Totally hateful comments by extended family members...
KLynnBear
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I was informed a few minutes ago by my mother's husband that I would never lose the weight I'm trying to lose because of my age (31). Then he proceeds to ask me how much I weigh and then laugh maniacally that I weigh five pounds more than he does.
There are several things about this that piss me off:
1. We aren't close so he has NO business talking to me about how much I weigh...or how much weight I should lose.
3. These rude comments were made loudly and repeated for emphasis IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN.
4. I don't argue in front of my kids and I was so angry I just took my kids and left.
5. I'm not THAT old and I'm not THAT overweight.
6. He's 3 inches shorter than I am and I can guarantee that my body fat is probably lower than HIS!
Sometimes people totally suck. Sometimes family dynamics suck. What just makes me irate is that I didn't say anything. I know nothing I say would matter to him I just wish I had put him in his place.
K
There are several things about this that piss me off:
1. We aren't close so he has NO business talking to me about how much I weigh...or how much weight I should lose.
3. These rude comments were made loudly and repeated for emphasis IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN.
4. I don't argue in front of my kids and I was so angry I just took my kids and left.
5. I'm not THAT old and I'm not THAT overweight.
6. He's 3 inches shorter than I am and I can guarantee that my body fat is probably lower than HIS!
Sometimes people totally suck. Sometimes family dynamics suck. What just makes me irate is that I didn't say anything. I know nothing I say would matter to him I just wish I had put him in his place.
K
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I was informed a few minutes ago by my mother's husband that I would never lose the weight I'm trying to lose because of my age (31). Then he proceeds to ask me how much I weigh and then laugh maniacally that I weigh five pounds more than he does.
There are several things about this that piss me off:
1. We aren't close so he has NO business talking to me about how much I weigh...or how much weight I should lose.
3. These rude comments were made loudly and repeated for emphasis IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN.
4. I don't argue in front of my kids and I was so angry I just took my kids and left.
5. I'm not THAT old and I'm not THAT overweight.
6. He's 3 inches shorter than I am and I can guarantee that my body fat is probably lower than HIS!
Sometimes people totally suck. Sometimes family dynamics suck. What just makes me irate is that I didn't say anything. I know nothing I say would matter to him I just wish I had put him in his place.
K
He sounds like a right pig! Did your mother hear all this? If so, did she not say anything?0 -
You walked away with your dignity intact. Well done.0
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What an A-hole....don't give him the satisfaction of being pissed off. He's an idiot. I hope that comments stop! Does say stuff like that often?0
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There is no place low enough you could put him hun. You don't need his validation for yourself or what you are doing. So his opinion means nothing and is worth nothing and therefore you have no need to say anything back to him. Just smile sweetly and change the subject in future, (Always infuriates people)0
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Just lose the weight and prove him wrong. And 31 is NOT old and if you figure out what works for you, losing the weight shouldn't be too hard. I also commend you for not arguing in front of your children (I hold the same policy). However, You and I need to learn how to respectfully disagree with someone in front of our children. It will teach them the proper way to stand up for themselves. Best wishes on your weight loss journey. You can do it!0
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Yeah, I'm with Sagetracey. You were the better person, and you can bet your kids took notice.0
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WELLLLLLLL.... you know what to do. LOSE the weight and blow him out of the water! Shove it in his face.0
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When ppl make such rude and inappropriate comments sometimes that's the best way to handle it---say nothing. Also it's great that you did not argue with him and say disrespectful things back, you set a great example for your children. You know the best way to shut him up is to live a healthy life and loose the weight you want to lose. That will show him!0
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People do suck at times but don't let it throw you off your game. It's all bout your own self determination.0
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You did the right thing, best to get out of there before the situation deteriorated further.
My best piece of advice from this though, take a mental note of how he made you feel, and next time you are struggling for motivation to get to the gym etc, use it! Prove the fat little *kitten* wrong, then go back and kick his *kitten*! :P0 -
You're better off taking the high road...some people are just clueless. Besides you can and will reach your goal, and your kids will see it and be proud.0
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Mean people suck!!! I feel your pain! I have completely hateful in-laws. I avoid conflict with them by avoiding them. I also get a little joy by knowing I'll be the one picking out their nursing home :blushing:0
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Family sucks.... that's why they're family. If they were people you chose, they'd be much better to deal with. Anyway, that sucks for you, he has no right telling you what you can or can't accomplish... especially in a humiliating way...0
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Walk away and don't discuss it when he is around. I would not have told him how much I weigh, that is noone else's business.
