..SORRY(not accepting friend request at this time :/ ) ...W

Ok i think almost everyone missed the end of his statement i believe they were asking why and how does this make others feel?

Plenty of us expressed why we limit out friends lists.

Frankly i think it is kinda weird cause aren't we here for the support and motivation from others to make our journey more enjoyable? I know that's why i joined.

So, should we have to add anyone? Aren't we all free to choose who we would like to have along with us on our fitness Steve perry?

I never said anything about adding everyone but its easy to reject or decline it
yes but it seems like the poster was kinda attacked because they were curious and i dont feel that was right
And i would never put something like that cause frankly i dont have to talk to everyone on my list but stories are motivational and i also love everyones recipes!

I never said anything about adding everyone but its easy to reject or decline it

It's even easier to let everyone know that you aren't accepting requests. :drinker:

I agree - that being said, even though I have the note there, I still get a lot of requests. Probably 5 in the last hour alone. And every one of them has gotten a message from me offering to provide feedback/advice/support if they need something specific, letting them know some principles that work for me, and explaining (again) that I'm not accepting new friend requests.

I never said anything about adding everyone but its easy to reject or decline it

It's even easier to let everyone know that you aren't accepting requests. :drinker:

I agree - that being said, even though I have the note there, I still get a lot of requests. Probably 5 in the last hour alone. And every one of them has gotten a message from me offering to provide feedback/advice/support if they need something specific, letting them know some principles that work for me, and explaining (again) that I'm not accepting new friend requests.

Wow. You are a saint. That is going above and beyond.

Where do I pick up my halo?

Okay ... First off no shade thrown(no disrespect) to anyone that has this message on their profiles because everyone has their own reasons for this also their own right to privacy!!! ..With that said!

I was of course browsing through topics and came across a person and their view on something and thought ..wow this would be a interesting and encouraging person to get to know and get advice from. Well the first thing I seen was the NOT ACCEPTING FRIEND REQUEST sign!!! In my head the first things were said were "Um wtf!! ...Do people really do this?? ...Is there some kind of don't touch celebrities section in MFP I wasn't aware of?? ...Is there an audition policy going on here??:huh: " ... Needless to say I was taken aback by this:grumble: lol.

My question is has anyone else experienced this? Or has anyone had someone question them about their "not accepting friend request" sign?

I never thought I'd want or need to put this on my profile. However, as your friends list grows, you simply feel you can't keep up with all the posts on your status feed and you feel like you aren't supporting your friends enough. That is why I put mine up - but I still feel like I can't say no to a friends request.

I have never posted that on my page. I have reach my goal, but if i can encouarging one person who is trying to lose 1 pound or 500 pounds.i will be there.

It sounds somewhat "elitist" when someone says they are no longer accepting friends requests.

It's not. Just a question of how much time you are able to devote to MFP.

I have been on Maintenance for more than a year now. Although I have deleted most of my inactive friends, it is still difficult to interact with everyone on a regular basis. I know how much the support meant to me when I was struggling. I remember how important it was. That's why I have difficulty turning away friend requests. But I do have to turn most requests down.

I was spending more time on MFP than on other important aspects of my life. When that became apparent, I cut almost all of my feeds.

Just like dieting, it's a matter of balance. Please don't think those people who have put "no friend's requests" on their profile are rude or snobbish. Not necessarily the case. They may want to share and be supportive, but their time is limited.

i bet if you had huge melons they would say yes!

what does produce have to do with anything?

Some people want their "friend list" very small (myself included) so they can actually support and encourage the people they interact with.

FOR ME - I can't imagine trying to keep up with 50+ people and genuinely taking an interest in all of their diaries, activities, successes and struggles. The people I have as friends are usually around the same age, weight or we share a common interest that is important to us - Like minded people.

Good luck with your journey.

:flowerforyou:

well said... n that is why i dont add ppl that dont send a msg with their add... even a simple "hey im cutting/bulking and want to ask you a few questions..." this way i know that one time or another ill be working towards a same goal n both will benefit as it will get a little competitive with results..

i bet if you had huge melons they would say yes!

what does produce have to do with anything?

thats slang talk for "public diary"

Seems strange to me. I would think that:

A. Do people really get THAT many friend requests that they can't take the time out to write to each one and say they would like to keep their friends group small, or limited to only people they know in real life? I get a friend request like once a month.....hmm, or maybe people just don't want to be my friend :noway:

B. If they ignore the friend request, are there seriously people out there that get their panties in a wad over a complete online stranger on a fitness site not accepting their friend request?

Some people want their "friend list" very small (myself included) so they can actually support and encourage the people they interact with.

FOR ME - I can't imagine trying to keep up with 50+ people and genuinely taking an interest in all of their diaries, activities, successes and struggles. The people I have as friends are usually around the same age, weight or we share a common interest that is important to us - Like minded people.

Good luck with your journey.

:flowerforyou:

Me too!

I have this statement on my profile because I actively support everyone on my list.. My celebrity status has nothing to do with it.

Damn I wanted to be friends with LL


On topic if you're looking for friends you can add me

I've considered adding this to my profile....not that I'm too good as I'm certainly not. I just get so many these days. I'm glad my loss is inspiring others, but 100+ friends is really hard to keep up with. I'm thinking about picking out about 30 or so that I correspond with on a regular basis & remove the rest. I'll take the time to send each a message first though.:drinker: :laugh:

Some of us come to this site with baggage, I had lost over 270 lbs. without the help of this site but I am always up for trying new things on my journey and had been logging (in handwritten journals since the beginning) but decided to try this site but the main reason I joined is because my therapist suggested I start stepping outside of my comfort zone. You see my journey with myself not only includes my weightloss it is fixing what is broke in my head. I was homebound the final 2 years before I finally had that AHA moment and was dealing with severe depression and major social phobia issue. This site was a big step outside of my comfort zone by putting my story out there and interacting with this online community. I have taken baby steps and have around 35 friends that I make a point to interact with daily even when my social phobia fears would have me curl up in my shell because it is good therapy for me. I make an attempt to respond to topics daily outside of my friends list and take message and reply to them if I get them. I have over 140 friends request and get more daily and feel bad that I don't except them but I feel comfortable with my progress right now and as I open up more I add a more few from the list but I also like to interact with everyone on my list and I want the same back because it does help me open up so I can see where keep your list smaller helps....... Just my 2 cents....

I responded to a topic someone posted, where they were looking for friends and mentioned they added a few people who responded to the post. I sent a friend request and was denied because she was "only accepting friends who were taking part in some challenge" That's totally fine, but being rejected isnt fun and she could have mentioned it in her post.