Divorced before 30

While I wasn't divorced before there ( in my early 30's instead) I know what you mean. My first husband and I, were together 10 years, 2 kids, didn't get married until late ( a band-aid that didn't work) were separated before our 1st anniversary and divorced before our 2nd. At the time it was one of "definitely not enjoying this" experiences in life. Now, years later, happily remarried ( for the right reasons this time!) I wouldn't change a thing. However divorce is a very personal experience and everyone feels about it differently.
I do think that sadly it is becoming more common. News article on yahoo thats gist was "starter Marriages" as in "starter Homes" kinda starter, and how it was becoming more common, really had my brain confuddled.
Anyhoo morning caffeinated ramble aside. ((((hugs)))) and I hope whatever happens you are happy.


*edited to add : re:certain stereotypes. most definitely , I got the car and my clothes, he got the house and friends. even family wouldn't talk to me for years over it. not so much out in the world. but to those in our world if that makes sense. ( there was definite judgment)

i was divorced by 25.....the person who seemed bothered about any stigma was me...i never received any, if anything more respect for doing what felt right and not trying to save our marriage with a baby or drag it on longer than needed, if its mutual even better! its not easy but its worth it....esp when you get to meet someone else special and realise that getting divorced was just a chapter in your life like getting married in the first place.

good luck whatever you chose

Divorced before 30 here, didn't like it. I would recomment fireproof / the love dare if you feel there is a chance to save your marriage.

I got married when I was 21 (he was 26) and my divorce was finalized right after I turned 23. I ended up leaving him right after my son was born because I got sick of the verbal/ emotional abuse and he finally turned it physical (it was only a matter of time...) so I packed up my stuff and left. I skipped out on telling people I was divorced and preferred to play it off that I was a single mom- he didn't pay child support anyway. I am now remarried and living 3,000 miles away from anyone who knew I was previously married. My husband is also a young divorcee- his ex wife cheated on him with three different guys in 8 weeks while he was out of town- their marriage only lasted 9 weeks though and he won't admit to anyone that he was married before (I only found out because my brother did a background check on him when we started dating.)

I think divorce happens way too often now, and that people don't take marriage seriously. Best of luck to you and your husband- if counseling is an option, please go If not, some books that were recommended to us in our first year of marriage (the current one) that have taught us how to fight fair and respect each other all the time: The Five Love Languages; 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families; and Boundaries.

I was divorced right at 30. Like someone else said...one of the toughest things I've ever been through. Over 10 years later, I wish he had participated more in the counseling...said he loved me, said he wanted things to be better...but he didn't. I went into counseling feeling that it was over and he did nothing to change that feeling. He had to plan a date...and took me to see The Exorcist. Who wants to see that...especially as a "I want my wife back" date? We get along really well now and are both remarried. My current husband, honestly, is the love of my life so I have no regrets. If there is any sliver of love or hope...pursue it so you are always sure.

I was married at 18 & divorced by 23 with 2 children under the age of 4. To say I was scared would be an understatement, but I knew it was for the best. I loved him with all my heart, but he loved his alcohol more. Working in the medical field, I dealt with abused women often and felt like a hypocrite when I spoke to them about their options. I also removed myself and looked in to my relationship...that really helped. Also, kinda funny now, I reminded myself that I love chocolate but chocolate makes me fat...he was kinda the same way...lol. I am now happily remarried & have been so for almost 8 years. Fear not! If it is for the best, no one will think any less of you.

I was married at 23 then divorced by 26 after being separated for a year. He was a complete *kitten* who cheated on me and left me with a boat load of debt and was stressing me out making my life hell, so to me the 'stigma' of being the first in my family to get divorced was well worth the freedom of being rid of him. Married hubby no2 at 28 and we just renewed our vows this June for our 10th anniversary, so there was a happy ending eventually!!

I'm still dealing with some of the financial stuff from my first marriage. It sucks because my credit has suffered for it and there is nothing I can do.

I got divorced from my ex at 30 because of mental abuse. From my side of the story, people were happy for me and were hoping I would open my eyes sooner. From his side of the story, his parents were upset about what he did to me, the rest think I was cheating on him. I stayed single for a while after separating, the last thing I wanted was someone to deal with.

I was older than you when I got divorced. My X husband became a complete alcoholic, and was not initially when we were married, unless he hid it well. I had told him repeatedly from day 1- I have 0 tolerance for any type of addiction like alcoholism, drugs, or gambling. Went through that before him with an ex-boyfriend... never again. There was no saving it for me. We had no children so there was only us to consider. Divorcing him was one of the best things I ever did for myself.

I never look at divorced people differently. If you are staying around strictly because of the "stigma" you may have after - that's not a good reason. I quickly checked your profile and you have under motivation:

"I want my husband to fall in love with me all over again everyday"

If that still holds true I would try to fix it if possible instead of worrying about what other people think....

I am currently in a relationship with a man who is going through a divorce (I met him long after they separated) and he is only 26. He also has a 3 year old son - they got married when she got pregnant when they were both 22.

He still has not yet met my family although they know that I am involved with someone, I feel I would rather wait to introduce him until things are more 'concrete'. I am somewhat worried about introducing him to my family with the associated stigma of being 'divorced' not to mention having a child!