Slowly Giving up
LuciaLongIsland
Posts: 815 Member
Hi Everyone:
I am very happy that so many people are doing great, losing and losing. I wish I could enjoy this accomplishment also. I have been here over 100 days with 15 pounds lost. Truthfully, I feel not only like a failure but almost ready to give up. I know we are all different and we should not compare ourselves to others. Being human, I do this frequently.
I have not grown to love veggies. Yes, I eat them but not with the same enjoyment as candy. Yes, I have eaten healthier, but see little results. I exercise...never really did that for years, but when I was in my forties and exercised the weight flew off.
Also I feel so deprived. I dot have an active social life which is both positive and negative. I live alone so luckily I am rarely tempted. However, truthfully I miss pizza, rice. spaghetti, rolls, bacon, half and half t to name a few. I am incapable of eating small portions because I will go out of control. Most of the time I eat under 1000 calories, because of my thyroid and this is Doctor recommended by several endo doctors. I am seeing a third one tomorrow. Hopefully, she will suggest alternatives.
This is my story, my frustration. TY all, for being so supportive!
I am very happy that so many people are doing great, losing and losing. I wish I could enjoy this accomplishment also. I have been here over 100 days with 15 pounds lost. Truthfully, I feel not only like a failure but almost ready to give up. I know we are all different and we should not compare ourselves to others. Being human, I do this frequently.
I have not grown to love veggies. Yes, I eat them but not with the same enjoyment as candy. Yes, I have eaten healthier, but see little results. I exercise...never really did that for years, but when I was in my forties and exercised the weight flew off.
Also I feel so deprived. I dot have an active social life which is both positive and negative. I live alone so luckily I am rarely tempted. However, truthfully I miss pizza, rice. spaghetti, rolls, bacon, half and half t to name a few. I am incapable of eating small portions because I will go out of control. Most of the time I eat under 1000 calories, because of my thyroid and this is Doctor recommended by several endo doctors. I am seeing a third one tomorrow. Hopefully, she will suggest alternatives.
This is my story, my frustration. TY all, for being so supportive!
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fifteen pounds is awesome!!! When things feel slow I remember that it took years for me to put on this weight, it's not going to come off overnight. Sounds like you've been losing roughtly one pound a week which is the perfect rate to lose. You're doing GREAT.0
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Can you make your food diary public. I would like to take a look. Also, have you considered there may be something medically wrong, if you have in fact been logging and eating the right foods. Maybe you have a thyroid issue, they are quite common.
Don't give up yet, your only going to feel miserable again. Think about the reasons you started this journey in the first place...they aren't going to go away just because you quit trying.0 -
you're doing great! Even if you've only lost 15 pounds, that's 15 pounds that you wont be seeing ever again!0
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Please don't give up.
As long as your loosing weight it's not a hopeless cause.
I don't know about your thyroid problems but green tea might help and would be worth a try.
I personally have found that fasting one day a week has helped me to curb my old ravinous appetite.
Best of wishes.0 -
100 days is only 14 weeks- yet, you've lost 15 pounds!!! At this rate, you're losing 1 pound a week- which is perfectly healthy and recommended!
Keep doing what you're doing... because you're doing it the right way!0 -
dont give up!! you're going in the right direction, doesnt matter at what speed!! it will happen, u will find what works for you
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Don't give up...slow and steady wins the race!!! I have been on 175 days and have only lost 17...but it's 17 lbs that i've lost and have kept off. If you are feeling that you are falling off the wagon, give into your temptation and have that slice of pizza. When I crave something I eat everything else in site to try to satisfy that craving..........but if I just give in and eat a limited portion, I get right back on track and don't gain. Plus, it sometimes helps to that to trick your metabolism.0
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My guess would be the problem is eating under 1000 calories. I have thyroid problems too, have my medication and I am insulin resistant, but no doctor would ever tell me to starve myself, I really would look into other doctors...0
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Keep going! 15lb is a huge weight! Just imagine how much FAT that is! Well done!
I sympathise with you; I've been on here for about 6 weeks now and have lost.... wait for it.... 4 lbs! Yes, 4! And if my scales were anything to go by this morning, it's actually 2, but being a woman may have something to do with that!
BUT I've lost inches, feel a lot healthier, fitter AND I feel happier!
So, don't give up. Remember: "slowly, slowly catch the monkey!"
