LITERALLY CRAPPING MYSELF :( :(

Am I the only one that thought this was going to be an Alli post?

Okay so maybe my choice of title wasn't the best!
sorry if you were disappointed and wanted a topic about me pooing myself, that fortunately hasn't happened.

*yet

Hi sweetie. Happy Birthday. One of my best friends is gluten free and she is very aggressive about it. Go to the manager. Tell them your needs when you get there. Enjoy!

The more you can prepare the less stressful the event will be. Definitely phone ahead, check that they can accommodate your needs, if you are worried about calories tell them you are on a low fat diet for medical reasons?

However, I would far rather you let yourself enjoy a nice meal with your family without worrying about it, although I know it is not that easy.

I hope you have a lovely time, and try not to panic, try and tell yourself that whatever you have it will not have an impact in the long run!

I ate too much cheese and can't crap at all. So, it could be worse.

I definitely hope to help encourage you, definitely also want to suggest that whatever "real life", on-the-ground support you have had in the past for ED issues, you seek that out now. I don't have to tell you it's a serious disease, and worse still, to me, is just how much otherwise fun, productive or creative life energy these patterns seem to suck out of the people who are sick with them.

I admire you for recognizing that you should just be able to go enjoy your birthday with your loved ones, hold onto that rational thought... And yes, as to "days off", I can understand that if part of your deal is still learning how to not binge, for instance,"days off" could seem like things you can't have.

But in the scheme of healthy eating and food relationships, the healthy goal is to be able to have meals off plan once in a while (for most people social, travel, financial, health or work reasons usually dictate at least one meal a week that's not "controllable" or easy to plan ahead for) that you are comfortable with; to eat on a daily basis in a way that is leaving you feeling full and nourished, not hungry (which coddles anorexic/deprivation tendencies and makes us more prone to bingeing), so that when you're off plan, you're not freaking out with physical or emotional hunger. And of course, to be able to be off plan, at some fabulous thing, and have a couple of drinks, a bit of dessert, some cheese, whatever, without freaking out about body image issues...

First, remember that the reality is that, if you typically eat healthfully and get exercise, unless you have a metabolic disorder (In which case, you need a doctor), your body will just burn even a thousand extra calories in an unusual meal or day, and simply returning to your normal healthy habits the next meal or day is usually completely sufficient in the world of maintaining your fitness or weight, or staying on your weight-loss track. Second, remember that anyone's enjoyment of life is absolutely not worth sacrificing over food and body obsessions, even if a person does go off track enough to gain a little bit of weight, for instance. Which isn't what you're even facing, here.

Finally, if you're going to non-chain restaurants, I like to think that you're going to nice ones where the quality of the food is going to be a lot better, and you should bloody well enjoy that... Now, if it's a fish-fry place or something, I'm not so sure, but hell, I never eat at chains! Don't trust them, want to support local businesses, and can definitely get them to work with me if I have a special requirement...

Best wishes to you, Happy Birthday and Happy Thanksgiving!

i thought this was about really pooing yourself!!!! lol

happy bday!!!:flowerforyou:

You look beautiful. I agree with those who have said to call the restaurant ahead of time and work out what they have that you can feel good about eating. Even if it is not perfectly perfect, that will give you some sense of control in the process. I also agree with those who said one day is not going to ruin you, but I think that is not the point for you. It's about not feeling out of control that would send you into a spin. So make the phone calls, I'm certain you will feel better about it.

First Happy Birthday. Second, on the Gluten Free I think you're best at a non chain restaurant. I have to be GF and find that the local places are much more accommodating and understanding as to my needs. I say call ahead and ask #1 do they have a GF menu and #2 if they do not can they make something you like off their menu special order so it's GF. Most places are more than willing to accommodate you on this!

Third, although I've never had an ED, I would say #1 take a breath and #2 make a plan you can stick to so you don't freak out when you are at the restaurant. I find I make bad choices in these situations if I don't plan ahead. When I do plan, I have a good time and don't sweat that I'm eating a little more (I also will exercise heavily on days like this i.e. Thanksgiving!)

Lastly, Have fun and enjoy being with your family!

Best of luck!

Oh. Not litetally after all. I thought this was going to be a post about Alli.