How to be pretty?!

Squible
Squible Posts: 359 Member
edited October 7 in Health and Weight Loss
So I've lost a bit of weight and have felt a bit better about myself for it, I just don't feel pretty or good about myself for it or confidmdt or anything like that, just keep feeling sad and sorry for myself.

Anyway I was wondering what and how people gained their confidence or something they might do to make themselves feel good and how this helped them carry on this journey. Thanks!
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  • lovelivelaugh91
    lovelivelaugh91 Posts: 5
    Confidence comes from within. It shouldn't be based on whether your skinny or not. To me confidence comes from personality, from just being the person you are. My friend is bigger but she's the most confident person I know and people love her for this. She loves herself the way she is and people love being around her.

    Know that you are beautiful no matter what! :)
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    To help I took a look at your pic. The first thing I noticed is that your hair and eyes especially are absolutely gorgeous! Most women would pay so much to have hair like yours. Sometimes, though, when I don't feel very pretty, I pit on make up that enhances my best features. For you, maybe a nice, shimmery copper eyeshadow and light mascara. It'll make those lovely eyes pop :) or, you could go to a store that does free makeovers. Some make you buy an item, but at MAC, you don't have to, and just tell the artist to pick what will look best. Most love having free range on someones look, it allows them to be creative. Hope this helped.
  • rmwinters
    rmwinters Posts: 288 Member
    SMILE!
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
    Get your hair done -- a sexy red or a deep, rich brown would look great on you with a cute bob and some bangs.

    Find a lip gloss you love. There's something about glossy lips that makes you feel prettier! I never leave the house without it.

    Buy some sexy jeans. A great pair of jeans can do wonders for your self confidence.

    Smile, be happy, and enjoy life.
  • PetitePerfection
    PetitePerfection Posts: 199 Member
    This sounds silly, but pretend to be confident! I started off just pretending that I was super super confident, and soon enough I started to believe it!! Every once in a while I still get down on myself, but I'm usually one of the most confident people I know:laugh: It just takes some time, but as soon as you start telling yourself that you're confident, you will be and the people around you can sense that and will want to be around you. Then that of course feeds back into the confidence and you find yourself in a self loving chain!!:laugh:
  • pretty_ribbons
    pretty_ribbons Posts: 154 Member
    So I've lost a bit of weight and have felt a bit better about myself for it, I just don't feel pretty or good about myself for it or confidmdt or anything like that, just keep feeling sad and sorry for myself.

    Anyway I was wondering what and how people gained their confidence or something they might do to make themselves feel good and how this helped them carry on this journey. Thanks!

    i have re started my weight loss journey this year, last year i lost 28 lbs and there isnt really much difference to the way i look, i have no confidence, and i dont feel pretty at all, so this time round i have wiped myself clean, i naturally have curly hair which i hate so i always straighten it but i have decided to just go natural, and pull it back in a bun take better care of it and of my skin by doing weekly scrubs always making sure my eyebrows are done, although i dont like my natural hair i actually feel better because its starting to repair from all the hot iron damage and i feel fresher, its helping me to carry on with this journey and concentrate on it more not worrying about my hair curling from doing sweaty workouts and also im thinking at the end of it not only will i lose the weight but i will look healthier

    um...i hope that made sense :s it might not help you but its worth sharing, i guess :smile:
  • Canadien
    Canadien Posts: 122 Member
    I honestly think that when I person is positive and smiling a sincere smile, they are so beautiful. I know this sounds super cheesey but it's my honest opinion. Just be optimistic, positive, and genuine.
  • sssygirl
    sssygirl Posts: 55 Member
    Go do something just for you! This might be a new hair cut or a mani pedi..or it might be a walk on the beach or a hike. But make sure you take time every week at least just for yourself.

    Regarding outward appearance, buy yourself something that you would love to wear but never did when you were heavier. Maybe its a belt or a fitted top, or even something sparkly..then go out and have some fun with your girlfriends..nothing makes you feel better than a fun night out with the girls!
  • anshaw03
    anshaw03 Posts: 22 Member
    This sounds silly, but pretend to be confident! I started off just pretending that I was super super confident, and soon enough I started to believe it!! Every once in a while I still get down on myself, but I'm usually one of the most confident people I know:laugh: It just takes some time, but as soon as you start telling yourself that you're confident, you will be and the people around you can sense that and will want to be around you. Then that of course feeds back into the confidence and you find yourself in a self loving chain!!:laugh:

    This. Yes! You just have to fake it till you make it. The more you tell yourself you are (insert whatever), you will be. If you say "I'm not pretty", you will think so. "If you say, yes, I am pretty and forget anyone who doesn't see it"-then guess what...eventually, you do think that way. It's taken me a long time and I don't feel like it every day, but most days I feel pretty good!
  • JoDeeD
    JoDeeD Posts: 391
    Do something just for you. Go to a department store's makeup counter and have a makeover there. Most of them will do a free one if you buy something they use on you. I always feel better after a hair cut, color and style too!
  • pretty_ribbons
    pretty_ribbons Posts: 154 Member
    This sounds silly, but pretend to be confident! I started off just pretending that I was super super confident, and soon enough I started to believe it!! Every once in a while I still get down on myself, but I'm usually one of the most confident people I know:laugh: It just takes some time, but as soon as you start telling yourself that you're confident, you will be and the people around you can sense that and will want to be around you. Then that of course feeds back into the confidence and you find yourself in a self loving chain!!:laugh:

    This. Yes! You just have to fake it till you make it. The more you tell yourself you are (insert whatever), you will be. If you say "I'm not pretty", you will think so. "If you say, yes, I am pretty and forget anyone who doesn't see it"-then guess what...eventually, you do think that way. It's taken me a long time and I don't feel like it every day, but most days I feel pretty good!

    this is fantastic, i am going to try this everyday

    fake it till you make it....i love that !
  • melg126
    melg126 Posts: 378
    I think confidence and feeling pretty comes from the inside. I have alot of weight to lose but I consider myself gorgeous and screw the world if they think otherwise.

    You just have to believe you are. Makeup and getting your hair done also helps... you gotta keep yourself looking the part.

    and if you need a laugh to help you along the way...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYpwAtnywTk

    :bigsmile:
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Its superficial, but consider going to a very expensive salon for a makeover.
  • Elizabeth_M
    Elizabeth_M Posts: 562 Member
    You already are pretty - no - beautiful.

    Try daily self-affirmations.

    Buy a new top or something that makes you feel beautiful. I have a few go-to tops like that.

    If you wear makeup, take a little extra time to do this.

    Try to feel it, and it will radiate from you.
  • alyssa92982
    alyssa92982 Posts: 1,093 Member
    This takes time because most of it comes from within. But I know one thing that helps me is getting my hair donr or make up buying new clothes etc
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    Do you ever watch What Not To Wear? They do an amazing job at not only giving makeovers, but showing women just how beautiful they really are. It's not the hair or the clothes or the makeup, it's a switch that gets flipped inside their heads that makes them realize, "I *AM* worth making the effort to feel and look my best."

    Not everyone is going to be ambushed by style experts and shown what to do, but you can start by trying everything on, even if you hate it on the hanger, and then only buy clothes you LOVE and feel GREAT wearing. It's hard to feel attractive in clothes that aren't a good color or just don't fit right, but it's a lot easier to feel pretty when everything you pull out of your closet is flattering.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I know this may not work for everyone, but I've lost 42 pounds with MFP and though I felt pretty good about myself for a while, I didn't realize how powerful it would be when I started a new strength training program this week! I've only been at it for a week, but I wake up feeling confident and strong. I've even noticed that my posture is way better! Se maybe it's not strength training for you, but try something new this week that you've been hesitant to do. When you see how great it makes you feel, your confidence level will go through the roof!
  • waterwing
    waterwing Posts: 214 Member
    Yeah this is tricky but lots of people are giving you good advice. Just be an actress and eventually you'll believe it too. Standing up straight and tall and smiling can work. And yes.. new clothes, make up, hair etc helps.. also I find new underwear to be fun!
  • brandimacleod
    brandimacleod Posts: 368 Member
    I always feel pretty when I put on my makeup. My hair is naturally curly, so there is nothing good there....but some mascara, eyeliner and lipstick make me feel like a whole new woman. And then I stand up straight, smile, and go forth and conquer! As long as I think I am pretty, I AM PRETTY!!!
  • pretty_ribbons
    pretty_ribbons Posts: 154 Member


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYpwAtnywTk

    :bigsmile:

    LMAO!
  • groomchick
    groomchick Posts: 610 Member
    This sounds silly, but pretend to be confident! I started off just pretending that I was super super confident, and soon enough I started to believe it!! Every once in a while I still get down on myself, but I'm usually one of the most confident people I know:laugh: It just takes some time, but as soon as you start telling yourself that you're confident, you will be and the people around you can sense that and will want to be around you. Then that of course feeds back into the confidence and you find yourself in a self loving chain!!:laugh:

    This!! I faked it till I made it....funny thing...I really AM that person now! :wink:
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    This is what helps me when I'm feeling crappy about myself...

    Step 1: buy some clothes that flatter your body and make you feel sexy
    Step 2: buy 6 in stilettos that go great with your new clothes
    Step 3: buy a beautiful designer bag that also goes great with your new clothes
    Step 4: spa day- hair, nails, facial, massage, make up, etc.
    Step 5: go out dancing :D
  • CheleLynn44
    CheleLynn44 Posts: 339 Member
    It can be hard to see the changes in our bodies at the beginning. I have a closet (probably like most of you) and in it you can find a wide range of sizes of tops and bottoms. Putting something on that was tight and having it fit or be loose ALWAYS makes me feel better.

