Whats divorce got to do with it?

I'm not a vengeful person but... you go girl! There is No sweeter revenge!

You can do this

I've noticed with a lot of friends and their friends even have lost weight rather quickly after a huge breakup, not even necessarily a divorce or due to infidelity. It's stressful to have your life drastically and/or abruptly changed. I know I dropped 10lb in just a month. Just couldn't eat, and running was the only thing that made my brain shut off for a little while. So good luck to you. Be good to your body along the way.

At the risk of sounding like a jerk...I'm at the opposite end...I'm the one that's leaving a marriage because ironically enough, I've found that ONE person for me...on THIS site (ShadowMommy). Wasn't even looking for anyone.

But even throughout this whole weight loss journey I was met with resistance, I was being "selfish" because I took up running and ran a 1/2 Marathon in October after dropping 50lbs starting in May (when this whole thing started). After that things just kind of started to let go...I got back into my bad habits etc.

But ShadowMommy is my rock...inspiration, encouraging, my motivation, and is there anytime to listen through the whole divorce thing, etc...regardless of who initiated it, it's hard on both people. But without her, I probably would have slipped way back into my old habits of not working out, eating terrible and not having a goal, and gaining it all back.

So yeah, losing the weight through a divorce can be done!! Good luck with it, and I wish you continued success!!! Just takes some more focus and motivation!

Things happen for a reason I guess....I know I didn't expect to find anyone here...nor be so happy in my life right now even while going through one of the most difficult periods.

Well, now you're shedding dead weight two ways: the slug is OUT OF YOUR LIFE, and you are getting healthy.

And guess what? You're going to be engaged in some fitness related activity - doing something you enjoy, and somebody wonderful will just show up. Nature abhors a vacuum, especially when it comes to common interest and love.

This could be a most exciting time for you - ENJOY!

My divorce took two years. It was acrimonious as heck. By the end I was my skinniest ever due to the stress. Not healthy. Life is good now and I got fat and happy. Now working on fit and happy

i started this journey miserable and in a marriage i had wanted out of for years but stayed in because of our daughter. i was trying to take back my life. my daughter will graduate from hs in the spring and i finally told my husband that i was leaving once she graduated. about 3 months later he told me he was fixing up an apartment in his brother's house and was moving out as soon as it was ready. he stopped contributing financially ( i make about 3 times as much as he does) and was going to leave me with all the bills (and joint debt). that was about a month ago. since then he has developed some potentially serious health problems and is still living here-has given me some money towards household expenses. i am sleeping on an air mattress in the spare room. not sure what to do at this point. i honestly would like him to just leave but i don't feel like i can kick him out now. my eating is heading in the wrong direction and i haven't been working out like i was. it's good to hear that some folks managed to maintain their weight loss through the breakup of their marriage. it gives me hope!!

sadly, thats how a friend of mine managed to lose 100 pounds..it wasnt infidelity, but their childs sickness that led them to it..sad either way..im glad you are getting heathier tho..no matter what the reason..awesome job:drinker:

I'm sorry you are going through that. Heart-ache sucks. The only time I lost weigh without trying was when my boyfriend, who I was completely in love with, dumped me out of the blue. 10 pounds in a week. Hang in there. It gets better.

My advise, find a guy with a motor cycle and have him take you far a ride. I know it sounds random but its exhilarating and a temporary distraction.

Keep busy..............

I've noticed with a lot of friends and their friends even have lost weight rather quickly after a huge breakup, not even necessarily a divorce or due to infidelity. It's stressful to have your life drastically and/or abruptly changed. I know I dropped 10lb in just a month. Just couldn't eat, and running was the only thing that made my brain shut off for a little while. So good luck to you. Be good to your body along the way.

Great advice!

I actually gained 25# when I went through my divorce. I drank alot to ease my pain, didn't care about exercise, slept all day (depression). When I met my current husband I was a mess. He still loved me. I finally have the motivation (for MYSELF) to lose the excess weight. 11# down so far and more to go

I am going through divorce right now. My weight loss journey started in February...I did not know that it would also open my eyes that I had been unhappy for so many years. In September I was strong and confident enough to stand up for me and my girls and say that I could not be w/him any longer. Since he moved out, I am getting happy and healthy and trying to provide a good home for my daughters.

Take care

Infidelity doesn't always end in divorce. Many people stay together and make it work. Sometimes the stress of making your marriage work after the other party is unfaithful can also contribute to weight loss. Been there done that. Still married 7 years later. Has it been easy? No, but I'm thinner and healthier than ever and we work on our marriage and rebuilding trust every.single.day. Still not at my goal weight but I know I will get there.

Living well is the greatest revenge.

I feel you! I gained 30 lbs during my marriage- my husband gained over 100 and was over 400lbs when I left. I've lost that & am back down to my pre-marital weight.. he's still gaining.

For me though it's not about losing weight (tho that is sweet) I want to be healthy. I want to spend quality time with my grandkids. I LIKE walking on the beach & swimming.. things my ex can't do (haha)
Being a large girl, I don't care about ever being skinny- I just want to be healthy & I'm getting there more every day

GOOD FOR YOU!