Ex problems

CallmeSbo
CallmeSbo Posts: 611 Member
edited October 29 in Chit-Chat
My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.
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  • Lsqueezy
    Lsqueezy Posts: 128
    You mean she still has stuff to pick up? I usually burn anything left behind. :devil:
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    NO it's not rude. I still have some stuff over at my place from my ex and although I don't hate him nor am I hurt by him, I have no interest in seeing him so whenever he comes to pick it up, I will be out of town. :smile:
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    NO it's not rude. I still have some stuff over at my place from my ex and although I don't hate him nor am I hurt by him, I have no interest in seeing him so whenever he comes to pick it up, I will be out of town. :smile:

    Visiting me in NH haha
  • seehawkmomma
    seehawkmomma Posts: 815
    My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

    Is she trust worthy?

    I wouldnt leave an open apartment to my ex.....

    But i guess if you trust her than bounce....I wouldnt want to see my ex.

    If it was me I would gather their things put in a box and put it outside.
  • rjmwx81
    rjmwx81 Posts: 259 Member
    If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

    Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,454 Member
    My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

    Is she trust worthy?

    I wouldnt leave an open apartment to my ex.....

    But i guess if you trust her than bounce....I wouldnt want to see my ex.

    If it was me I would gather their things put in a box and put it outside.

    This. She dumped you, then she should have taken her stuff when she left.
  • kaits108
    kaits108 Posts: 305 Member
    My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

    Is she trust worthy?

    I wouldnt leave an open apartment to my ex.....

    But i guess if you trust her than bounce....I wouldnt want to see my ex.

    If it was me I would gather their things put in a box and put it outside.

    I agree with the box outside idea. I stayed friends with my ex, but I wouldn't even let him into my house anymore without me being there.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    NO it's not rude. I still have some stuff over at my place from my ex and although I don't hate him nor am I hurt by him, I have no interest in seeing him so whenever he comes to pick it up, I will be out of town. :smile:

    Visiting me in NH haha


    I WISH!!
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    See this...

    myexboyfriendscloset.com

    Mind you this site was blocked at my work. No idea what's on it, but it came up when searching for revenge and girlfriend.
  • cygnetpro
    cygnetpro Posts: 419 Member
    Not rude at all. She may be hoping that you won't be there, also. If you trust her not to ransack, I'd leave the key or leave the door unlocked.
  • Texas501
    Texas501 Posts: 274
    Mail it to her.
  • oneIT
    oneIT Posts: 388 Member
    You know this is the main reason they make curbs next to the street right? LOL!
  • danger_kitteh
    danger_kitteh Posts: 301 Member
    I personally would want to be there to make sure she only takes HER things and nothing else. To help keep that to a minimum, collect and box her things for her, so she cannot tromp around your place being a nuisance.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I wouldn't worry about being rude. If you don't want to see her, you shouldn't have to.
  • sherman76
    sherman76 Posts: 25 Member
    If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

    Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol


    I like this option
  • drvvork
    drvvork Posts: 1,162
    If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

    Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol

    Or... have a friend be there while she gets her items - but I would be there no matter the pain (I just had friends or family there 'visiting' while it was happening).
  • Eve53
    Eve53 Posts: 178 Member
    I don't know if these are still around, but I've heard of websites where you can see your ex's stuff, heh.

    Also, I agree with the box on the porch thing. Tell her that it's nothing against her, but that you can't be there (don't tell her that you don't want to be there) and you don't think it wise to just let her have free reign in your house.
  • Jyster
    Jyster Posts: 74 Member
    See this...

    myexboyfriendscloset.com

    Mind you this site was blocked at my work. No idea what's on it, but it came up when searching for revenge and girlfriend.

    I checked out the site and it is still under construction. whew, was worried I'd see some of my stuff there.
  • Dave198lbs
    Dave198lbs Posts: 8,810 Member
    MAN UP
  • Apryl546
    Apryl546 Posts: 909 Member
    I believe m boyfriend made this mistake, because he now misses certain movies etc from his place because his ex's took them when he wasn't around.

    I say put all of her stuff in a box and leave it outside the door for her. She doesn't need to step foot in your place without supervision regardless of it you trust her or not. There will always be that what if.
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
    You dont owe her anything anymore. Just be careful and hide your toothbrush and mouthwash if she hates you. Ieave a key if you trust her. I know this is very hard for you and im truely sorry and hate to hear this. Hang in there and keep on going. Wish you well .
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    Box oustide the door for sure. A lot of ex's aren't the people you thought they were and they can do some nasty things
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    Not rude at all.

    I had a friend of mine at my place when my ex came to get his stuff, that way I didn't have to be there but someone i trusted was to watch and make sure he didnt take something/wreck anything ...
  • tammietifanie
    tammietifanie Posts: 1,496 Member
    Since she left you i would put all her stuff in a box and leave it out side, That way you don't have to let her into your place and you don't have to deal with seeing her... She's lucky your nice enough to give it back to her i would have thrown it away by now..
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Box on the curb. If she uses the words "remain friends" or "closure" tune her out immediately. The sooner you move on the better. Best of luck.
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

    Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol

    Or... have a friend be there while she gets her items - but I would be there no matter the pain (I just had friends or family there 'visiting' while it was happening).

    ^^ This...and make sure it is a hot female!
  • seehawkmomma
    seehawkmomma Posts: 815
    Just be careful and hide your toothbrush and mouthwash if she hates you.

    This
  • hongruss
    hongruss Posts: 389 Member
    I personally would want to be there to make sure she only takes HER things and nothing else. To help keep that to a minimum, collect and box her things for her, so she cannot tromp around your place being a nuisance.

    TAKE THIS ADVICE, IT IS YOUR PLACE!!

    Russ
  • dirtbikegirl5
    dirtbikegirl5 Posts: 391 Member
    I would leave everything outside and leave for the day. Tell her if she doesn't pick it up by the time you get home, it goes in the trash. That is not to be mean. This doesn't give her the option to come and go as she pleases. I think you are being too nice leaving her the key and letting her decide when she is coming.
    YOU are in charge now.
  • 1WorkoutAtATime
    1WorkoutAtATime Posts: 719
    you know her better than we do, if she's gonn bring drama then just mail it or have a mutal freind be there. If she gonn abe cool about it an djust get her stuff then I then it you should be there.
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