Faker?

wow the support dries up real quick on here haha...
it’s odd, I mean yeah it’s a place of high-fives and wtg’s... but beyond that it seems somewhat superficial... I was hoping I could meet people who actually wanted to get to know each other, support the weight loss and share the sorties... but after the first round of avid enthusiast I can say there is maybe only one person who I can get boo out of...
should I give my finger a workout and start deleting or stick with it and give it a bit more time?

Errrr ^^^^^ yeah that really makes me wanna **happy wiggle** for you....

Who peed in your cornflakes this morning?

Shan - I love your **happy wiggles**

fake it till ya make it!

Yes! Birds of a feather need to stick together!

:flowerforyou:

Find the Friend within you .

The thing that killed it for me was the messaging system. I connect so much better on Facebook where I can be notified when someone replies to me, or more importantly to a post I make on their wall. Here, when I try and send someone encouragement I don't see when they reply. Honestly, It's also so hard to actually look up your friends here. Someone like me that has a ton can't just go in and pull down a nice list. That page by page thing sucks!

So don't get discouraged. Come join the MFP facebook group and we can connect there

I am new here as well. Not to weight loss or the internet though. I have a small friend list from the find your twin thread of people who were similar to me. I don't expect them to jump all in with both feet on being ultra supportive from day one it takes time to develop. It is more of we had weight loss and the same stats similar.... Lets see what happens.

Keep in mind you joined at the first of the year how many of those people are going to be here 2 or 3 months down the road? If those people joined at the same time as you they might not even be around anymore already or are new to weight loss and don't know how to be supportive of other people while trying to focus on themselves at the same time.

I would imagine people who have been here awhile get very used to every Jan a new flood of people coming in and then never coming back. Give it some time do your thing and in a month or two try to find some more friends. Friends that see you have been here a while and are serious and you will find more people who have showed the same thing.

I have only been on here two days. I love it. It is encouraging to read all of the success stories on here. Maybe that should be enough motivation. Get your personal friends on the same app it helps as well!

(high five)

Ha! I see you!

Ten days really isn’t enough time to come to the conclusion that you have, so that leads me to believe that you have used MFP in the past. It may just be that MFP isn’t right for you. I have a friend that tried both MFP and WW online and did not have success until she started going to the WW meetings. She really connects with her leader and gets a lot of support from other WW members. I do think that majority of people on this site are sincere, however, that doesn’t always come through so well on the internet. Some people on here have A LOT of friends because they have been here awhile, but they still want to provide some type of encouragement, and that’s where the WTGs come in. Ultimately, you have to do this for you. You can’t count on the support of strangers to be your motivation, or use the lack of support as an excuse to quit. If you really want it, what other people say and do isn’t going to deter you. Good luck!

I'm sorry you don't feel you're getting what you need out of this site, personally, it has been a life saver for me! I have an incredible group of friends I share support with.. some only to the point of a "WTG" or "Great Job!" for a good day of healthy eating and amazing exercise... others I joke with, talk to about life in general, etc... I am committed to supporting them as much as they are to me... I call them out if they haven't eaten enough calories for the day or have 2,000 calories of junk food and nothing nutritious and expect they'll bring it to my attention as well if need be... Ultimately, none of us know your habits... are you genuinely doing things to warrant hearing WTG? Are you attempting to become healthy or just skinny? Do you compete with your peers or truly offer up support as well? Have you attempted to learn from the many useful threads how to live a healthier lifestyle and tried to become involved with people who share your same goals? Because there is a difference. I personally will not support anyone on a very low calorie diet because it's a quick fix which USUALLY results in gaining back what is lost and learning nothing about nutrition or fitness.. it's as bad, in my opinion, as over eating. You have many things to assess while searching for the answer that only you can really provide about why you have chosen a group of friends who do not support your goals and/or habits... I wish you the best.

wow the support dries up real quick on here haha...
it’s odd, I mean yeah it’s a place of high-fives and wtg’s... but beyond that it seems somewhat superficial... I was hoping I could meet people who actually wanted to get to know each other, support the weight loss and share the sorties... but after the first round of avid enthusiast I can say there is maybe only one person who I can get boo out of...
should I give my finger a workout and start deleting or stick with it and give it a bit more time?

Well, for starters, I'm not quite sure how to give "boo". So we're probably not a good match from the start.

Make sure you log that finger workout, mmkay?

I don't know who your friends are, but I have some of the most amazing, geniune, gorgeous, dedicated, supportive, and motivating friends on MFP. Not sure what you expect being a newbie, but I would suggest losing the negative attitude. No one like that. :flowerforyou:

I echo this...my friends are all full of support & encouragment.

Give it time.........this journey is more about how much you're willing to put into changing your life............the more you do towards this goal, the better you'll feel & the more encouragement you'll get.............be patient & give this thing a chance...............

Everyone is human, so we're all going to act differently. Some people get busy, they don't log in, they fall off track, or they just aren't the type to encourage others a lot. Maybe they need encouragement from you? We're all here for various reasons, so try finding more friends on here and be open to the fact that we all use the site in different ways. Some won't use it the way you do. Also, you could start a topic titled "looking for encouraging, active friends" so that people know the type of friend you are looking for on here and know that you need more interaction. Hope this helps.