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Telephone call or in person?

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  • kimoRUN
    kimoRUN Posts: 325 Member
    This is definitley a situation that calls for a messenger pigeon.
  • srp2011
    srp2011 Posts: 1,829 Member
    I'm a pro at this and have been on both sides. It always sucks to have that conversation.

    I say no need to meet face to face. Just call him. It would be more embarrassing for him to be looking into your eyes when he hears the bad news.

    I completely agree! A phone call would be perfect. You might even want to preface phone call with a text that asks him when he's free because you guys need to talk (to kinda give him heads up so he's not completely shocked).

    I agree with this approach.

    I have to agree with this approach too - after 3 dates, a phone call is appropriate (email wouldn't be inapprpriate either, though text seems too casual). Having been on both sides, I can't imagine anything worse than getting dressed up for what I thought was a date, to find out I was being dumped, and then to have to sit there and be polite and cheerful for the rest of the evening... Now, if you had been dating for 3 months and had gone on a cruise with him, that would be different...
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Treat him with respect and call. Maybe you will end up being friends. If you do it via text, it just makes you look shady and childish.
  • sylvuz323
    sylvuz323 Posts: 468 Member
    Get a " sorry for your loss" hallmark card. Tell him you like him as a friend but, a cruise is too much too fast.......Bon Voyage. Oh and throw a $20 spot in there. It's rude to send a card without money in it. Plus he can buy some beer and it'll make it not sting as much.

    Lol...too funny
  • sylvuz323
    sylvuz323 Posts: 468 Member
    Thanks everyone for the advice, as I mentioned he is a nice guy and would make a great friend. I will give it some thought.
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    This is definitley a situation that calls for a messenger pigeon.
    So true! Or a Smoke Signals For Beginners handbook
  • PedmomJill
    PedmomJill Posts: 505 Member
    How's this for timing?!

    I got dumped this morning. Via text message.

    To be honest, I don't actually think it would have hurt more or less had it been in person or on the phone. (We also only dated for a couple of weeks)
  • dckim
    dckim Posts: 311 Member
    off subject, but i read an article where this girl went on 200+ dates a year so she can eat free. something is wrong with our dating system.

    i would wait till the dude calls you and then break it easy.
    Thanks everyone for the advice, as I mentioned he is a nice guy and would make a great friend. I will give it some thought.
    "he is a nice guy and would make a great friend" <-- these are death words for most men.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I think a call would be sufficient.

    And WHY is he talking about a cruise after 3 dates?!?!! Jeesh. That should have been discussed during 1st date.

    Totally random fact here but I met a guy recently who turned texting feature off. He believes it's quite impersonal. So you couldn't do it through text with him! haha
  • lcgs7713
    lcgs7713 Posts: 12 Member
    you need to see him and tell him in his face!!
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