Thigh Gap Desires

I think the thigh gap desire is silly.. just like the six pack ab obsession.

Not everyone is going to have them... so might as well just accept your body how it is and make it the best it can be.

If it means that you that your thighs touch or your stomach is not 100% flat.. then so be it.

I DO understand the people wanting to not have to deal with chafing. But what they need to realize is that even without the gap, at a healthy weight, the chafing goes away, gap or no gap.

Wanting it for aesthetic reasons, well, it's just not something I understand. But then, while I want a smaller, more toned body, I very much like my overall shape. I wouldn't change much about it.

I do not get this. I had a gap between my thighs when I was a teenager and looking back on photos I looked scrawny. I will work hard to achieve my goal weight but I have learnt to accept my curvy thighs.

This obsession with a gap between the thighs is very strange to me.

But the truth is, it really depends mostly on the size of your hips and your genes. You may never have one, so you should enjoy and appreciate your thighs now and their lack of a gap.

Focus on something more important, like your fitness abilities. Those you can have and improve on. Thigh gaps come and go or never come in the first place.

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When I was younger I was always very thin and I had a "thigh gap". At the time I didnt know or even dream that anyone would ever want that because along with that thigh gap came extremely skinny legs - and nicknames like chicken legs, bird legs and stick legs. I didn't like it. They weren't the sexy, curvy, mature legs of a woman, the were the legs of a child! Then as I got into my 30's and began to piick up weight it didn't go to my legs or thighs, it went to my middle, around the waist, and it stayed there and grew. I have looked pregnant for 20 years. I would LOVE to have a small waist like you, but I realize I would probably have big thighs if I had a small waist because it has to go somewhere, and genes are what gave me this shape - my mother and grandmother both had basketball tummies and skinny legs! I look more like an ostrich than a coke bottle. Girls with bigger thighs are pear shaped. So your choice is ostrich or pear, neither are desireable. Also keep in mind that women that carry their weight around their middle as opposed to the thights are more ceceptible to heart attacks. And women tend to carry their weight in their thighs and men tend to carry their weight in their middle.

But don't obsess about it, if you're healthy and your weight is in the healthy range, then you are most likely the only person noticing the size of your thighs.

In 2003 I was in the absolute best shape of my life and very very tone. I am 5'10 and weighted 125 lbs and my thighs STILL touched. DNA and your families genes can be difficult to handle, but it does not mean that you have to hate yourself for it. The fact of the matter is, you have to embrace the idea of being the YOU you can be. We are not all going to have legs like Charlize Theron's legs....I know I don't.

When I was younger I was always very thin and I had a "thigh gap". At the time I didnt know or even dream that anyone would ever want that because along with that thigh gap came extremely skinny legs - and nicknames like chicken legs, bird legs and stick legs. I didn't like it. They weren't the sexy, curvy, mature legs of a woman, the were the legs of a child! Then as I got into my 30's and began to piick up weight it didn't go to my legs or thighs, it went to my middle, around the waist, and it stayed there and grew. I have looked pregnant for 20 years. I would LOVE to have a small waist like you, but I realize I would probably have big thighs if I had a small waist because it has to go somewhere, and genes are what gave me this shape - my mother and grandmother both had basketball tummies and skinny legs! I look more like an ostrich than a coke bottle. Girls with bigger thighs are pear shaped. So your choice is ostrich or pear, neither are desireable. Also keep in mind that women that carry their weight around their middle as opposed to the thights are more ceceptible to heart attacks. And women tend to carry their weight in their thighs and men tend to carry their weight in their middle.

But don't obsess about it, if you're healthy and your weight is in the healthy range, then you are most likely the only person noticing the size of your thighs.

"chicken legs, bird legs and stick legs. I didn't like it. They weren't the sexy, curvy, mature legs of a woman, they were the legs of a child! "
that's honestly the first thing that comes to mind when i hear "thigh gap" :laugh:

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-X1ca4SpL6OU/TsJdqRiuItI/AAAAAAAAACg/LnI9kDweDt8/s1600/marilyn.jpg

I do not desire a gap, but I would like to walk really fast without my thighs catching on fire....just saying its not a comfty feeling!!!

I read this 5 minutes ago and I'm still giggling. Too funny. And, me too! That's where all my jeans wear out first, and I hate that!

Yeah you look "trim," but you don't look fit at all, you actually look anorexic (you claim you have muscles, if this is true, I'd be curious to know how much you can squat ...[insert rude, inappropriate evaluations here]..Oh, and finally, the whole yoga "long lean muscles" is a complete myth. You need resistance to build muscle, and yoga just cannot offer the level of resistance necessary. Do your research.

First of all - you can't tell anything about someone's fitness by one photo. I am fit, perfectly healthy (blood panels always in ideal ranges) I work out about four or five days a week, and can easily run a 9 minute mile. I work at a women's gym that works with hydraulic resistance (so it doesn't tell how much weight is on it), but I did go to a traditional gym a few weeks ago and (while they didn't have a squat machine) I did three sets of 170 on the leg press. It wouldn't be appropriate for me to say someone wasn't fit just because they had a few extra pounds of them, and it's not appropriate for you to tell a stranger that they aren't fit because they don't have extra pounds on them.

Also, are you really serious about yoga not building muscle/strength? When was the last time you did yoga? Your entire body is used as resistance in yoga.

http://youtu.be/9e72knKHWwE

^So this woman is doing this with no muscle or strength?

Word.

I was going to jump in and defend yoga, but you've beat me to the punch. I freaking hate it when people throw out "you look anorexic" as an insult. Anorexia is a disease. You think they would say something like "You look like you have AIDs", "You look you have Cancer", "You have that diabetes look." Probably not - because it's tactless and cruel.

/rant

I completely understand where you're coming from. For those of you who don't get why someone might want a thigh gap, let me introduce you to the wonderful world of thigh chafe. If you've never had to put vaseline or lotion between your things just so you can wear shorts than you can't possibly understand. I'm dying for a thigh gap too. I'm so sick of the pain and getting those little bumps from chafing. I can't wait til I'm toned enough to wear shorts & skirts without tights!!! Good luck!!

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