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100 days is only 14 weeks- yet, you've lost 15 pounds!!! At this rate, you're losing 1 pound a week- which is perfectly healthy and recommended!
Keep doing what you're doing... because you're doing it the right way!
This is an awesome way to put things in perspective!!! Keep doing what you are doing!!!0 -
I've been here for almost 1 year and am struggling to stay at 20 lbs lost. I have become healthier and am training for a 1/2 marathon. I am wearing smaller clothes & feel much better about myself. Yes, it is so easy to get caught up in seeing So&So's weight loss drops every single time they post but I'm not on their journey. I'm on my journey to being fit.
And guess what, the slower you lose the weight the more of a "lifestyle" change you have made & will be able to continue on that path & not regain the weight.
You need to find an exercise you like that makes you happy & feel good about yourself. You HAVE to eat more than 1000 calories/day. That's ridiculous and not supplying your body with the correct nutrients to be healthy.
Also, there are plenty of blog posts on MFP about people who lose around 10 lbs in a year and go from a 14 to a 6 because they have turned fat into muscle & reshaped their bodies. This is what is important to me - to wear smaller clothes, be healthier & look good. The scale is just a number but society puts so much emphasis on it. Have you taken measurements? Are your clothes smaller?
Don't give up if you really want to be a healthier & more fit person. If you don't then we can't force you to do anything. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT.0 -
if you need to visualize your accomplishment - just line up 15 pounds of butter and you will see how much you have lost, Keep up the good work. but I agree that you Re eTing too little. try one day to eat more And you should see a movement downwards. good luck0
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15 lbs in 100 days is basically a lb/week which is a healthy amount to be losing. You shouldn't be discouraged by that, you should be proud.
As for all the treats you miss, I've found that if I deprive myself then I give up. Buy a dreaded Lean Cuisine pizza and have it once a week. Just don't tell the militant clean eaters :laugh: Friday used to be pizza night for me and that's what I'd do. I still don't have the willpower to order a whole pizza and eat just one portion so I don't do it. I love peanut butter and chocolate so I've started stirring 1 tbsp of peanut butter into my oatmeal and sprinkling about half a tbsp of mini chocolate chips on top. It keeps me full all morning and helps with my cravings. My point is don't give up. Try something new. If you don't like it, then try something different. What works for one of us may not work for someone else. The trick is figuring out what works for you.
Good luck with your journey.0 -
Go pick up a gallon of water, I'll wait, go ahead....
Got one?
OK... go get another one, I'll wait, seriously...
OK
Got two?
Lift them above your head at the same time and hold them for 30 seconds
Guess how much weight that is?
15 POUNDS!
Put 'em down.
Guess how much weight you are no longer carrying?
The point is, you CAN do it. You ARE doing it. You have tools, support and friends to HELP you do it.
If you give up, that is on YOU.
If you decide to stay and fight for healthier you, send me friend invite.0 -
You joined when I did, and you are losing a lb a week - that is awesome!! Don't feel deprived - try to view this as a lifestyle change not a diet. All you are doing by tracking everything is giving yourself full disclosure of what you are taking in. You can stick with this - think of the feeling each week when you see that scale go down - even if slightly. You may just also need to find some more food options that keep you full and are nutritious and relatively low-cal. Good luck - please stick with it!!0
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There is no such thing as Quick Weight Loss!! Quick weight loss = Temporary weight loss. And you want it gone for good, right? Stay the course, experiment with spices that will help those veggies to go down, drink a ton of water and move your body for 60 minutes a day.
1 pound a week is FABULOUS!
I am post-menopausal and my weight loss is very, very slow. But I am losing inches, my skin is improving, I'm sleeping better and I feel proud of myself again. So, don't use the scale alone as your measurement!! Keep going!0 -
There can be such a thing as under-eating. Effectively, the body realizes that it isn't getting enough energy from food to live (Basal rate - most people's is over 1200 calories per 24hrs), and so every bit of food that you put into your body is stored as fat ready for when your body really needs that energy. What I would suggest is to actually up your calories a bit, eating more meats, more veggies too - as although you may not like them, natural products contain tonnes of 'glucagon', a chemical which speeds up your metabolism. A great way to get extra calories is a pint of milk before bed, which will provide protein and extra energy for your body to begin metabolizing again. Also, if you do up your calories, and in turn your metabolic rate, if you do go mad one day, you won't have set yourself back nearly as far.
