!!", or L - XL in Australia (AUD/UK 16, US 14) which was something like XXL - XXXL for them. Most womens clothing is only a "one size fits all" (small/medium) which ranges between AUS/UK XS - S (~6/8 and 8/10) or a US S - M ~4/6 and 6/8.
When I got back to Australia, people I used to think were an acceptable weight started looking really unhealthy.
I was in Spain last year at 230 lbs. My luggage with all my clothes got lost, and I could not find any clothes to fit me. The XL size in Europe is more like a large medium in America.0 -
I only get annoyed by judgmental people.0
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I have much better things to worry about.0
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I started worrying about my weight and trying to lose weight before I had a weight problem. I really thought I was fat at 105 pounds size 6. I believe that trying to lose weight when i was normal is what messed me up in the first place. So I do worry about them, try to give them gentle warnings, but at the same time don't push it because who am i to judge and i wouldn't have listened to anyone way back when.0
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Well, look at it this way. You saying you're annoyed by skinnier folks on MFP is equally as bad as the skinny folks posting something about how they're annoyed by all the fat people. Do you know what kind of reaction that would ensue? That person would be in for a world of angry messages.
The point I'm trying to make is, you can never judge a book by it's cover... or condemn someone for trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Mannnny women and men suffer from bodydismorphic disorder--which is what you see in the mirror, and what really exists are two very different things. A lot of what we do here, and in the weight-loss world, is strictly psychological. Mind over matter. The only thing you should be concerned with is YOUR health and weight loss. If others seem like they are moving in the wrong direction, try to help them, don't get annoyed.
For many of us this is our first time trying to get back in shape. And don't forget, just because you may be "skinny" doesn't mean you are in shape (which is what one of the previous posts was eluding to). A "skinny" person could have just as many health problems as a "fat" person, which, might I add is a label. People have names, they shouldn't be grouped into these stereotypical groups like "fat" and "skinny" and "cute" and "ugly". That's the first problem, and if we work to stop it here-- we will be able to carry it into our lives and start practicing what we preach.
My point is just, don't get annoyed-- help the people that need help, and if they don't want it, then it is no longer your issue as their MFP friend. We're all here to support, motivate, and inspire one another... posts and blogs that are negative like this just don't do anyone any good. When I'm annoyed with someone, I simply delete them-- that;s all you have to do.
Good luck
Well said. for years I was underweight to the point of unhealthy..... I was constantly told to eat, I did eat..I was called so many names for being skinny... yet no one knew the unlaying issue... Now here I am over weight yet ppl don't tell you to stop eating when they see you are over weight..0 -
Quite frankly, after traveling to Europe an other parts of the world who are not dealing with an obesity epidemic of the same magnitude as the US, I've realized that Americans have a strange view of what is a "healthy" weight. We are so used to seeing people who are overweight that we think people who are healthy weight are "too thin." Not saying this is what is going on with the OP, but just making a related remark.
This is so true. I went to Korea for a 3 weeks and I was amazed by the amount of thin people and really sprightly people 70+... an old lady was doing hula hoops with a bit of black garden tubing outside her apartment when I went to visit a friend... turns out she is 80!! Apparently alot of older people exercise in this way and it keeps their body "in balance" because it requires full body coordination.
My parents are both overweight - obese. everywhere we went the little stall holder ladies were trying to sell my mum "BIG SIZE!!", or L - XL in Australia (AUD/UK 16, US 14) which was something like XXL - XXXL for them. Most womens clothing is only a "one size fits all" (small/medium) which ranges between AUS/UK XS - S (~6/8 and 8/10) or a US S - M ~4/6 and 6/8.
When I got back to Australia, people I used to think were an acceptable weight started looking really unhealthy.
I was in Spain last year at 230 lbs. My luggage with all my clothes got lost, and I could not find any clothes to fit me. The XL size in Europe is more like a large medium in America.
I completely agree. I live in Japan and what is considered overweight here is seen as "skinny" in the U.S.
I am already "skinny" by American standards, but I want to be skinny by Japanese standards.
I have never been overweight by U.S. standards, and even in Japan I am often called "thin," however, I want to be thinner -- skinny.
Just because someone is thinner than you does not mean they are more comfortable in their bodies. I am losing weight not just because I want thinner limbs, but I want a thinner face. I am extremely conscious of this, and part of the reason I am on this diet is to get out of a $20,000 surgery that I would have to get to achieve the same results that being thinner would bring (my face shape).
If you do not want friends who are already thin and still trying to lose weight, maintain, or become more fit...you do not have to.
