Lost my motivation due to dramatic life changes...

I totally understand you. I lost my father last year and only now I'm feeling stronger to get back to my routine.
I guess everyone need some time to undrestand those life moments. It's a painful process and we shouldn't skip that.

So, don't push yourself too much.
You will feel better in a little while to commite yourself to lose weight

all the best

Sometimes life can be a bumpy road. Major events like losing your mom and your beloved pet can feel like life has sucker punched you. All I can offer is that you take one day at a time, one step at a time. This is how I dealt with a diagnosis of cancer last year. At that time, I did not know if I was going to make it.

I had to keep reminding myself that "THIS IS ONLY TEMPORARY", "IT WILL NOT BE LIKE THIS FOREVER", things will change.

After 10 months of chemo and an operation, I am doing well. Now I am concentrating on losing weight that I gained during the time I had to take steroids. I am happy, grateful and thankful every day to be alive.

TRY TO STAY POSITIVE

Samantha is so right about eating right and excercising. It helps a lot. Exercising releases endorphines that will help with making you feel good mentally too.
Surround yourself with loving supportive people and get help from a professional or( medication if needed) if you can afford to do that. It may be as simple as a clergy person or a program in your health care plan or staying in contact with a friend or friends.

You will get through this. Emotions can be very strong and run very deep. Allow yourself the mourning time that you need then try to move on. Stay positive and take one step at a time , one day at a time always moving forward to a better you.
Take Care

Thanks so much everyone for your helpful advice and sharing your experiences. It's just hard something I'm still adjusting to, my mum was my best friend and always motivated me and encouraged me but now she's gone it's left a void in my life that I seems endless.

I'm never really starving when I eat its just a boredom or comfort thing especially when I think of mum and I end up emotional so the first thing I do is reach for food.

I guess I'm still in the early stages of grief it's only been four months but I know myself its spiralling and I want to stop it before it consumes me. I know mum would be proud if I held my head up and continued on my weight loss journey she was the first person to compliment me on how lovely I was looking and how proud of me she was.

Thanks again one and all xx

I'm so sorry for your losses! And you are right!!... 4 months is not that long at all....you are still trying to re-adjust your life your losses. Death is so traumatic, no matter what the circumstances, so don't beat yourself up over falling off the fitness wagon. I've been there! I lost my Dad 2 years ago to cancer, my sister (who was the best friend) unexpectedly last year on New Years Day. And I too lost a beloved pet this past October. My advice to you is to -

1 - allow yourself to grieve
2 - reach out to other family members, it will offer comfort for all of you
3 - go to the gym! I know if I'm having trouble staying on track with healthy eating I always make sure I'm at least getting good work outs in!...if you keep pushing yourself physically sometime your 'diet' will gradually start to improve
4 - think of how your Mom would want you to be living life to the fullest, healthy and happy and dedicate each work out to her!!
5 - try a yoga class.....it does help to manage stress
6 - gradually set small goals for a healthy diet. Example eating healthy Monday thru Friday and rewarding yourself on the weekends.
7 - you can never replace your beloved dog, but have you considered getting another pet. pet's bring so much love and comfort into a home!
8 - stay on MFP, keep reading the success stories and reaching out to people. You are not alone, most of us have been there. You can and will get back on track!!

Best wishes to you:flowerforyou:

I feel your pain I lost my daddy 3 years coming up the 14 of Dec he was my everything being a daddys girl
i gained 26 pds due to the dramatic trauma loss but two weeks ago my wonderful sister in law introduce me to
myfitnesspal i have lost 6 pds feel really good about mysefl first itme since losing daddy losing a parent is very hard
but this program is a motivated to get us back healthy.

Im so sorry to hear about your loss i can totally understand how you feel at the age of 14 i lost my mother and it was really hard then i began to comfort eat and put on loads of weight and now five years later my father has passed away last month and im just trying really hard not to comfort eat again as at the moment i am really overweight and all my father said to me in his last few months was to become healthy and lose the weight, so now that is my motivation in the loving memory of my mum and dad, i have to try for them. just focus on your goal and think would your loved ones want you to be unhappy so try your hardest to lose your weight, it is very hard but determine yourself and constantly remember your goals hopefully you will lose it xxxx

I lost my mom after I gave her a kindey because the doctors gave her bad blood so I understand how you feel I even disliked christmas for years and just now starting to get into christmas again so hand in there you can do anything you put your mind too

My prayers are with you. You are not alone. My mother-in-law's death derailed my entire family. The only thing that helped me was to see a counselor to work through my grief. I thought time alone would heal my wounds. Unfortunately, I just kept avoiding the pain instead of dealing with it. I wish I had seen the counselor (hypnotherapist) sooner so that I could have helped my kids through their grief as well. :flowerforyou: