Venting....

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  • RahBuhBuh
    RahBuhBuh Posts: 585 Member
    I totally put this on facebook a couple weeks ago because I was passive/aggressively venting at someone . . . But I think a couple of you have proven it to be true:

    "Minding one's own business is so hard for some because it requires introspection and change."

    Put that on your desk for them to see :)

    lol I'll tape it to the mirror on my station

    Put my name after like its a famous quote - Rahbuhbuh

    Then you can give them a copy because "you think they would enjoy having it" :laugh:
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    No one says stuff like this to me.

    I'm a really silly person, so I can get away with this sort of thing: I poke people in their bellies and make the Pillsbury doughboy giggle. If someone said something rude or out of bounds to me, then I wouldn't hesitate to do belly-poke, giggle, and walk away. If they said something about it, I'd just smile and not say a word.

    People don't mess with you when they can't gauge you or if they think you don't care.
  • beyg
    beyg Posts: 212 Member
    just saying everyone is entitle to the own opinion. you can look at them and tell them: I heard you. Remember don't give up your power to them by giving a high value to what they say. You have your support group here and at the very least you are doing something about it, critics hardly ever do something about it. enjoy your meals and laugh at their ignorance.
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    I can't believe people can be so rude! I'm really sorry you have to put up with that!
  • ALH1981
    ALH1981 Posts: 538 Member
    Or the opposite, where they try to sabotage you and telling you that you should eat the bad things that you are trying to avoid!!! that annoys me just as much!
  • Deckershann
    Deckershann Posts: 272 Member
    I say, "You're just jelly cuz you don't have change for the vending machine Skittles!! Get your own, and some gatorade, not haterade!"
  • bjfmade
    bjfmade Posts: 543 Member
    How about..."if your advise is so good, why isn't it working for you?" Whether in shape or out, that should give them a complex
  • Mardill
    Mardill Posts: 140 Member
    Tell her that you appreciate her concern for your health. Then suggest she help you in a different way, eg like taking a walk. LOL! But I really mean taking a walk together! Who knows, it might even become a friendship.
  • k121777
    k121777 Posts: 306
    Sounds like the food Nazi to me!
  • 75lbsless
    75lbsless Posts: 26 Member
    @ Deckershann LOL imma use this
  • 75lbsless
    75lbsless Posts: 26 Member
    Or the opposite, where they try to sabotage you and telling you that you should eat the bad things that you are trying to avoid!!! that annoys me just as much!

    Yes that does suck too
  • Eleanorjanethinner
    Eleanorjanethinner Posts: 563 Member
    Some of this can verge on bullying and it does need you to be brave and assertively push back.

    Plan a thing to say that you'd be happy saying, then whip it out if you get an unhelpful comment. "Thanks for your input, but I'm fine" or whatever in a firm tone of voice, with a bit of eye contact and a bit of a fake smile. Push back a bit and see how it goes.

    If they respond defensively (which they're likely to do) with a "No need to be so sensitive, I was only trying to help!", try repeating the same thing. Hopefully they'll back off when they see you're not easy meat any more. If not, you might need to be a bit more blunt i.e. "I appreciate your concern, but please don't comment on my eating/weight etc. anymore" or whatever you'd be happy saying.

    I was bullied during school but I eventually learnt to push back (when appropriate) and avoid ****-heads (when possible). I've been bully-free ever since!
  • 75lbsless
    75lbsless Posts: 26 Member
    How about..."if your advise is so good, why isn't it working for you?" Whether in shape or out, that should give them a complex

    Lol I would feel horrible after. I'm way too nice
  • Eleanorjanethinner
    Eleanorjanethinner Posts: 563 Member
    Ooh, I got starred out! :laugh:
  • 75lbsless
    75lbsless Posts: 26 Member
    Some of this can verge on bullying and it does need you to be brave and assertively push back.

    Plan a thing to say that you'd be happy saying, then whip it out if you get an unhelpful comment. "Thanks for your input, but I'm fine" or whatever in a firm tone of voice, with a bit of eye contact and a bit of a fake smile. Push back a bit and see how it goes.

    If they respond defensively (which they're likely to do) with a "No need to be so sensitive, I was only trying to help!", try repeating the same thing. Hopefully they'll back off when they see you're not easy meat any more. If not, you might need to be a bit more blunt i.e. "I appreciate your concern, but please don't comment on my eating/weight etc. anymore" or whatever you'd be happy saying.

    I was bullied during school but I eventually learnt to push back (when appropriate) and avoid ****-heads (when possible). I've been bully-free ever since!

    Excellent advice
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,993 Member
    Old saying I learned.

    "The fatter the people, the freer the advice".

    Don't sweat it.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • 75lbsless
    75lbsless Posts: 26 Member
    I feel so much better and I'm looking forward to going to work tomorrow :)
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