Friends be hatin'

SnazzyTraveller
SnazzyTraveller Posts: 457 Member
edited October 7 in Health and Weight Loss
Anybody else feel their friends are bitter about their weight loss?
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  • jesscaponigro
    jesscaponigro Posts: 114 Member
    Yes!! I have some friends that are so supportive and others that won't acknowledge it at all. The worst is when they say "well you aren't going to get any smaller", at the end of the day I am still proud of me!
  • Goal_Seeker_1988
    Goal_Seeker_1988 Posts: 1,619 Member
    Yea, I lost one friend bc she got jealous over my weightloss and she gained weight. My gain and her loss. Your real friends will stay on your side and your fake friends will be envious of you and try to sabatage you. Just agnore them and keep your goal in mind.
  • erin_zuk
    erin_zuk Posts: 226 Member
    yes!

    also - my older sister! For the first time since we were children I am now a smaller size than she is.
    This past year I have lost almost 40 lbs, while she has gained almost the same amount.

    it's frustrating because i continually see her making terrible food choices and she snubs up her nose saying I'm "showing off"
  • onefourone
    onefourone Posts: 212 Member
    before when i lost a bunch of weight they kept saying oh you must be sick you should see a doctor. They just could not be happy for me. They actually seem to be better with the me that gained all the weight i did. A little sad .. I would be happy as heck if they lost it... jealous yes but happy for them.
  • 0PhAtDaDdY
    0PhAtDaDdY Posts: 569 Member
    Anybody else feel their friends are bitter about their weight loss?

    I don't know that it's bitter but if they r not trying to lose they rather not talk about it...Tooo Funny!!!
  • Classalete
    Classalete Posts: 464 Member
    I want some of your hater friends...Make a MFP street team. ;D
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    YES!
  • SnazzyTraveller
    SnazzyTraveller Posts: 457 Member
    haha a couple of my closest friends were "hating on me" last night and i was just thinking "im gonna ask MFP... bet this happens to everyone!" thx guys
  • Usbornegal
    Usbornegal Posts: 601 Member
    As a person who has had lots of weight changes over the years, I typically do not make comments on changes in someone's weight whether it is up OR down, since it is a personal issue. I HATE it if someone makes a comment if I have gained weight - I am the same valuable person no matter what my scale number is. So those that don't comment may just be trying to love you as you are whatever the number. Just saying.
  • BrownEyedGirl130
    BrownEyedGirl130 Posts: 47
    I also hate when people comment if the scale is going up or down. I don't find it to be a compliment when others scream you are loosing weight...what you not eating anymore. It is no one's business but mine.
  • stayxtrue
    stayxtrue Posts: 1,186 Member
    OH Yes indeed, First day back at work and a few guys were joking around about drawing abs onto their stomachs and posting pictures on my facebook... They are just jealous! haha
  • Josteen06
    Josteen06 Posts: 20 Member
    I make the haters my motivators!!
  • Natashaa1991
    Natashaa1991 Posts: 866 Member
    what kind of closest friends do you have? mine are happy when i'm beautiful.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    I was called "salad girl" at work, "health nut", etc... but also got lots of compliments & praise when I dropped about 20 lbs a few years ago. My closest friend at work came to me for advice and that felt good... but yes, there will be some who never acknowledge anything and others who will make snide or smartass comments... once when I was super skinny and ordered something in a restaurant, the waiter made a really uncalled for comment that I needed to eat more or something with more calories, etc... I totally let her have it. Bad day, I guess. But people can go too far and feel the need to cut you down... hold your ground I say! ;-) Oh, and I love how family members will push food on you thinking you're going to eat that and gain... whatever. I had this happen recently. She wouldn't take no for an answer, so I said... sure, get me that burger. I just won't eat it. And I didn't.
  • Jd1360
    Jd1360 Posts: 170 Member
    I kinda have this, but I also (and more annoyingly) have a friend/ boss that "just wants me to eat more". O_O I mean, what am I supposed to do with that?! She knows I'm trying to lose weight and nags me when I don't eat enough for her definitions of meals. UGH.

    Mostly, my other friends are okay. My last boss was jealous, but also happy for me. I'd talking about going another pant size and she'd say something like "OMG, shut up" but in that loving, friendly way. :)
  • 0PhAtDaDdY
    0PhAtDaDdY Posts: 569 Member
    what kind of closest friends do you have? mine are happy when i'm beautiful.

    I'm sure you are just talking about guy friends only. hahaha...
  • thunderlight7
    thunderlight7 Posts: 72
    I used to be a pretty big guy. So I decided to get the weight off. People come up to me in the gym and ask how much more am I gonna lose as if I look sick. And they say I shouldnt lose anymore. Its annoying but, Im enjoying my lifestyle and I could care less.
  • mea9
    mea9 Posts: 561 Member
    Yes. I do think everybody has this problem. Some of it is probably you. Your habits change and your friends aren't going to eat that pastry alone. If you don't they either can't or are embarassed to themselves. I, personally, don't even want to watch a 300lb friend put down 2 sausage rolles with coffee. I am aware it's her deal but it makes me a little nauseous. It changes things for everybody. You just have to remember it's good.
  • Natashaa1991
    Natashaa1991 Posts: 866 Member
    what kind of closest friends do you have? mine are happy when i'm beautiful.