I also do not appreciate receiving warnings from people about how I should not be losing weight etc. There are plenty of people in real life who will let me know if I get too thin. There are people whos final goal weight/success photos I feel are still overweight, but I keep my mouth shut because what matters most is that these people are finally happy with themselves. I would hope that people would do the same for people such as myself whos goal might be underweight.0 -
well according to the bmi chart, last year i was underweight by 10lbs and that was with some muscle :P
fitness means being in contest shape for a bodybuilder or power lifter/strongman. Sometimes bodyfat has to be below what is "normal"0 -
Hmm... I'll comment from the other side. I'm a size 4 (in part bc I have small hips), and have a healthy BMI (though just above mid-range normal) and muscle - wonder if I'm the kind of person you're talking about. I wonder if people get annoyed when I talk about wanting to lose weight, though in real life, the majority of the time the friend I'm talking with wants to lose weight, too, and seems to be relieved that it isn't just her. I think there are very few people in this country - even the healthy-weight ones - that don't wish to be in better shape of some kind.
I don't think I have an eating disorder, but I have very slowly gained weight since college and I'd like to get in better shape to see my abs, feel more confident in a bikini, and be able to run a 5K in under 30 minutes. I'd also like to work on healthy habits now, so that that slow weight increase doesn't continue and bite me ten years from now. I'm really thankful for the body I already have, though I'm so close to a body I'd be even more proud of - so why not truly go for it?
I also really like MFP because it helps me with my emotions - logging my calories encourages me to deal with my emotions directly rather than to eat because of them... which helps me with other areas in life, in general. It also encourages me to be healthy in general... when health isn't a priority for me, I start drinking enough Diet Coke that my stomach hurts the next morning from it, and that's no good... healthy BMI or not.
Plus, knowing that I can do this one thing would give me more confidence for accomplishing other goals in my life.
I really love MFP. I think healthy habits - eating and exercise - and a community to support that and make that more possible - is a key area that, when mastered, just really improves everything in my life all-around. Thanks, MFP!
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No thin people don't annoy me because I am one of those "thin" people.
I was thin my entire life up until college.. then my eating/drinking/stress habits got out of control and I gained roughly 40 pounds. Since I am tall though, it didn't look like I was overweight or needed to lose any weight. To me though, I was a fat blob who needed to lose weight badly, but didn't want to. Now that I'm out of college and have lost 28 of the 40 pounds and am smaller then ever, I'm a lot happier.
Do I judge people for being overweight? No.. because it's not my place to judge them. Being on both ends on the spectrum puts my perspective in order.0 -
Who am I to judge others for being too thin, too fat, too anything!! That's the reason why the majority of people are here in the first place, because someone has passed judgement on them.0
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i get a little bit annoyed at first... because they don't have to work as hard as i have to lose this weight and they don't need to. so it's more jealousy. i just don't want to hear about how they are already at a good weight for their height and are obsessing about stuff. but sometimes they come on here because they have low self esteem and this makes them feel better, want to tone or build muscle, etc. it's kind of sad because some of these individuals really think they are heavy or out of shape because they have a body image disorder. i've been there myself when i was a teen so i can't say i blame them. i counted calories back then and i'm sure if MFP was available when i was 16 i would have done it. probably the best thing to do if they annoy you, is just not friend them and don't respond to their stuff. just talk to people on here who are trying to lose weight to be healthy and actually need to. that's what i try and do. so at first i'm annoyed by those people and then i just feel sorry for them because they have no idea they are actually already in great shape. i'll be very excited when i'm at my goal weight and they will just not be.0
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I try not to waste my energy on letting things that really have no effect on me get to me.0
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I also think it greatly depends on your own perception of what "big" or "skinny" is. To someone who weighs 250lbs, 160lbs is going to seem like a wonderful small size. But to someone who always weighed 120 lbs and gained 20 so they now weigh 140lbs that is going to be big and uncomfortable. And for someone who has a small frame and is very active and toned 115lbs can work fine with out being underweight.0
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When I see a skinny person on here saying they need to loose weight, I'm like "pleaseee, have you looked in the mirror". But I don't get annoyed per say. Everyone has in their own mind how they would like their body to look and who am I to judge whether they want to be skinner or not? We've all had it happen, people judge by appearances, it can't be helped, and for anyone to say they don't judge by appearance, well I can't believe that it hasn't happened.0
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Being annoyed by that would actually require that I care what other people are doing. I try to limit my caring to things I can actually do something about and leave everyone else to their own business. I choose to enjoy my internet time, not be pissed about a fraction of a percent of the MFP population.0
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But for anyone of any size...if food is an emotional comfort, and body image is a big factor (which in this society is true for most of us whether we tackle our demons or not) the two can lead us on a constant struggle to maintain weight. I wouldn't get mad at these people. We don't know where they are. I've been 180, 118, 129, and currently 146. I'm 5' 4" small framed and getting ready to be an aerobics instructor. I don't feel 146 is a bad weight, but it's too much weight for me. My ideal would be 127. That is not too skinny. And to me would send off a much better representation of the program I am representing, would help my performance, and would be much easier on my poor feet! But it is a constant struggle for me. Since I quit smoking 3 years ago (when I was 130) food has become more emotional for me like the cigarettes were and it is such a struggle to keep my weight down. It's awful. I don't weigh 200lbs but that doesn't mean I'm not in a battle. Being in a battle it why I don't weigh 200 YET. It's hard for a lot of us at any size. Be easy on them.0
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I only get annoyed by judgmental people.