Include more eggs in your diet, more meat, and more brown carbs.0 -
Include more eggs in your diet, more meat, and more brown carbs.
+1 on the more eggs and meat!! Stay away from WHITE food like pasta, bread, white rice.0 -
Hi. I was in the same boat as you are now, 15 pounds down 3 or so months into it, still depriving myself and not losing any weight. I stopped tracking for a while after that, gained a few pounds back and decided to give it another try. The things that I have found to be true for myself is that after about a month of low calories, my body adjusts and I don't lose anymore weight. Although, I wasn't exercising consistently when I started out here, either. I'm back now, it's been 15 days and I've lost about 5 or so pounds. Again, the metabolism thing. This time, I'm doing some things differently. I'm staggering my calories throughout the week in hopes of tricking my metabolism. I am consistently exercising 3 times a week. And I'm not doing the super low deprivation, I'm only on 1 pound a week which is more sustainable for me. Also, if I have a day I mess up, I just adjust the calories for the week. If I go over by 100 calories, I divide those calories up and take them off the remaining days of the week. So far it is working well.
I would say give yourself a little break. Go to maintenance or a lower weight loss category. Don't completely deprive yourself, but make sure you are tracking the treats. This is a hard time of year to maintain weight loss with all the goodies floating around. I think that we can indulge within reason, though. Give yourself however long you need to maintain, then do some research and make a strategy. BTW, I'm a vegetarian (lacto-ovo) and still have my homemade mochas almost everyday. I'm not saying we should eat lots of sugar because that defeats our health, but think more in terms of calories in rather than completely depriving yourself. And net calories over the course of a week, at that.
Good luck, I know it's hard. Starts and stops, sometimes. But you can do it! Focus on the process, not the end product! Even if I'm having a bad week weight wise, I still feel so much better and have so much more energy thanks to a change in attitude and consistent exercise.
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I still have days where I get frustrated and feel like I am not losing fast enough. As far as the cravings went and overeating, it took me awhile to adjust. For some reason I get into an odd mindset when it comes to tasty foods. I think "wow, this is really good. I need to eat it all now cause I don't know when I will have this again" Then I binge and feel miserable afterwards. I still do this from time to time, but not as often. I still eat what I want, in moderation. After one or two slices of pizza I just remind myself that this is NOT the last time I will ever have pizza, and I can always save a few slices for tomorrow. For candy and chocolate, I try to not keep it in the house at all. If I do get a sweet tooth for chocolate though, sometimes you can't fight the urge, I will go to the store and get a Regular single serving package of M&M pretzels. They have just enough chocolate to curb the craving and for the entire package it's only 150 calories! I tend to eat more on days that I am not keeping busy, so if I feel myself being a couch potato I will go window shopping at the local stores, or go for a walk. And it helps to find an exercise you really enjoy. I have lost 40 lbs and I am learning that I can try so many new things that I have never done before. It's been fun trying out new workouts. I really enjoy aerobics and walking. And when the weather is right I like to go swimming. These are just a few things I have struggled with and how I handled it. I am hoping you realize that you aren't the only one who has struggled. You are doing a great job, and you have alot of people on here who have days where they feel like giving up too. 15 lbs is a great accomplishment. Feel free to add me as a friend on here. I would love to be able to encourage each other through the rough days and cheer for each other on the days we succeed. :-)0
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I know how you feel! I have absolutely no motivation to keep going when the number on the scale stays the same. But we can do this!
Want to be weight-loss buddies? We can push each other and all that good stuff. I have 125 lbs to lose to get to my goal weight, so I could use all the motivation I can get!!!0 -
Can you make your food diary public. I would like to take a look. Also, have you considered there may be something medically wrong, if you have in fact been logging and eating the right foods. Maybe you have a thyroid issue, they are quite common.
Don't give up yet, your only going to feel miserable again. Think about the reasons you started this journey in the first place...they aren't going to go away just because you quit trying.
Yes, I have Graves Disease, which is hyper thyrodism. I will be seeing a new doctor tomorrow. I hope she can help me.0 -
dont give up 15 pounds is great add me0
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Go pick up a gallon of water, I'll wait, go ahead....
Got one?
OK... go get another one, I'll wait, seriously...
OK
Got two?
Lift them above your head at the same time and hold them for 30 seconds
Guess how much weight that is?