    Last Thursday we were headed out to dinner, I live in AZ so its still pretty nice out but when the sun goes down it can be chilly. I am a plain Jane Jean Capri and solid colored top type of gal, but I grabbed a cute little zebra crop sweater that I had worn on my last cruise and threw it on. Let me tell you, just doing that and taking time to put some jewelry on, I felt pretty good. Pretty in fact!!

    I have only list 16lbs and still weigh 291, but it boosted my confidence!! I do agree with a lot of the other posters that it does have to come from within, but its in there and you will find it!! :flowerforyou:
  • kimi131
    kimi131 Posts: 1,058 Member
    I know how you feel. I used to be there, and some days I still am. I even posted a blog about it: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/kimi131/view/old-me-vs-new-me-184027

    For me, the weight loss helped a lot and so did getting my eyes fixed. And just the decision that I was going to fix myself up. When I started fixing my hair more often, wearing eye liner and makeup more often, I started liking the girl in the mirror more and that keeps me doing it. And the guys are starting to notice too, not just that I fix myself up more but also that I have the confidence that goes with it.

    There was a time, about 2 years ago, when I had lost a lot of weight and was about 10 lbs thinner than I am now. I felt better about myself than I had prior to that weight loss, but it still didn't match the way I feel about myself now.

    The other day, my mom and I were talking about a friend the other day who has never paid much attention to me before but is now noticing me. Not a big deal since I would never date this guy anyway, but I just thought it was funny that he was talking to me a lot for the first time in years. My mom said, "Have you looked at yourself in the mirror?" I know, a typical mom response, but for the first time in probably my whole life, I thought "Oh yeah,... that might be it." :bigsmile:

    You are beautiful. Find things that make you happy and do them. Fix yourself up. Spend time with friends. Have fun. Soon you'll find the confidence to match.
  • Squible
    Squible Posts: 359 Member
    Oh wow guys thanks so much for all the GREAT respondes!
    I'm going shopping on Tuesday on my birthday and usually I shy away and wear 'comfy' clothes and not buy anything I like cause I feel I don't deserve it but I think I'm gonna dress myself up and do my hair and get some slap on and try and enjoy myself, or at least fake it til I realise I do deserve good things
    :-)
  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    you can develop it, but the prettiest people can have no confidence as well, trust me, I just spent the week at a conference with a gorgeous pageant queen and she has her insecurities as well. nothing you can do to your physical body can make you happy if you're not happy inside. I like this quote from an old TLC song

    "you can buy your hair if it won't grow, you can fix your nose if he say so, you can buy all the makeup that MAC can make, but if you can't look inside you, and find out who am I to, be in a position to make me feel so un-pretty"
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    Fake it 'til you make it. Behave like you are, dress like you are, do you hair like you are and, most importantly, treat yourself like you are the woman you think you should be. Eventually you'll be that woman.

    I once dreamed of being a knock-out psychopath. Look at me now!
  • QLily
    QLily Posts: 3
    PetitePerfect has a very good idea. Act as if you are. Find some one whose confidence or demeanor you admire and just pick one time to try it, at a store, at a restaurant or anywhere. Act as if will help you try on a little confidence slowly.
  • Priincess_Natalie
    Priincess_Natalie Posts: 367 Member
    Clothes shopping!!! Go to some nice stores and treat yourself to some super cute/sexy/whatever you're into clothes!

    Buy a well fitted, super sexy bra with matching undies!

    Go get your hair done by a pro. Change up the cut/style/color. It will make you feel like a new you.

    Try out some different make-up. Wear it lighter or darker than usual. Try different colors.

    Pull your shoulders back and walk taller. Keep your head up and look straight ahead. It says "I'm confident" and confident is the sexiest thing a woman can wear!!!
  • MiaOrange
    MiaOrange Posts: 151 Member
    I sometimes feel like that, esp when people call me "sir". I'm a woman/mom.

    I enjoyed getting a new outfit when I first started losing weight. More recently at a 50 lb loss I got a couple of workout outfits, that was a treat because all I had before were 2nd- hand, stained sweats etc. for relax/exercise clothes.

    Sometimes I wear eye makeup or dangly earrings. It was about 35 deg F here, but I just got back from jogging (which I rarely do outside) in the sun, a farmers market and walking around with my kids. It made me feel grateful for life and sun and feel confident because I was out doing healthy stuff with other healthy people.

    Also, like someone above said, smiling more really helps which I need to work on, because I get so overwhelmed about all these things I'm trying to change in life and forget to relax, smile or have fun. :smile:
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