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Being annoyed by that would actually require that I care what other people are doing. I try to limit my caring to things I can actually do something about and leave everyone else to their own business. I choose to enjoy my internet time, not be pissed about a fraction of a percent of the MFP population.
Bravo.0 -
You should also take into account that there are some underweight people on here to gain weight. I'm a healthy weight with a healthy bmi. My goal is to lose a little weight (not too much) but mostly be lean and gain more muscle.0
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Does anyone get annoyed when you see really skinny people on here?
I am NOT talking about people that are completing their weight loss journey (kudos to you!).
I am NOT talking about people that are recovering from eating disorders (good on you for getting help!).
I am NOT talking about people who are just looking to maintain their current healthy weight.
I am talking about people who are slim, always been slim, SERIOUSLY don't need to lose a pound or worry about maintaining weight and yet they are still on here, complaining about not being able to lose 5kgs. Especially when losing another 5kgs would put them even further into the underweight range.
ARRRGH!
/end rant
I get annoyed because what they are really doing is calling attention to how skinny they are and how attractive they believe themselves to be. They are fishing for a compliment and/or wanting to make other people feel bad for being heavy/fat in comparison.0 -
why do you even concern yourself with this. just stay on your track, stay focused on your goals and let others do their thing. who knows they likely have their OWN goals to reach and might be looking for some support (i.e. gaining weight, logging macros, logging to see if they are eating enough, ED support, etc...).
just because someone is 'skinny' doesn't mean they should be a threat or that they are trying to diminish anyone elses goals. they are likely not trying to make you insanely jealous either.
i am biting my tongue here...and not saying more about it.
i can say that i find this post somewhat annoying.0 -
I use to jog on my lunch break everyday and my very over weight supervisor would tell me she didn't know why I jogged as skinny as I was. I never said anything but I felt she really needed to think about what she was saying.0
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Absolutely not. Slim is not an exclusive club and if they need the tools on this sight to maintain their health, all the power to them. Why belittle or deny someone else? Isn't that the exact thing heavier people don't like themselves. I think all encouraging people on a health quest should be welcome here.
Laura0 -
This web site needs a "like" button.0
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I once made the mistake of entering my height and weight in a post telling someone what worked for me. Because I happen to be 3 stinking lbs under-weight I was set on fire.
Ever sense then I am very afraid of commenting or being helpful for fear of being "put in my place" again. I went from 175 to a weight I'm extremely happy with and I have things to share, but I'm not as comfortable as I once was because of the assumption that if you are thin; you are trying to slam others, or your just seeking attention, or that it's been so easy for me in comparison to the "real" people on the boards.
This has really hurt me and I would like to thank the OP for starting this topic so I had a chance to address how I've been feeling. Thank you, and I mean that very honestly, I didn't feel comfortable starting a thread that expressed this but I feel so much better getting this off my chest. It has really effected my MFP experience.0 -
I once made the mistake of entering my height and weight in a post telling someone what worked for me. Because I happen to be 3 stinking lbs under-weight I was set on fire.
Ever sense then I am very afraid of commenting or being helpful for fear of being "put in my place" again. I went from 175 to a weight I'm extremely happy with and I have things to share, but I'm not as comfortable as I once was because of the assumption that if you are thin; you are trying to slam others, or your just seeking attention, or that it's been so easy for me in comparison to the "real" people on the boards.
This has really hurt me and I would like to thank the OP for starting this topic so I had a chance to address how I've been feeling. Thank you, and I mean that very honestly, I didn't feel comfortable starting a thread that expressed this but I feel so much better getting this off my chest. It has really effected my MFP experience.
Most people on this site have the right intentions and want to make sure that others are taking care of themselves...however I agree with you that some on here need a chill pill. They can get a little snipety.0 -
No thin people don't annoy me because I am one of those "thin" people.
I was thin my entire life up until college.. then my eating/drinking/stress habits got out of control and I gained roughly 40 pounds. Since I am tall though, it didn't look like I was overweight or needed to lose any weight. To me though, I was a fat blob who needed to lose weight badly, but didn't want to. Now that I'm out of college and have lost 28 of the 40 pounds and am smaller then ever, I'm a lot happier.
Do I judge people for being overweight? No.. because it's not my place to judge them. Being on both ends on the spectrum puts my perspective in order.
Whoa, you could be talking about me....scary! 0 -
Okay point proven, no one else doesn't like seeing underweight people complaining about being overweight.
I feel slightly concerned for them. Not annoyed. But then I realize that I don't know these people IRL, and no matter what I say to them they're likely not going to change their ways. And I also realize that I have enough to worry about in my life and I don't really have the extra energy it takes to be annoyed or worried about people I don't even know. And then POOF! I feel better.0 -
I feel slightly concerned for them. Not annoyed. But then I realize that I don't know these people IRL, and no matter what I say to them they're likely not going to change their ways. And I also realize that I have enough to worry about in my life and I don't really have the extra energy it takes to be annoyed or worried about people I don't even know. And then POOF! I feel better.Okay point proven, no one else doesn't like seeing underweight people complaining about being overweight.
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