Maybe it's mean of me...

=D

I kid you not, my husband made me watch all 10 Star Trek movies before he would marry me.

Mine was all 6 Star Wars movies! If I had to watch all 10 Star Treks I think I would have kept postponing the wedding, lol.

I don't think it's mean but maybe becaus I do it, too. I have very good reason. I've been there before and kicking my *kitten* to not go back to that dark place. Surrounding myself with people with those bad habits make me want to do it, call it a trigger if you may, so... That's my reason.

I never add any random people as friends. If I don't know you, tough ****.

I'm on Tumblr as well, so I also try and follow on healthy (or recovering ED) tumblrs as well.

... But if someone adds me randomly as a friend I always accept, but then if I see that they have a 600 cal daily goal which they are eating under by a few hundred everyday I delete them.

I guess I'm trying to surround myself with healthy positive people who I can relate too?
I know that I may not know the whole story, but I can't see people cheering others on because they only ate 300 calories that day, it makes me sad and makes me think I'm a hippopotamus.

Am I alone here?

No, those dolts will die fat....

LOL - read this forum as I downed a handful of my addiction, white cheddar cheezits, that just put me over my goal for the day - oh darn ate like 1500 calories instead of 1300... I have looked at a few of my friends' diaries and been like, are you kidding me?? They have "healthy" calorie goals but oh lordy what they manage to eat within that goal... and I should talk, as I manage to fit some candy and some wine into mine on a regular basis... But I totally agree, if someone's goals, lifestyle, eating habits, whatever, is not in line with yours in such a way that would be detrimental to your own progress to health, unfriend them! I don't want a lot of negative complaining attitudes all over my wall every day, so if someone seems to be perpetually a downer, I won't keep them. I understand the occasional need to rant, vent, whine, but I am a part of MFP to get MYSELF better. If I can encourage someone along the way on MY journey, YAY, but this is All About Me. In the meantime, if ya'll form the Hippo Group, my hips would definitely qualify me for membership!

I had one who ate 50 calories one day. And was upset she ate 250 a few days prior.

I don't understand it.

Then again, I dont' understand women in general.

Ok... so after reading some other posts... i thought id mention im sorry if my post came off a little harsh i didnt mean it that way...it just is upsetting to hear people starving themselves

I am not a doctor, psychologist, etc., but I think supporting someone on this site with an eating disorder is enabling them. I would delete them, and possibly even tell them why I was doing it, before going ahead and doing it.

I have deleted a few people who I could tell didn't like my style, interests, etc. It was an effort trying to find the right way to support them, so I wasn't the proper friend for them. We need to remember that this site isn't a place to find professional help. We are all here to help ourselves, and maybe enjoy some mutual support and a little fun and distraction.

The word "hippopotamus" is derived from the ancient Greek ἱπποπόταμος, hippopotamos, from ἵππος, hippos, "horse", and ποταμός, potamos, "river", meaning "horse of the river".In English, the plural is hippopotamuses, but hippopotami is also used; hippos can be used as a short plural. Hippopotamuses are gregarious, living in groups of up to 30 animals; such a group is called a pod, herd, dale, or bloat.

I haven't made any friends yet, but I would most likely delete someone consistently eating really low calories. I might eat 600 in a day sometimes, but usually the day before I ate like 4000 lol... or I was sick. So, I go through this punishment thing I guess. Not a healthy cycle either, but working on it.
But yea, people with the same goals or issues would seem to be more beneficial to both parties~

Oh, and hippos are herbivores, unless forced into a situation where meat is the only choice. I myself must have meat multiple times a day, so I cannot count myself among the hippopotmi on MFP ~

Hey, this hippo needs support! Which one of you can motivate me??? New here in this calorie counting jungle. 5lbs. down and a long way to go.........I will do it though!

I don't delete anybody. I just hope that they pay attention and learn how to eat. I hope that when they see someone looking healthy at 2000 calories, they'll give it a shot themselves. I know it's a lot to hope for, but you never know.

Sometimes I wonder if some of these people are so poor they can't afford food. Yeah, I know they're on the internet but some people love material things more than food. Pretty sad.

They are usually the ones compaining they "don't feel well" or " don't have the energy to work out" or "why can't I lose weight" (build muscel, etc...). A money issue is one thing but someone living on fast food or cookies (my peeve) isn't cutting the mustard and aren't getting it. If you don't delete them they take up your energy you could well put elsewhere.

You are not alone. I am also a hippopotomus

and me also...i would starve if only ate 600 a day..

I am a total hippo and LOVE my food!! :laugh: :happy:

As someone that has recovered from anorexia..I still struggle with it..I do have some fellow recovered people on here as friends..when they are low, I don't say "oh great job"..sometimes I send a message asking if they are okay..but I try, most of my friends try. It's hard to eliminate people. I have a friend who is on a dr ordered low cal diet d/t medical issues...the only time i tend to delete is when people stop using the site..but we are all different

I think there are all types of people here. I really like to read a person's profile ahead of time or see how they post. Let's face it, there are very few people, I mean there is no one single friend that I have hear who sees things 100% my way, and they don't have to in order for me to get something out of the relationship with them. If you can't find anything you like then delete them if that bothers you to that extent. I can think of one person that I did not friend because I didn't know what was going on and their profile seemed a bit screwy to me. I didn't think I'd be a very good friend to them. As you say, they just could have picked me for little to no reason or "randomly". From time to time I clean out my friend list of people who are not active any more after a month or longer. Some I have left a note to contact me again if they want to come back and be friends, but a couple I didn't really get to know or couldn't relate to so I let them go after no activity here.

Sounds wrong to say, but it is all about You for you and for me it is all about me. Do what makes you happy here and if someone doesn't like it they will be sure to let you know! ; )