Divorced before 30

I'll tell you that one of the things I hate the most about being divorced is filling out documents. Are you single, married, divorced, separated? Um, I'm not divorced -- like that's some sign they hang around your neck -- I'm single. I mean, wtf? Our very society seems to stigmatize it if you ask me.

I completely agree, I hate that too. Cant it just be married or single. Do I have to have this "separation/divorve" thing hanging over me my whole life until I meet someone else.

Married at 19, divorced at 20, remarried at 23 and have been married to the same person since. And I'm, um, 18 years older now. I kind of feel stupid about my first marriage, but it doesn't bother me much. I just consider my current husband my first one. He's the one I had those awful children with, after all.:devil:

I'll be 29 Friday. I sign my decree on March 2nd, and within 2-4 weeks it'll be finalized.

Don't worry about the stigmas but ONLY after you've exhausted all your options. You can't live your life unhappy. While it's difficult I'm very, very happy now. Yes, you'll face judgement but would you rather be unhappy or judged? I'll take the judgement.

I got divorced shortly before my 29th birthday after almost 8 years of marriage.

I didn't date a lot until about 32 but by then I was able to exploit the "older woman" angle and got me an endless supply of 25 year olds. Just when I started to grow tired of meaningless, long-term physical relationships my now-husband came along.

There's no stigma. If you're not happy you need to make yourself happy, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Only you can take care of you.

Good luck. xo

I'm 34 now, filed when I was 33...married when I was 29...3 kids later...and him cheating for the past at least year...I called it quits...then it got a bit nasty with court and all that...I filed in January of 2011 and just signed the final paperwork in September...

It's tough...tougher with kids I think, but I'm moving forward!!! Seems like a lot of us have been there/done that - let us know, we're all here for support!

Do what is best for you...who cares what everyone else thinks!!!!! Honestly...what are they going to think when you're the next missing wife...do it for yourself. You deserve to be happy!!!!

Didn't read any other replies, just wanted to say that I had a kid at 15, got married at 23, divorced at 27, and I'll be re-married at 31 .... and I'm totally okay with myself. Everyone elses' opinion of me is 1] none of my business and 2] not worth it to be concerned about.

I have never been married, but I was in a relationship for 8 years and we had 2 kids.
It was rocky from the start and I had plenty of reasons to move on... but I couldn't 1. for the kids and 2. the fear of finances.
After being treated like crap for so long, something clicked, and I ended it. It was the BEST decision I have ever made in my life - I am so much happier.. and since I am happy the kids see that and it makes us all better. I am not angry (most of the time lol) anymore where I take it out on them, and they dont hear us fighting. The house is just much more emotionally stable. It's tough, but it was worth it. And screw what anyone else says, if the relationship isn't stable then do what is best for you (and your kids if you have them).

I do agree that if you are just in a rocky time, I would work on it and see if you can move forward. Unfortunately in my case I was for that, but it was always thrown back in my face. Could be the alcoholism of my ex that made any advancements unsuccessful, I don't know. All I know is I am happy and I am workign on a hot new bod in hopes to meet the man of my dreams and marry one day!

We deserve it!

Divorced by 25. Trust me, stereotypes and judgement are easier to live with than an unhappy marriage. You'll get over all the bs and be happy someday (either alone or with someone better) and that's what life is about, not paying for the rest of your life for a mistake you made when you were young (or old, or middle aged for that matter, no one deserves to be stuck). Good luck.

Everyone elses' opinion of me is 1] none of my business and 2] not worth it to be concerned about.

I so love that you wrote "none of my business" and not "none of their business." It's a subtle yet crucial difference.

Accepting and welcoming that idea has done amazing things for my mind and soul!

Divorced twice before 30. Who cares? Of course there are justifications behind it but I don't normally feel the need to explain them to anyone. It's MY life.