15 POUNDS!
Put 'em down.
Guess how much weight you are no longer carrying?
The point is, you CAN do it. You ARE doing it. You have tools, support and friends to HELP you do it.
If you give up, that is on YOU.
If you decide to stay and fight for healthier you, send me friend invite.
This is such a good idea!! I used to go pick up bags of potatoes at the supermarket just to feel the difference. It's so motivated to actually feel what your not carrying anymore! Great advice!!!0 -
dont give up up can do it just hang in there0
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Some of the foods that u like u don't have to give up on. Like bacon. Eat turkey bacon instead. Also spaghetti. I use whole wheat noodles, ground turkey for my meatballs and light ragu. Don't give in. Just keep doing what you are and it will pay off. I felt like that a few times but still kept going and i finally am starting to see some results. You can do it!0
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It can be discouraging when weight loss doesn't seem to be moving fast enough. I will be on here three weeks tomorrow and so far have lost 4 lbs which is good, but considering most folks drop that much in water weight alone, it is a little frustrating. I've also read that you quickly lose recently gained weight. I gained 7 lbs over the summer due to lots of long distance travel by car and hospice care for a family member. (no exercise or sleep for a couple of weeks). Those lbs don't seem to be coming off any quicker. It is always very slow going for me. I can work out for 90 min a day and go six weeks without losing, then suddenly I will drop 6 lbs in a day. When I mentioned the four lb issue to my DH just now, he said, well at least you are losing and not gaining. It is a lot of work. I'm at 1200 calories a day. Today is my first day to go out to eat. We are invited to a friends and I have no idea what is on the menu. I just know in my heart that this time I have to persevere and not give up this time. Also, realize that a lot of people on here may be younger. I don't know how old you are, but I am 57 and this is a whole different ball game when you get older. I could lose weight easily when I was younger. I don't believe I have thyroid issues but I am on Aromasin and that is a steroid which causes high triglycerides in many. I haven't had my lipid panel run recently and plan to go after the holidays. You may feel like giving up but you'll just set yourself back on the same old track and you'll regain the 15 and feel even worse that you wasted all that time making such great progress, only to throw it away. You are doing great and what you are doing is working. Slow and steady. You should try a few splurge days here and there especially over the holidays. From what I've been reading on these threads, a lot of people claim they lose weight after a splurge. I don't think it will hurt you to do it once in a while as a treat to yourself, as long as you get back to business afterwards. Remember you have to eat 3500 EXTRA calories to gain a pound back, so even on a splurge day, you are not going to go off the rails. Stick with it. You have lot's of supporters here and you can do this. I wish you continued success.0
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I have a thyroid problem and still lose of the MFP guidelines. A 1000 calories isn't much. Are you on medication for your thyroid? I am losing about a pound a week (same as you) on 1480 calories but I am on Thyroid Medication.0
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Dont give up now! Think about it, you've been doing it for this long wouldn't it feel like such a loss to give it all up?
My mom has a thyroid problem aswell, and now that shes on proper medication and eating right she has lost a pile of weight. But her trick seems to be is having one "cheat day" to have all those things she was craving in the week.
I've watched her eat three bowls of ice cream in one night and shes still down 35lbs in 7 months! She just makes sure to get right back on her diet and not cheat for the rest of the week.
I suggest bumping your calorie intake to at least 1200 per day, eating properly and trying a cheat day. I know that this probably doesn't work for everyone, but at least this way if it does, you're not depriving yourself from all those things completely.
And who knows, once you see a doctor and you get on the right medication the weight could just fall off you.
Good luck, and hey if you feel like you need some more motivation feel free to add me as a friend0 -
You say you miss pasta, half and half and other things. There is absolutely no reason why you have to stop eating pasta, (except medical reasons) there are whole grain pastas out there and whole grain is good for you. The pasta sauce is made of tomatoes, which are good for you as well. If you insist on putting cheese try a low fat cheese instead of the real deal, and make sure you only use the recommended serving size. It may taste a little different but you wont feel like you are depriving yourself of the things that you like. As far as half and half, I use the fat free kind and it works, and tastes great. You just have to look for low calorie, low fat items. You can usually find a way around something blocking you.
I have been on MFP since the end of Sept. 2011 and have lost 13 pounds, and I am very pround of my accomplishments.
15 pounds is awesome, don't sell yourself short!0
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