Boob Job and Tummy Tuck

I hear what you're saying but I wouldn't mind if my boobs were back on my chest where they belong - not bigger, NOT silicone, just up

surgery is an individual choice, and as long as it does not risk their health, I see nothing wrong with it. In a few years, I plan on having the twins lifted a bit and see nothing wrong with it. However, OP as you are only 18, I would say give your body a chance to mature just a little before you even consider it. I know that might sound condescending but truly your body is still changing and after having two kids, it needs some recovery time. Also, I assume hubby is young as well so try not to be too hard on him. Guys that age sometimes have a very skewed image of what the ideal body should be

Simple answer. It is a trend. Like cells and tablets. Sooner or later everybody that get it contacts with them gets "infected".It will pass.
In the other hand I can tell you how I see this like a man. He wants his piece to be the best of the best. Do you really blame him for that?

Ugh. This "piece" in question is 18 and just had a baby 4mo ago.

I liked this part. It is the completion to my post.

When we complain to men about things (including our body parts) they think it is their job to offer solutions. To them it isn't an insult but a suggestion.
If we tell them we are upset about a certain body part, it also gives then sort of a subconscious permission to think there is something wrong with us and that they too can talk about it.

That would hurt my feelings as well. I, like you, don't necessarily believe in surgically altering my body. I have three children and two are girls. To me, it seems almost hypocritical to preach to them to love themselves as God made them and then to turn around and have surgery. However, I can also see why people do these things and more power to them, if that's what makes them feel good. It's just not for me.
I would explain to your hubby how that has hurt your feelings. I'm sure he wasn't thinking straight when he made the comment. Guys can be dumb sometimes!

Everyone should do what makes them feel best about themselves, but I, like you, would have been very hurt and I, like you, don't plan on surgically altering my body... ever. I resonate with you 100%.

Just let him know that if you ever did go that route it would be because you wanted to and ask him not to mention it again because right now it offends you.

This was a great topic and really good responses, I'm not gonna lie a few made me giggle, some made me sad and others made perfect sense. With that being said I have had a tummy tuck in 98 after losing 100 lbs and I would do it all over again, there's nothing like busting your butt to create the body you want and never being able to achieve it because of extra skin that I was responsible for stretching out. Maybe we grow as people and turn our lives to a different path of health and fitness instead of junk food and couches, when that happens we are left with the aftermath of our sedentary lifestyles, but on our bodies : ( If you have the $ and want to fix a couple things, shoot go for it. You get one life and one body do what makes you happy!

Very wise answer. I bow before you.:flowerforyou:

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say something very different than previous posters. Maybe he thought you would be happy to hear he has money saved up for this surgery. I had a tummy tuck at age 25 after losing 90 lbs. Twelve years later I had my first child, but it was a nice 12 years! I am sure if I had been in a relationship at that time and my partner had offered to pay for the procedure, it would have felt like stinging criticism, but with time I'd probably have grabbed the money and felt good about it! (Maybe months or years later, though).

I agree it's too soon to contemplate surgery at all. I was impatient when I had my tummy tuck--I should have waited a year after losing my weight, and maybe it would have given the pooch time to tighten up. Also, the motivation, as well as the timing, should be yours, too.

I can well understand the hurt and shock you must feel. Obviously, your partner should have picked a better time to discuss it, perhaps when you were discussing fitness goals with him. But, people (even your partner) can misspeak. He may just be happy that you are losing weight and getting fit, and wanted to lend support, albeit in a clumsy way. He's showing you he wants to spend money on you, not go out and buy a luxury car for himself. I would nurse my wounds and forgive his awkward way of bringing this up.

If you want to do it for YOU, and only for YOU, to be more comfortable in your own skin, and you can afford it, more power to you. I don't think there's anything wrong with it but personally, I also think it depends on the situation.

If you went in for surgery just to please him, well of course I'd discourage you. If you went in and got huge foam bags to seek attention, again, I'd discourage it. If your boobs sagged in such a way that you were uncomfortable in a tshirt and your bras pinched you, and they were incredibly disproportionate, well that's an entirely different story. But you know, sometimes the greatest gift you can give to your children is to take care of yourself and to have pride in yourself. You're not teaching them to change their body, but that they need to do whatever way feels right for them, because their body is their temple. If this feels right for you, that's perfectly fine!

But! I could also never advocate dating or marrying someone who didn't love you just the way you are. I mean, I don't know you, and maybe this was just a spastic verbal moment for him. Only you would know that.

You'll have your body forever—the husband? I'm thinking not so much. To be supportive of someone's choice for surgery is kind and loving, to encourage it is selfish... just my 2 cents. He seems like an incredibly insensitive person, but if he is in your age bracket, trust me, he's got MUCH growing up to do.

And P.S. if he's walking around with a tic-tac in his jean pocket, if you know what I mean, and isn't the male equivalent of what he expects you to be after surgery... Well my gosh. Someone who expects something of their partner they themselves can't deliver on? Red flag to me.

*small boobies and proud of it!*

P.S. If there's any chance of your having MORE children in the future (since you're still very young), I'd wait until you're all done before making surgical changes.