I can't do this anymore!

I'm right with you. I wish I could help but I'm hoping by you asking this question i will be able to find help for myself. I have been at this since June 2010 and i am sick of it. It is so frustrating. At one point I had lost 78 pounds and now I am only down 51 pounds. Still good but not good enough. Its sad to know that we worked so hard to just fall off like this. I am here for you but i don't have an answer for you. I'm hoping to get help also!! Good luck!

Hello,

Weight loss is hard...I go through ups and downs too! I think everyone does. I feel like you really need to focus on the outcome and what a healthy lifestyle will do for you. How do you feel after you eat cookies and candy? Not very well right!? How do you feel at the end of the day when you are under your calorie goal ? FABULOUS!!! I say GO FOR IT!!! Keep going! Why quit now??? Lets keep each other motivated :happy: -Rosalie

"How does one get back on track when they have no motivation or desire to do it anymore?"

The fact that you posted on here for help shows well enough that you DO have the desire to do it. Take it slowly, a day at a time, and remember that this is a long process with many successes and failures. Keep your eye on the goal and decide what is most important to you.

I always loved the quote "Suffer the pain of self discepline, or suffer the pain of regret. The choice is yours."



Good luck to you. You CAN do it if you want it bad enough. If you didnt want it bad enough you wouldnt be here.

It's so easy not to be motivated. Just keep telling yourself it's your gift to yourself. It helps me to visualize myself in a skinny pair of jeans.

I try to look at what is just ahead, like my next meal. I tell myself if I could get one great healthy meal in that would be a start. Then the next meal the same thing. It can be overwhelming so just start one meal at a time.

Keep tracking! When I started, I wan't able to get close to the calorie goals. Tracking will help you see where and when you are struggling and over time, make different choices.....I also like to focus on the activity side of things...."earning" additional calories by taking a 20 minute walk etc....good luck!

My demise began after the death of my wife mother, my mother, my father and her father over the course of 2 years (my folks 6 months to the day apart) the depression and loss took hold of me and I completely shut down. I didn't seek help and turned to food for comfort and that sent me into a tale spin. You really have to commit to a total lifestyle change... The word diet should never be used in anyone's vocabulary that has had or do have a weight problem... The very first thing I did when I hit rock bottom at 560 lbs. was bring in a 32 gallon trash can and remove everything from the house that caused me to get the way I was. I replaced them with healthy options (veggies, fruits, etc) was it an easy transition?? No not at all but overtime I got use to and actually began to like the new choices. I still allow myself a cheat meal from time to time but the rule is I go out to eat it and none of it comes home with me. If I had the bad choices in the house there is a good chance I would cave to the temptation so I just take that chance out of the equation. Like another poster said just remember back to when you was at your heaviest, do you really want to feel that way again. 28 months ago at 560 lbs. I couldn't even walk from one room to another without a rolling chair to get around on, I gasped for air just walking 20 feet, I had panic attacks if there wasn't a chair to sit down on cause if I went to the ground I couldn't get myself up. I would eat a 21 inch pizza and feel horrible and beat myself up for as long as it took for me to get hungry again then I was ready to eat whatever was in front of my face. These are just a few of things I was dealing with back then, and whenever I remotely start having a bad day I think about where I came from and how there is no way in Hell I would ever want to go back to that guy... He wasn't living a life he was just existing and not very well at that.... You have to tell yourself you are worth it and then follow through with it.... It is as easy as making a choice..... Do you choose life or the alternative??? I choose Life!!!

I was thinking the same thing as DWilbanks - set really small goals and take it one day (heck , even one hour) at a time. If you really want it, it will happen but trying to change your whole lifestyle overnight, especially with grief hanging on, is not an easy task. For this week, and maybe next week too, just make a commitment to track all your food, even those cookies. And if you stick to your goal and/or get on that treadmill, those are bonuses! Then after a week or two of that, your next goal is to continue logging and add at least 3 sessions of exercise per week. After a couple week of that, you can concentrate on sticking to your goal, or cutting down on sugar or whatever your next thing is.

Above all, don't punish yourself for having a rough day - that's only going to lead to emotional eating and you're going to start the vicious circle all over again. We're all human, we all have bad days. The most important thing to do is not let them drag into a bad week or bad month. Pick yourself up the next day and recommit to whatever your goal is for that week.

Rememeber why you started this journey; in your words " I need to get my life on track to live a very long time. I want to be there for my kids and grandkids and my husband. My unhealthy habits have worn off on all of them and I need to show them we all can be better than we are"

You CAN do it and we can help!

I'm so sorry for your loss. That must be painful. ):

Believe in yourself. Be kind to yourself. You DO still have motivation, because you took the time to post here. Give yourself a pat on the back for asking for help.

Take baby steps. Small, but consistent (every day) steps. Take time to be proud of yourself and grateful for every tiny step you make. If you make little steps every day, you'll get to the bigger stuff like long treadmill runs and healthy food.

Today, just put your workout clothes on, and stand on the treadmill. Seriously, it sounds silly but that's it. Pat yourself on the back for getting that far. Make yourself a list of tiny things you could do, every day. Some ideas:

-- Drink a half a glass of water
-- Eat 1 vegetable
-- Mindfully eat 1 cookie (notice every bite, eat it slowly, notice how it tastes and how it makes you feel).

I got these ideas both from a doctor, and from my mindfulness teacher. I was having a hard time getting started with meditation - and one thing she taught me was "start where you are". Don't go for a 20 minute meditation when you aren't used to it at all - just set out a mat and create a space. The next day, maybe sit down. The next day, try 30 seconds. And so on. My doctor, when I wanted to lose weight, wrote me an actual prescription telling me to celebrate the little steps and be grateful for every positive move I made. I'm going to frame that prescription.

Every tiny positive move towards your goal will encourage bigger steps. Just be patient with yourself and believe in yourself. I do! You've got this!