Remember that you can't control other people's behaviour but you can control how you deal with it. Well done for staying cool, especially in front of your kids.0 -
I'm 38 an have lost 35 lbs... One example of how he is wrong.... Stay motivated and prove him wrong!
Some people just suck and it sounds like he is one of them.
It is tough to have someone say mean things to you much less in front of your kids. Look at it this way, you just taught your kids a life lesson in the strength of just walking away?0 -
What a jerk-ish thing to do! I'd be pissed too! Don't listen to his nonsense! You can lose it and now you have the impending satisfaction of proving him wrong to motivate you even more!:)0
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I hope your mom sticks up for you and tells him he was acting totally inappropriately!!0
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He's obviously insecure and has to make everyone else look bad to make himself look good. But you walked away with your pride and showed your kids how to be "above" jerks like that.0
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I have learned long ago that my family is NOT a good network of support in my life for anything.
That ship sailed, and when I finally shrugged off the shackles of family once and for all, it was liberating.0 -
I was informed a few minutes ago by my mother's husband that I would never lose the weight I'm trying to lose because of my age (31). Then he proceeds to ask me how much I weigh and then laugh maniacally that I weigh five pounds more than he does.
There are several things about this that piss me off:
1. We aren't close so he has NO business talking to me about how much I weigh...or how much weight I should lose.
3. These rude comments were made loudly and repeated for emphasis IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN.
4. I don't argue in front of my kids and I was so angry I just took my kids and left.
5. I'm not THAT old and I'm not THAT overweight.
6. He's 3 inches shorter than I am and I can guarantee that my body fat is probably lower than HIS!
Sometimes people totally suck. Sometimes family dynamics suck. What just makes me irate is that I didn't say anything. I know nothing I say would matter to him I just wish I had put him in his place.
K
maybe he has some deep rooted sexual attraction to you and he is behaving like a school kid idiot, or he is simply just an idiot.
Most of the time, not saying anything at all is the best thing to say. I should listen to my advice. Eh...0 -
lol... I am in the Navy and i have seen people FAR older and WAAAAAY over weight, drop 30-40 lbs. Age does indeed slow your metabolism... BUT... I have lost a lot more weight now (mid 20's) than I did in highschool... and I don't feel like I am trying as hard now0
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i know exactly how u feel! my mother in law is the size of a mini and she is constantly on at me about my weight AND to top it all off when i tell her how much weight i've lost all she says is "oh right" as if i'm lying!! i have now learnt to not talk to her at all about my weight loss efforts as i come away from the conversation feeling deflated and angry! What matters is that u believe in yourself and what u can acheive! just think, he may b slightly smaller than u but he hasn't birthed children and gone through PMS!!! screw him!0
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Id have leaned over and whispered in his ear....
"You ever talk to me like that again, and I'm gonna knock your d*ck in the dirt"
Then smiled as i walked away enjoying the expression on his face0 -
Honey, ignore that idiot. Some people are just douches. I'm 41, BTW. Check out my ticker. You just gotta keep making small decisions over and over and over again. Persistence will get you there!0
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I have learned long ago that my family is NOT a good network of support in my life for anything.
That ship sailed, and when I finally shrugged off the shackles of family once and for all, it was liberating.
amen!! i just realized this a few months ago..im done with my family0 -
No worries.........the stage is set. You need to take your journey for you, and your kids. But when things get tough you have something to fuel from. The day when he sees that you have done it and he is still short and round you will get yours and still not have to say a word.
We take the journey to better health because we want to, but when people ask why thats easy.......becaues I can, even when people said I couldn't.0 -
I'm glad you didnt say any thing to him. You will do it and it will be no problem. Even if you were that old and that overweight you would still do it because you have already made up your mind. Don't look back dear you are already on your way!!
I am so proud of you.............You just go go go!~
And teach your children that this is a perfect example how NOT to be.
Blow it off.:flowerforyou:0 -
I would seriously bring that up with my mother and not want him around anymore. Because all I could think of is he'd say that to me, what about my children, especially when they got older?
What a *kitten*.0 -
You walked away with your dignity intact. Well done.
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Thanks guys! I appreciate the comments. I'll lose this weight and not allow myself to be blindsided by rudeness again.
K0
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