i am BEYOND DISCOURAGED!!!!

The only way to fail is to give up, don't do it! When we are confronted with negativity we need to apply some principles:
1. is there any truth in it?
2. do we value that person's opinion?
If the answer to either of those things is yes, then what can we learn from this?
If the answer is no, we need to be able to imagine those words just rolling off our backs like water off a duck.

So, in this situation, your Dad's opinion may be wrong, in which case you could actually say, calmly, well that isn't going to help me and go ahead with what you are doing.

*hugs* and strength in your journey.

GG

P.S. maybe you need some 'go to' healthy snacks available that you can just grab and go (boiled eggs?) for that sort of situation?

Eggs aren't going to make you fat, unless you're cooking them in a lot of butter and having a slab of bacon on the side. I'm going to keep my thoughts on your dad to myself! Have you talked to him about his negativity toward your efforts? If you haven't already, you should before things get worse. You should get your mom in on it, too. They should be supporting you. BUT, who told you that you needed to lose all this weight? Keep posting here, because we're not going to tell you you're fat, we're going to support you!

You are young, but you are also old enough to make your own decisions. Forget about the binge. Start over, starting right now. You have the power to make different decisions. You have to power to change you. Yes, it is difficult when other people don't support us, particularly if they are someone you care about. But they can only hurt you if you LET them. Don't let them. Tomorrow is a new day. Hugs.

Welp, we don't pick our parents, do we?

It's good that you were brainstorming a healthy way to have a snack. Maybe post more on here about that kind of stuff that makes you proud of yourself and get the support where you can.

Good luck to you.

First of all you need to aknowledge that You are stuffing your face. Not your parents, not because of them .. its BECAUSE OF YOU. I have a lot of love for people who are trying, but the thing you need to do is to deal with what pain brought you to this point, once you do you can be 100% honest with everyone and everything.

This is your reaction to negtive things, EATING. and I was right there with you.

You need to find a way to deal with the stress and frustration without food, perhaps a walk or run or dance.

Just because they are your parents doesn't make them right.

This is a test for you... this is training to change your relationsip with food.

You want to lose weight? there is only 1 easy answer and it is:
Eat right, Exercise, Be honest with yourself, and be consistent!

I understand when someone doesn't encourage you the way you need encouragement from a family member. My Mum as well has sent me to the chocolate binges. Like others have mentioned in reply, NEVER give up. Brookepenni has great advise in sticking with it and make changes slowly. And Pinkgigi's advise to you is some I'll listen to myself. My Mum is not supportive but has her own issues that sometimes cloud her ability to give me the support I would like to receive from her. Thank for sharing what you are dealing with in obtaining your goals and know that you are NOT alone.

thanks pinkgigi. that actually really helps. its just hard because i really love my parents, but sometimes, i feel like they're not very supportive at all.

Family is not always a good support. I needed new connections based on common interest and goals.

This makes me sad for you. Have you had any kind of heart-to-heart talk with your parents about what your goals are and what kind of help you would love to have from them to help you achieve your goals? Sometimes people will give us what we need if we just explain to them what we need and ask them for it. I hope you can try that and that it works. If not, then you will simply need to find your support here at MFP and learn to ignore them. I know that sucks.

As a parent, I can tell you I've made my share of mistakes but I made far less of them once my kids were able to express their wants, fears, desires, etc., with me as then I better understood them, their needs and how to help them (or when they just preferred that I back off and let them handle something themselves).

I would also add that, as you go through life, you will find that having supportive cheerleaders in your corner are rare. Oh, you may have supportive friends/family but they're usually busy with their own problems, too. If you can both support each other, that's great. But that's not always possible. I guess what I'm trying to say is that we all have to find the strength and motivation within ourselves and not depend on others for it. It's a hard lesson to learn but, really, the sooner you learn it the better off you will be.

So, I guess what I'm saying, is that I hope you are able to improve your relationship with your parents so that they are better able to give you the support you need but you also, at the same time, need to learn to support yourself better, too.

Good luck. I hope things go better for you.

First you did GREAT making a better choice, I'm sorry that it went bad and you ended up eating bad things in frustration. You can totally do this! It's hard, but hey it Can be fun, it doesn't have to be torture, you don't have to be unhappy... actually you Are going to be very happy.

Your father, well... he's just a guy (no offense guys, but... *shrug) and in his way he was actually Trying to be supportive (it sounds to me). But I'm sure he just didn't take the time to think it through that you were trying to make something healthy, and in his flurry thru his day just blurted something out that was still in his eyes watching out for his girl who he loves very much. I'm very sure he has no idea what you are going through, or that you are trying to make these changes, and like my husband thinks that 'just not eating' is the answer.... But He IS on your side... you know he is...

Admitting to family that you are trying to lose weight (at least for me) especially back in my teens, would have been embarrassing since I'd be admitting that I was fat, and put myself in a spot for them to start giving me all this advice and poking into my business. etc.. I'd end up feeling spotlighted and defensive . I hope this isn't the same for you...

Perhaps have a talk with just your mom first. Surely she knows just how you feel, and can be more understanding and supportive. Then after you explain your feelings and your goals, and let her know just how much support you want from her. You two can decide IF and how much you want to talk to your father.

No matter what, it all comes down to you. Your eating, your exercising, your health, your body... Your happiness. Building a lifelong healthy body for so much yet to come.... so much more! It's excising, everything is ahead. Tomorrow is a head of you also, and it can be a happy day.

So... sit up straight, and make yourself smile. *hugs* I wish you the best of everything, we are here for you! That's why we are all here, to get through this together. Many many of us here also have little support elsewhere, you are Not alone.

Words can work in two ways.either positively or negatively. I was baraged with lots of negative comments and internalized which worked just the opposite. I gave up. I have to work on my love of beer and wine ,probably my biggest issue,so hopefully we can make this site work for us. Good luck and don't give up. It really does get harder as you get older..