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Maybe he doesn't want to change? If that's the case, then all you'll end up doing is beating your head against the wall.

I don't quite meet those specs, but I'm starting down this trail. Motivation for me came from having two kids and my parents health deteriorating. I'm 6' started at 226lbs and I'm aiming for 180. My job entails mostly sitting all day, and I wouldn't consider myself currently 'athletic'.
He needs to understand that to loose weight he doesn't need to be athletic. Check out this article.. it was a motivating factor for me, it just proves you can eat 'whatever you want' and still loose weight. (just not as much as you want).

http://edition.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/11/08/twinkie.diet.professor/index.html?hpt=T2

I've tried many things before, but just started and then they failed weeks later... I think what has helped this time is that my wife is doing it with me every step of the way. She's on board and watching our meals and motivating me to hit the exercise by doing so herself.

I am a 5'10" tall and 46 years old man. Last year at this time I weighed 272 lbs. By the end of Nov - Beginning of Dec I weighed 196lbs. I now weigh 198 as I ate a little too much over the holidays and my gym was closed for almost 2 weeks.

My personal experience is that you cannot motivate someone to start living healthier. My wife tried for years to get me to eat healthier. It never worked! Just like an alcoholic I had to hit rock bottom and then decide to change by myself. For me the trigger was my Doctor telling me that I had high blood pressure and would most likely not make it to 50 years old. As I was about to turn 46, this gave me a real kick in the nuts!

It was hard at the beginning but once I got going, it became easier and easier. Now, I workout 6 days per week and my eating is much healthier. I am not perfect as my little holiday gain will attest to but I am proud of the direction I have chosen.

Also, for me, this is a lifestyle change. Not a diet! I have tried dieting in the past and it never worked for me. This current life of logging what I eat and keeping active will be the way I live from now on. Hopefully for a few years beyond 50!

Hopefully as you eat better and exercise more your husband will take the initiative on his own and join you. Aside from that.....

Best of luck on your journey and I hope that your husband joins you.

I pretty much agree that he has to decide when he's ready to get healthy. I tried with my husband and I finally just gave up and left him alone. After he watched me change and really get serious this past year he has now started to workout. If all else fails just offer him sex for every workout he does! He's a man sex always works!!:happy:

Don't compare him to people he might think you consider better than him. Not everyone considers success stories motivational: Men are simple creatures with fragile egos.

Help him find a fitness related hobby. Cycling, hiking, martial arts, running, soccer, badmitton, squash, foosball...

It has been my experience that people don't change unless they want to change. He is the only one who can change his mind. Hopefully, it doesn't take a major health crisis to wake him up.

Start going on lunch dates with the hot guy from down the street.....

I am just a bit taller the he is and started off with much more weight to lose....

Sorry but there is nothing you can do beyond being a good example for him. If you push he will resist. He need to decide for himself that he wants to make a change. If you drag him into it, he will not be successful because he will be doing it for you and not because he is truly committed to the process.

The thing that motivated me most was constant rejection. In this instance, the man already has a spouse so rejection is not going to be an issue, but going that route will likely emotionally break him. I have no other suggestion. He either wants it or he doesn't.

It seems he has nothing to gain that he can see by losing weight.

Take out a$1M life insurance policy on him, and tell him he has to go get a physical to qualify.
When he comes back with the high BP, Pre-diabetes (or worse), and hyperlipidemia diagnoses, tell him you're taking out a $10M policy, and he will have to pay the difference.
Wale-up calls like that will get a fella motivated. It worked for me.
We like to fix things.
Sometimes, even ourselves

The threat of diabetes is one that got my butt moving.. and I am a fireman who can't afford to get out of shape.

Just checking to see if women would go ahead and post their opinions anyway. As always you ladies never dissappoint.

Cook him a steak, give him a BeeJay, and tell him that he won't get either again until he drops 10lbs.

Now that's the man's perspective! Hilarious. :laugh: (and will probably work best.)

Tell him he's looking kinda small, then show him this article.

http://www.betterbodyjournal.com/fitness-exercises/will-weight-loss-and-exercise-make-your-penis-bigger

I'm 6'2 and started at 280. I started mfp at 269 when I heard about it from a friend. I've always enjoyed playing basketball. Most men, generally speaking, like some kind of sport. Try to find a way to get him involved in his favorite sport. For me, I have 3 co-workers that most every day go play basketball on lunch. Of course I'm going to go play with them. Understanding that most people can't play on their lunch, try to find a group that may be involved in the same sport, no matter what it is.