too embarassed......

I started to run I was 115kg...with the same fear. I basically gave myself too much importance: nobody cared actually, they did not give a sh** about a fat runner. In a park, you are like somebody with his dog, if they look at you, they think aout something else. The best is a forest. Even worst, I was trying to run as slowly as possible. After a week, I was already running three time mrethan my first day. I am now slimmer than most people my age and can run 20km von a daily basis, just for fun. It took me a bit less than a year. The secret is to look for good feeling when running (I started with10 min, finnally reached 45 after 3 weeks) and stop on a good feeling so that you wish to come back on the next day. Never go to total exhaustion on the first months ot you will drop

Don't feel that way. I used to but it goes away as you make progress and start feeling better about yourself.

One good suggestion I have for you would be to go to the gym during slow times. I am at the gym at 4:00 am each day and probably one of only 10 people there. So that minimizes your feelings and there is not a crowd around the different equipment.

Also, if you walk around the neighborhood, do it before the sun comes up.

Please don't feel embarrassed at a gym. Start with a few sessions of a personal trainer so you can become comfortable with the gym equipment.. REMEMBER you are way ahead of those who are on the couch or make excuses!! Believe in yourself and success comes in small steps. If anyone is looking at you then they are not really there to workout!! You'll be surprised how supportive everyone can be. We're all there for the same reason. We all come in different shapes and sizes. Focus on your goal and be proud of yourself for every minute you work out!! Good luck and start today!!:flowerforyou:

The bottom line is you would be doing this for yourself and it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. That being said, most would be proud of you in seeing you taking charge and making a change for the better.

You shouldn't feel embarassed! Just say screw those people and do what you want. HowEVer, if you really don't want to leave the house, there are lots of options for working out at home. Do you have on demand? I do know Direct TV & Comcast have fitness videos on there, so check those out. You could also buy a used tredmill for cheap & do long walks on that while watching TV or reading (I love to read my Nook while I'm on the tredmill). You can also do your own circuit training in the house, if you go online and find different excersizes and do 3 or 4 different excersizes with some cardio in between, it can be quite effective.

It can be difficult at times to do it in front of others, I get embarrassed too, but I push myself and say who cares, if they don't like it they can suck it LOL. Actually, when I'm walking or jogging outside, my dog embarrasses me more than enything because he growls & barks at everyone (especially stupid squirrels lol).

If you want to try a gym I suggest going early (5 30 am ish) then its only old people Any way....start by parking farther away when you go shopping or by finding a hidden stair case and climbing that...I started climbing this staircase by my home and at first could only go up and down once...after awhile I could do it 10 times.....I always remind myself that what ever I am doing no matter how little is better than the majority of the population!!! Hang in there! It does get easier!!! Be proud of yourself for every positive step forward (literally)!!!

I don't think ppl would laugh at you. If you are too embarrassed consider an exercise dvd or a 6-8in step and do step aerobics to music at home. That is something I do when the weather is bad or if I don't feel like making the drive to the gym. Just commit to movement.

I took me a while to join a gym. I started exercising by just walking around the block (in my normal clothes or whatever). That's about all I could do when I started to exercise. I gradually increased it to 2 blocks, then 3. After about a year of this I tried my local ymca. I didn't feel any judgment there. All sizes and shapes and ages go the the y. It has been great. I just wore sweat pants and an old t-shirt when I began.

Focus on your health, find what you like to do, and you'll be fine.

The majority of people at that gym are embarassed, and if they aren't then they are too busy focusing on their workout. As long as you abide by proper gym protocol, it is easy to co-exist.

Who cares what strangers think? Are you going to see any of these people on a regular basis? Probably not. And if you keep it up and do happen to see those people regularly they will more than likely see your progress and be impressed by your determination. Go to the gym and see how you feel, its probably not as bad as you think. Walking is a great way to start exercising, its good for you on so many levels. Supplement it by working out at home. Exercise dvds are ok but if you get tired of doing the same thing over and over then I recommend using the wii if you can. A lot of the exercise programs vary the routine so its never boring and it will also monitor your progress...you will feel better about yourself in no time. I hope you succeed whatever you choose to do, you deserve it!:happy:

Whenever I see anyone(overweight or not) dressed in workout gear getting out and moving, I applaud them mentally(sometimes aloud, if I have time), you should be proud every time you take a step in the right direction!!

Just don't jump into some weird (complicated, hard to understand) machine and you'll be fine. Just find the ellipticals and jump on one of those. Observe the way that others work on some of the machines so that when you get up the drive to work on them, you'll already know how it is supposed to look. That should keep you from getting hurt and help you develop proper form.

I often go for walks outside in regular clothes. I have an almost four year old, and no car when his dad is at work, so I'm often walking him back and forth from preschool, and even that mile round trip has made a difference on the scale in just a week and a half. Even if you don't have a kid, you can definitely walk outside in regular clothes, and that will make a difference.

I am too embarassed to join a gym... or even go for walks outside. right now im getting exercise walking around my house.

its stupid I dont feel like people are looking at me normally. but I feel like if I was in exercise gear they would all be laughing at the very fat girl

I understand what you're thinking and can honestly tell you that people aren't looking. You can surely start out by walking, lose weight and then start going to a gym but that feeling of everyone will be watching doesn't go away until you go and see for yourself that people focus on themselves at the gym. And if someone's watching you... big deal! Go to the gym, keep going back and do this for yourself, your health and your well being! Give yourself the gift of your own attention and care. When I went in to the gym for the very first time I was like "I need your help". Floodgates of their support and help opened and I had people helping and I took their advice until I knew what I was doing. I still ask for help by going to the person I judge to have the most experience. Toughen the exterior so your mind is strong and walk in to the gym. Be proud of yourself and do it for you!!! :flowerforyou:

I feel the same, so I made Hubby join with me