WARNING: This is a downer

in the past i have, but now i have my focus...which in my opinion everyone needs to learn their own type of focus. it was difficult at first, but now my focus/exercise/logging food is a addiction that i am in love with...

takes time and determination....

Yup. I hear ya. I'm in a major fatty mode. Didn't even try over the weekend. Bad body image. not happy with 15 found lbs. I believe there is usualy an event..an ah ha moment that truely kicks weight loss into gear. Maybe I haven't found it yet? Very, very hard to believe.. Hang in there. Hard to always be up beat.

I get like that sometimes also. But it's a vicious cycle. It is really discouraging when you've been working so hard and you're about the same as you were before. Just keep being healthy, and if you lose weight, fantastic. Slow progress is a good thing, it means you're more likely to maintain that progress afterwards.

I came to terms with the fact i was fat a long time ago.

It took a lot longer to come to terms with the fact it was within my control and ability to lose it, i just had to stick with it no matter how i felt at the time.

I would recommend just putting your scale away if the number is putting you down...look for NSV's and be aware of how good you start to feel. That's the most important thing sometimes. Good luck with everything!

It's easy to give up. It takes courage to keep moving on. I think we all have a fighting spirit inside us. Use it to motivate yourself.

I was in that place. It was because I had gone to the gym for 20 years and still looked the same give or take 5 kgs. Now I've realised the definition of stupid is doing the same thing for 20 years and getting the same results and then getting depressed about it!!!! (I"m not calling you stupid by the way, I'm calling me stupid!!! )
so now I'm doing all sorts of different things I have found out about on here, Gillian Michaels DVds, next I"m doing Jamie eason, and I've also bought a HRM to make sure my calculations are all correct. And by changing what I do I'm getting results!!!
So maybe if you're in a funk its because you aren't getting results and you're not getting results because you're not doing the right things, or not doing new things that shock your body.
thats just what happened to me this year anyway

God gave you that body, it's now up to you to look after it. YOU CAN DO IT! Stay strong and keep going; you are worth it!

I think the main thing is WE HAVE TO HAVE PATIENCE! This isn't a race and the looks aren't going to come quick. Who know's, for certain body types it may take a year or more of discipline. Just stay focused and know it will pay off. There are people with health conditions that make it almost impossible to loose the fat, but some have still made it through. If they can do it, we can do it. We just have to work for it, stay focused, and never give up! How long has it taken us to get fat? So shouldn't we be fair and spend the time to get fit? You can do it. DISCIPLINE!

I did give up, I had given up, that's why I stopped doing cardio pretty much all together.

After I started lifting weights the scale started budging, and slowly it decreased. I'm now slimmer than I've ever been (which is still not slim, mind you) and all I do is lift weights at the gym. No running for hours, no bicycling or anything like that. I just pick up heavy things and put them back. I've in total now lost 7 kg (15 lbs which I couldn't shake no matter how hard I tried), just slowly vanished as my body grew stronger.

Well, everyone's different, but you should try free weights and stronglifts before you give up entirely. I've just gotten renewed hope in myself, and if nothing else, I know damn well I'm getting stronger.

I haven't given up, but I have had weeks where I've given up for a little while for the same reasons you cite.

One thing that keeps me going is that, while I want to be slim for all the shallow reasons like how I look and clothes I can wear, I also want to be healthy so that when I'm 50 or 60 or 70, I can still climb stairs and walk around amusement parks, etc. I exercise and eat healthy so that I can look forward to an active middle and old age. So even when the scale isn't moving, no matter how hard I try, that is what keeps me going.

I will offer this advice, though: Maybe you lost this week because you ate more. It's counterintuitive, I know, but sometimes that's what works. I was struggling for MONTHS. I had my calories set low and was exercising and killing myself and gaining or staying the same or fighting for tiny losses. I upped my calories by about 1,000 a day and lost 3.8 in three weeks. It's easier to sustain, doesn't feel like as much work and it WORKS.

Good luck. I hope you feel better tomorrow.

It's a question regarding survival and healthy living that you must ask yourself and only you can answer.

Plants have no choice of action. They seemingly are programed to act automatically for life. Their leaves unfold and reach up to the sun for its energy they use to produce food for themselves. Their roots dig deep into the ground in search for life sustaining water.

Animals in the wild use senses provided to them by nature. These "instincts" are an automatic code of action that dictates to them how they will react in a given situation. The acts of finding food, water and shelter, similar to the plants, seems to be programmed in them as they do what needs to be done in order to survive in the wild.

Humans on the other hand have one characteristic that makes us quite different from animals and plants. Our ability to think, reason, and override our programmed instincts. Given the ability to use our minds and think for ourselves some have "rationalized" and justified to themselves that they do not need to unfold their leaves and reach out toward the sun. That they do not need to find the nuts the trees have provided and store them up for the winter. They do not need to work diligently throughout the spring gathering sticks to build nests and shelter. That they do not need to eat healthy natural diets or exercise.

The question you must ask yourself is do YOU want to live a healthy life and survive on this planet? If the answer is YES then you must make the choices and take the actions best suited for your survival. The scale will only hurt you. Don't do it for the scale. The scale doesn't care about you. Only you care about you. Do it for yourself!

It's all about perspective and until your perspective becomes in line with the reality of the situation you will find it a constant uphill battle for life.

In the words of a famous fish... "Just keep swimming"

Now that puts a smile on my face

From your post you don't sound like you've come to terms with it - more like its really getting you down that the scales haven't changed. If you do stop any progress you've achieved by trying will be lost & some day you'll feel like you need to try again & may have gained more than you've lost making it even harder.
I read a line somewhere - 'this time next year you'll be glad you started today' - that is so true. Take some time out for you. Reassess the things that you can change & stick to. Then pick something every day/week new to change & stick with it.

Best of luck :flowerforyou:

Has anyone else given up? Simply come to terms with the fact that they are really healthy (speaking biometrically like cholesterol, glucose etc....) but they are just fat.

I think you have your answer if you say this sentence out loud. How do you say the word fat? does it spit off the end of your tounge in a dissapointed and distainful manner? If so you have not accepted it, you are just as unhappy about it but you have lost your drive towards your goal. Why don't you set your goal to maintain your current weightloss for a little while and then get back on the wagon when you feel like you can. It will come back to you so don't undo your hard work, just maintain it then you will be starting back just that little bit higher up the grid (sorry too much F1 this weekend)

If you've only lost 7lbs in the last 14 months (your join date was Sept 2010), you need to change things.
If you are 40lbs overweight (still just going by your ticker here), there is no reason you shouldn't be losing weight simply by eating right.

If you want to give up, that's your right. But from what I can see, you need to start before you can give up.

Focus on your goal, eat right, and get in any form of exercise, and you will lose weight.

If you've "Come to Terms" with being fat... I assume that means you are content being fat?
If you were content with it, then why are you being down? In my eyes, this would mean you are not content with it.

With a closed diary, and not knowing you, of course I could be wrong.. but.. it's unlikely.

Like Button!!! keeping it real!!