Sometimes its hard to take compaments from people

Melissaol
Melissaol Posts: 948 Member
edited October 30 in Motivation and Support
I was out some girls last night. And my brother in law told me that if I keep lossing weight im going to blow away. What are you doing. I told him I workout every day for an hour. What do you say to that, Im only 163lbs. I plain on lossing 28 more pounds that will put me at 135.. If hes saying that wait until I hit my goal then what will they say. I just don't know what to say sometimes when I get complitments.. What do you say?

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  • AnninStPaul
    AnninStPaul Posts: 1,372 Member
    "Thank you"
  • Melissaol
    Melissaol Posts: 948 Member
    i like to here the complements, but some times i just don't know what to say back.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    "Thank you"

    This.
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    "Thank you so much for noticing" is another one you could use.:flowerforyou:
  • WickedMouse
    WickedMouse Posts: 343 Member
    I just say
    "Yes, I know"

    but that doesn't work for everyone, so typically a smile and a Thank you would suffice :)
  • Apazman
    Apazman Posts: 494 Member
    Thank you
    De nada
    Grazie
    arigatō gozaimasu
    Gratias tibi ago
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    "Thanks, I feel great."
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
    "Thank you"

    This.

    Yes. This would be the correct response to a compliment.

    If it's a jealous off-handed comment, that's another story.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Just say thank you and chuckle saying, "I surely will not blow away...unless of course we are in the middle of a tornado." I have a lot of people asking if I am done losing weight right now. I just tell them I am happy where I am weight wise, but I still have a lot of work to do to be as fit as I'd like to be.
  • russellma
    russellma Posts: 284 Member
    Thanks is always in order.

    If you're still over your normal BMI, you might let them know that you'd at least like to know what it feels like to be technically "normal"! That's not unrealistic.

    Before I met my goal, I had a lady compliment me and say, "You're not going to lose any more, are you?" and I let her know I still had x amount of lbs to even be "normal"!
  • spectralmoon
    spectralmoon Posts: 1,179 Member
    BACK ON TOPIC. I'm going to go the route that thinks this is entirely a motivational compliment ("I've noticed that you're trying, can see your progress, and want you to feel good about how far you've come!"), and I would say thank you in response. He may just want you to feel that your efforts and results are being noticed! I wouldn't take this as a bad thing. Lift your head, smile, and thank him for it. You've earned it!
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    "Thank you"

    ^^^^ This with a smile
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    Thank you!

    I never used to get many compliments, but now that I am I am learning to accept them with a 'thank you' and smile.
    It can be hard, especially for me, sometimes I doubt the motive behind the compliment but that is all coming as I adjust to my new body type.
  • drvvork
    drvvork Posts: 1,162
    I simply say "Thank You" and if it's someone trying to be smarty about it - (like my son who would say... "Mom, if you lose anymore weight you are going to fall through your A**hole and disappear") I say - "That's my plan!" :-)
  • Lyndi4
    Lyndi4 Posts: 442 Member
    I usually say thank you as well. I have a hard time believing compliments sometimes, but I am getting better.
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
    Like I said earlier, "thank you" is a great go-to response. If you make it a habit, it won't be awkward anymore.
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    "Thank you"
    "I've been working at it, thank you for noticing"

    I feel a bit uncomfortable with compliments, but they are nice to hear especially after working so hard. A lot of people gasp at the fact you want to lose more because they've only ever known you as heavy and when you lose a significant amount that's enough for them even if you aren't in the "healthy" range yet.

    I'm sure there are many more comments along the way good and bad but "thank you" is always appropriate for either =]
  • Thomasm198
    Thomasm198 Posts: 3,189 Member
    I was out some girls last night. And my brother in law told me that if I keep lossing weight im going to blow away. What are you doing. I told him I workout every day for an hour. What do you say to that, Im only 163lbs. I plain on lossing 28 more pounds that will put me at 135.. If hes saying that wait until I hit my goal then what will they say. I just don't know what to say sometimes when I get complitments.. What do you say?

    Just saying thank you is the best way of handling compliments.
  • chanson104
    chanson104 Posts: 859
    I agree that thank you is always appropriate, but it isn't always that simple. I've noticed that people that I haven't seen in a while have a tendency to go on and on about my weight loss. It can be a little uncomfortable.
  • speedyf
    speedyf Posts: 1,571 Member

    I never used to get many compliments, but now that I am I am learning to accept them with a 'thank you' and smile.
    It can be hard, especially for me, sometimes I doubt the motive behind the compliment but that is all coming as I adjust to my new body type.

    I think that's exactly what she meant. And I think we can all relate to that.
  • dolfn1972
    dolfn1972 Posts: 84 Member
    Thank you
    So nice of you to notice
    Ive decided it was time to do something for me
    Ive been working my tushy off
    So ...how does my butt look? (ok..this one was just for giggles)

    As for the poster that was belittling spelling, WTH. We are here to support and encourage each other. Nitpicking and people putting us down is a large problem to many with weight issues. Like many of our mommas and grandmas said "If you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at all"
  • ohsogoodfitness
    ohsogoodfitness Posts: 32
    A few thoughts...

    First, when one is large they don't get compliments...not on their largeness. And so to be used to compliments about your body is new.

    Second, I agree with others. Not accepting a compliment whole heartedly...is denying yourself....It's like saying well I sort of lost weight.... Sort of just doesn't measure up to what you have done and what you plan to do.

    Third, you will have many more comments made about your body. And get ready....it will be up an down. some will say they wish they could be like you, and that it's easy for you...this negates all you have done...it's not really a compliment, it's a justification for their own life. They will say you look great. A few will ask for your help. And this part I dislike a lot. But this exists in everything!! Opposition. Some will tell you you are too thin. There are several reasons for this, and not one of them matters regarding your health and fitness. It will however matter regarding whom you choose to spend your time with. :)

    Love and give yourself permission to say, I'm doing it!!!
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    I just say "I'm sexy and I know it"......... ha!

    It was really hard for me to learn how to respond too. I found that people tend to not continue to mention your progress if you always have a negative for the compliment. Example: "You look like you might blow away in a strong wind" If you just say "thanks for noticing, I have been working really hard" rather than "Thanks, but I still need to lose 30 lbs to even be normal" or "It would take a tornado" they will be more likely to keep telling you when they see a difference. It helps me stay motivated. But just a "thank you" is good. I like when people notice a difference. I had someone say something similar to me at 187 lbs, but I was so much smaller that in comparison, a stiff breeze could have taken me out. (In the sense that I was half the person I was before) I knew it would take more than a stiff breeze, but the sentiment nearly blew me away.......
  • Melissaol
    Melissaol Posts: 948 Member
    What is your problem today. Decided you are going to be an *kitten* today.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Say "I know"
  • mcdonl
    mcdonl Posts: 342 Member
    I get embarrased and usually say something stupid. I try to remember to get a thank you in there but it is not something I am used to so it always takes me by surprise.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I'm not good at it, but I have learned to say "Thank You".
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