I am emotionally tired/non supportive spouse

Men!! How can he justify spending money on unhealthy food like ice cream and cake but complain about buying healthy food like turkey?? Does he want you to be unhealthy? But sadly you can't control what he eats, so just stick to your plan and leave the room when he starts eating junk food that temps you.

You can justify the price. I am also a picky spender at times, but I've realized that I have been cutting down how much I eat on my weight loss journey.... So I sacrificed portion size for better foods... I hope that makes sense. It's a win win for weight loss and even break financially:)

As for the sweets and deserts, you just have to be strong. You cannot expect someone else to stop how they eat if they don't want to change. This is a test to your mental strength. Just stay strong and don't eat it. If you have to eat it, make sure you fit it in your calorie count.

Remember that the most important rule of weight loss is Caloric Deficit.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

Fried Green Tomatoes...what a great reference! You need to stay strong for yourself...he'll catch on once he sees how determined you are. Sometimes, husbands need a little more time to register your needs.
HUGS!!

So well said. I think well atleast i hope they mean well. They just think differently than us. Mine eats whatever he wants because he can. Sometimes its hard. I love chocolate. Love love love it. So its hard to watch his skinny little self eat it.

like stated above stay strong and hopefully he will get the point! and if he doesn't well bring on Tawanda!! ( watch the movie youll get it ) LOL

HUGS!!!!
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I'm lucky my wife is pretty supportive but I haven't always been married too her. My last wife wasn't supportive of me loosing weight because of her own self esteem issues. When you start dealing with your eating behaviors its a sore reminder to the spouse of their bad eating behaviors and he's not in the same place as you. He just iant ready to deal with his own mess. Don't let that stop you. He can be in a different place than you and sometimes we forget that about our S.O.'s.

Try to remember he's someone you (once) loved and probably still do and do your thing hoping hell come out of the denial ignore it mode and be inspired by your hard work. I know its hard. But when he comes around (he will eventually) it will feel great. Keep up the hard work you are doing, I'm proud of you.

HUGS - One thing that I have learned is that you can't depend on anyone helping you get to your goal. After all, it's your goal and there's no guarantee that anyone will be on the same page at the same time as you are. I commend you for your task at hand! Losing weight is a tough thing sometimes and can be a very mental journey. It's always better to the trip with someone though when life doesn't present you with a buddy to travel with set the stakes very high and proceed alone. I'm not a fan of Chocolate Ice Cream either... Strap on your seat belt and go for it! It will be tough though it will be fun seeing yourself fit into things that you could not fit into before. You will begin to feel different about yourself which will make all the difference. This is something that no one can give you, you must get it for yourself but the affects can be eternal! It's worth it either alone or with your spouse.

Stay encouraged!

I'm not in your house, but I can understand the frustrations of not having someone be supportive. I liked the idea of cooking some turkey in the beginning of the week and then portioning it for sandwich as far as cost effectiveness. (I also like chicken in sandwiches and you can buy chicken breasts in bulk in a lot of stores.) Also, you might want to mentally and physically separate the healthy foods you like from his foods. I don't know if that's good advice or not, I guess just something to try. Perhaps if you're foods in a cabinet where you don't have to see his--or if they're in a separate drawer in the fridge, you can better support yourself in not gravitating towards his foods.

I'm assuming you guys cook and eat together for most meals. I've been looking for ways to cook foods in healthier ways, such as not using fats or oils when sateing, and instead using spices (Major four are black pepper, no-salt sodium alternative, garlic powder, cayenne pepper) and instead putting a reduced fat or sometime full fat cheese on my meats. (Go to is blue cheese)

I find baking with cooking spray and using spices also adds a lot of flavors to veggies, meats, etc. I'm also looking for lower sodium and calorie alternatives to whole grain cous cous, rices, etc.

Just some ideas, though I recognize that I'm by myself, so it's a lot easier to test foods and stay within a reasonable budget. Use the support you can get from people on here and in your life until your husband realizes what he's doing. There's a lot of mental and emotional crap we all go through around food and I'm assuming your husband is going through the same things. Hopefully he figures it out. Take care and let this site be your support!

I had a little bit of trouble with this in the beginning too. I'd be hungry and all my calories were gone and he'd be eating cookies, another bowl of cereal, etc. But I just had to realize that it's his choice, and not even a few weeks ago I was eating the same things as he was and I surely didn't want him to say something to me about it. So now I try to only worry about what I'm eating, though I understand that it's easier said than done when it means your partner is bringing in lots of junk to the house.

sending you big hugs! I'm also a wife whose husband doesn't understand my strieve to be better, eat better and do better. I can tell you from personal experience, you must do this for you! You can't control what he eats, when he eats it but you must have the self control to say no thank you. My husband eats junk every night, he used to bring me my favorite things after a while he noticed I wasn't eating them or tempting to eat them so know my surprises are grapes, yogurts, smoothies etc.

I know how you feel. My husband has a tendency to try and shove food down my face. He doesn't realize that I can only say No so many times before my willpower fails. He isn't trying to hurt me... he just thinks it is something I would enjoy and he is trying to be nice. Have you tried telling your husband that this is something that you need ot do for yourself. I have had the talk to my husband and it works for awhile and then he just reverts to old habits. Good luck and stay strong!