    I'm sure you are just talking about guy friends only. hahaha...

    no, i'm talking about girlfriends. but then again, i know 4 of my closest friends since i was 10 years old, and about new ones, well i can't expect them to be happy for me...
    but i know i'm on top of the world myself when my best friends look beautiful, i'm proud of them.
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    Well when I saw one of my close friends after losing a bunch of weight, she didn't acknowledge it, even though I was wearing clothes that made it obvious..
  • CiciPorcayo
    CiciPorcayo Posts: 380 Member
    Yes! A lot of my friends told me I should love myself for who I am and get over it! I got really mad, that is something someone who doesn't have the guts to get fit or look good would say --_--
  • p1xelate
    p1xelate Posts: 141 Member
    I kinda have this, but I also (and more annoyingly) have a friend/ boss that "just wants me to eat more". O_O I mean, what am I supposed to do with that?! She knows I'm trying to lose weight and nags me when I don't eat enough for her definitions of meals. UGH.

    Yeah I have this problem and mine brings in everything from junk fast food for me to expensive french pastry and it all started when I was successful at losing the first 15. She talks about it a lot but doesn't follow through.
  • cheshirequeen
    cheshirequeen Posts: 1,324 Member
    yes they do. ive lost the weight i wanted, and i have been asked do you eat, you are skinny, etc. then i get asked what i did, and when i tell them, they say, thats too hard, but of course you only work weekends. did i also mention i have a very active 3 year old i tell them. that shuts them up and i tell them, i have epilepsy, i need to rest more than most people because of the severity, and i still do my zumba, whats your excuse. that shuts them up completely. sometimes you just cant take it anymore. ignore them. jealousy is just a way of pulling you down with their snide remarks. you are not alone.
  • messy_Missy16
    messy_Missy16 Posts: 349 Member
    urg all of my friends & family.. they say that im fine the way i am i don't need too loose weight but i'm overweight to the point where it isnt healthy so i don't get them at all & make fun of me when im dieting and trying to exercise & teasing me with food & stuff they know i like that i've given up.. they drive me soo freaking insane geeesh
  • KarmaxKitty
    KarmaxKitty Posts: 901 Member
    I haven;t had any of this happen to me...yet. But now I'm really worried, because lots of my friends talk about losing weight and then never do anything... I take more credit hours than they do, but they still "can't find time to workout"... O_O I just keep my mouth shut...
  • Kikilicious84
    Kikilicious84 Posts: 312
    Yes. I do think everybody has this problem. Some of it is probably you. Your habits change and your friends aren't going to eat that pastry alone. If you don't they either can't or are embarassed to themselves. I, personally, don't even want to watch a 300lb friend put down 2 sausage rolles with coffee. I am aware it's her deal but it makes me a little nauseous. It changes things for everybody. You just have to remember it's good.

    Never really thought about it this way..
  • therealkittymao
    therealkittymao Posts: 194 Member
    I think sometimes people can't help feeling like that, I know I am no stranger to jealous feelings. BUT, as a true friend, it is my job (and every friend's job!) to keep themselves in check and not let those feelings get out of control and start some frenemy nastiness. I don't blame them for being jealous, your pic is adorable and all your hard work is clearly paying off! HOWEVER, if they are giving you a lot of crap and it is really getting you down, definitely take that into account when considering whether the friendship is worth preserving. It's normal to have envious feelings sometimes, but it's NOT normal to do passive-aggressive crap to make people feel bad who DON'T deserve to.
  • JimieLou
    JimieLou Posts: 273 Member
    I'm not sure if there bitter. But I know they're jealous.
    Out of the group of my four closest friends, I was always the fat one. I also happened to be the most outgoing, but I was usually shot down because of my weight.
    Now, I'm not the fattest one of our group. I'm still outgoing, but no longer get shot down. I actually have guys "chasing" after me. So bitter they're not....jealous they are.
    They ask me what I've done and when I tell them that a lot of blood, sweat and tears have gone into this progress, they turn their noses up and apparently don't like my advice.
  • Psychomasokism
    Psychomasokism Posts: 46 Member
    I make the haters my motivators!!

    Same! Nothing I love more than rubbin it in their hatin' faces xD love the title btw. Lol.
  • ciaobellakiss
    ciaobellakiss Posts: 142
    I have these two cousins who are sisters ( they are both like 90 lbs and only eat carrots) and they always, I MEAN ALWAYS, talk about my weight whenever I see them. They've said so many rude things to me and I just try to ignore them.

    Here are some comments they've said to me:
    " Why aren't you eating those chips? Oh wait I forgot you don't eat anymore"
    " No wonder you gained some weight back, don't starve yourself"
    " Your so skinny that it's gross"
    And they think that they have the right to tell me what to eat. They both are always giving me advice, when I don't even ask for it.
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