sexy within... thoughts?

I understand where you're coming from. I used to be so confident when I was heavier, believed I was beautiful & sexy, would strut my stuff around haha. But, when I embarked on this journey, I think I became more conscious of my appearance, especially when it came to my weight. I didn't see the same girl in the mirror anymore, and I still don't. I know that losing weight should make us all more confident and happy with ourselves, but I think all of the focus and realization of how I really look has taken a toll on my confidence -- and confidence is sexy!

I've been trying to focus on being the best person I can be, instead of just focusing on my weight loss.. you know, being happy all the time, spending time with friends and family and volunteering. Hopefully in time the sexy confidence I used to have will come back!

Best of luck - EVERYONE deserves to feel confident and sexy 100% of the time, and I hope you get that feeling back!! xx

Gotta agree with the poster above me. Some days I feel really sexy and other days I just feel frumpy. If I'm wearing a cute outfit and feel happy and like the people I'm with, I feel sexy. Then there's other days where I can be wearing a decent outfit and am happy, but then my friends get hit on and i don't and i feel so unsexy. it's up and down for me.

I feel the sexiest when I'm healthy. When I down a coke or eat something naughty, of course I feel the way I look with calories up in my mouth growse. I feel stunning when I'm drenched in sweat from a workout and have an apple in my hand, poolside post workout.

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...anyone?? ...anyone??? .... Bueller???

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I don't know but those boots in your picture are VERY sexy!!!

For me, sexiness does come from within. It's a state of mind. There are days I feel sexy and others I don't. By now at 32, I kinda know what I have to do to "feel" sexy. Like wearing certain types of clothes, working out, affirming myself, being around positive people, be productive, etc etc.

I am also working on not letting my feeling sexy come from being validated by others. Sure, it's nice but I don't want my sense of worth coming from anybody else but me.

I think it's very interesting you found yourself sexy when you were heavier... it's usually the other way around.

It is the same for us guys too I think but more how we are treated by ladies we find sexy and desirable.
Our egos need to be stroked. :ohwell:

Not just your egos...

I think sexy is a state of mind..even a not so slim person can feel sexy ! For me...wearing my nice panties makes me feel sexy !!!!! Sexy isnt about being naked or the way you dress it is a state of mind !

I feel sexiest when I'm wearing stocking, heels and red lipstick.

Sorry I can't help on why you don't feel it now that you've lost weight... a woman's mind is a scary place. :flowerforyou:

Oddly enough I feel sexier now than I did when I was thin...granted, I wasn't in love with myself.

I now love myself more than ever and know I deserve the best and am one to be reckoned with. My body will change throughout my life but my confidence has become like a rock. Once I'm back to a comfortable weight physically, I'll just be a million times more awesome than I am now.

I do believe it comes from within...look for it...and own it.

I feel sexiest when I'm wearing stocking, heels and red lipstick.

*loosens collar*

...anyone?? ...anyone??? .... Bueller???

My GOSH girl, you are GORGEOUS! Look at yourself.............your pics..................you're fabulous!

Now, as someone who is a 'bit' your senior, I am going to tell you this "slap yourself silly for not feeling sexy, and wear those boots more often!" Your hubby must love them

55 pounds ago, I was one sexy b*itch.

Today, I am one sexy AND HEALTHIER b*itch.


It comes from within....

I was the opposite from this happening. I was always shy and uncomfortable and not feeling well about myself. I lost the weight when I joined the military and felt really good. Then I got married and had children, step stools if you will. I never did lose my weight after that. I lost all of myself esteem and with no help from my husband just continued to gain weight. I now weight in at 336 lbs. I need to lose weight and keep it off for me. I hope to get some of me back that I lost along the way.

I was just reading a 'are you sexy' thread. Many of the people were saying that it comes from within... What are YOUR thoughts on it? Can you lose it if you once had it (inside or out)? Are you able to get it back? Can you 'get' it if you have never had it?? HOW do you do this??

I DID feel sexy. Mostly when I was MUCH heavier. Now that I have lost some weight, it seems I have lost 'it'. Lost the confidence that I once had. The 'sexiness' if you will. THAT is what I feel is sexy. How can I get back to that place?? It seems I need outside 'affirmation' from others. I never needed that before. Where is this coming from? Why is it here NOW?? Why is it that the 'heavy' girl had it, but the 'thinner' girl doesn't??

Any thoughts are appreciated. Thanks.

No, it does not.
Confidence comes from within, and that's sexy, but at some point a person - guy or girl - needs more than just game.

And being fit plays into this at some point whether some are loath to admit this or not.
Either get fit or be prepared to be equally yoked with another such "sexy" person, because in the dark, all cats are grey.

I agree with everyone that says CONFIDENCE is sexy... that is what I hear all the time. I don't yet have the confidence to feel sexy all the time. When I was heavier I thought I was cute and could rock being cute when out. Now I am working on being MORE than cute and I personally don't think I am there just yet.

I know that I have sexy in me just working on getting there ONE DAY AT A TIME :bigsmile: