I wanna go from cute to HOT asap!

Jb8885
Jb8885 Posts: 126
edited November 8 in Chit-Chat
SO, I'm 26 and single and meet a lot of guys and I've been told I'd be a perfect catch if I lost weight...I'm sure many people feel the same way...and this probably jacked up thinking, but sometimes I want to find a guy NOW while I'm a little overweight because I have this huge fear I'll lose all this weight..find the perfect guy...and gain weight back and hell dump my *kitten*. Crazy right? I want that genuine heartfelt guy who would like me no matter what....Do i sound nuts? Does anyone else agree?
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  • cgrout78
    cgrout78 Posts: 1,628 Member
    you don't want a guy that only loves you if you're a certain body type. I totally agree with that.
  • KeegansMomma
    KeegansMomma Posts: 156
    Not crazy to want that at all! I'm blessed to have my husband helping me with my journey...and he's said to me so many times he doesn't care what size I am...he loves me for who I am on the inside...not for what I look like on the outside. :)
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    when i meet my boyfriend i was 130 lbs- almost to tinnnny. i am now 180 something (and was when we decided to become more then friends.) he loved me when i was tinny, and he loves me now. im done with the shallow bs from other guys, this just shows me my boyfriend will love me for who i really am. now if i could just be more determined, cuz i would really love to be 130 again haha.
  • runbyme
    runbyme Posts: 522 Member
    I've come across that too. It's usually the guy that needs to get off the couch and lose about 40# that wants the super model girlfriend! Screw 'em! Not literally! You're beautiful! Just stay true to yourself!
  • Jenner22
    Jenner22 Posts: 94 Member
    I get what you mean. My husband has seen me at my worst and he's afraid that once I lose the weight he'll lose me because I won't want him anymore. It's always best to find a guy who love you for who you really are.. best, worst, and in between!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Any guy that would tell you that is an *kitten* and not worth an ounce of your time. :flowerforyou:
  • SimplyShanRunning
    SimplyShanRunning Posts: 885 Member
    Any guy that would tell you that is an *kitten* and not worth an ounce of your time. :flowerforyou:

    Darling your gawgous!!! Just believe in yourself!! dont settle for a douchepickle
  • chelleymarie88
    chelleymarie88 Posts: 775
    Any guy that would tell you that is an *kitten* and not worth an ounce of your time. :flowerforyou:

    Darling your gawgous!!! Just believe in yourself!! dont settle for a douchepickle

    (Not commenting on anything in particular cause I don't have advice) Lmao@douchepickle
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    The right guy is gonna love you for you- whatever your weight when you meet him- and will always see the you he loves whether you lose or gain-my wife and I have had our weight fluctuate significantly during our 16 year marriage- it really goes largely unnoticed by the other. You see the person you love- not pounds.

    ^^^This. Well said.
  • djuniteus
    djuniteus Posts: 149
    Damn girl your hot now!! :) I know a bunch a guys that love your body type, Me included. If any guy Would dump you because you gained some weight, he's a piece of sh** and doesn't deserve you!!!! Don't stress things like that. :)
  • Jb8885
    Jb8885 Posts: 126
    Bahahha douchepickle.......thats a new one for me too....thanks guys! I'm glad I dont feel like a whacko anymore! lol
  • Jb8885
    Jb8885 Posts: 126
    The right guy is gonna love you for you- whatever your weight when you meet him- and will always see the you he loves whether you lose or gain-my wife and I have had our weight fluctuate significantly during our 16 year marriage- it really goes largely unnoticed by the other. You see the person you love- not pounds.

    Very true :) AS much as you want your sig other to be healthy...theres a fine line between loving and supportive and then superficial and judgemental..know what i mean?
  • KittyMul
    KittyMul Posts: 74 Member
    I met my last BF at 260+ lb and he always told me my weight didn't matter - I lost 90lb and *then* he cheated on me. A douche will always be douche, no matter what size you are when you meet them! Likewise, a good guy will be good to you no matter your size :)
  • Ireshgurl
    Ireshgurl Posts: 559
    I was 120 when I met my hubby. Boy was I sexy (sigh). I am now almost 150 (:sad: ) and not so sexy but I'm still with the hubby. He loves me for me, not what I look like. And I'm sure you'll find the same. You're totally in the right to feel the way you do because I totally question how my hubby can still find me attractive when even I don't, but he does :smile: and I love him all the more for it.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    agreed :flowerforyou:
  • muwchck
    muwchck Posts: 261 Member
    Not crazy to want that at all! I'm blessed to have my husband helping me with my journey...and he's said to me so many times he doesn't care what size I am...he loves me for who I am on the inside...not for what I look like on the outside. :)

    I feel the same way. Hubby thinks I'm crazy to want to lose all the weight I do, but I want to be healthy and able to keep up with my kids. Hubby's never seen me thin and tells me he loves me the way I am every single day.
  • fishbaitkait
    fishbaitkait Posts: 45 Member
    I met the perfect guy. I gained 50 lbs. He didn't break up with me or put me down. He loves me no matter what. He has a great heart. It's possible. :)
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    If a guy can't fall in love with you for more then what's on the outside, he sure as hell don't deserve you when you are where you want to be. And I just looked at your photo's you are beautiful!
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
    Why don't you just lose weight and keep it off permanently? I plan to work this hard on my diet for the rest of my life. :)
  • curvy_ca_mama
    curvy_ca_mama Posts: 110 Member
    The right guy is gonna love you for you- whatever your weight when you meet him- and will always see the you he loves whether you lose or gain-my wife and I have had our weight fluctuate significantly during our 16 year marriage- it really goes largely unnoticed by the other. You see the person you love- not pounds.

    Very well written!! I totally agree. :smile:
  • toabetterlifestyle
    toabetterlifestyle Posts: 230
    i completely agree! you want someone that loves you for who you are! not what youlook like! and if they love you while your bigger, then they'll sure as hell love you when youre hot as hell with a great body! it would be like hey, you stuck by my side through the fat days, and now here is your reward. my new sexy body. hahah!
  • IrishHarpy1
    IrishHarpy1 Posts: 399 Member
    Love -- *real* love -- doesn't give a damn what you look like. It cares about how you are as a person on the inside.

    Anyone who thinks that a relationship is based solely on looks is in for a really rude awakening when age and/or disability sets in. I've seen people on here talk about "my wife/husband/SO would leave me eventually unless I did something about my weight", and it truly saddens me. Makes me wonder if perhaps they're not as "in love" with each other as they would like to think. Superficial and narcissistic people are NOT the type to have a loving relationship with anyone except themselves, IMHO.

    The right one is out there... they will support you in your efforts to get healthier, but will love you no matter what. THAT is what's important. Remember, there's a reason why traditional wedding vows include all those things about "sickness and in health." :smile:
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    You're pretty. Just be confident and you have the formula for success. Best of luck in finding that special someone :)
  • Mad_Dog_Muscle
    Mad_Dog_Muscle Posts: 1,251 Member
    :noway: Wow, I always hate reading stories like this! :noway: I didn't read all the responses, but I am sure mine will be very similar to the rest.

    First of all, stop lowering your standards by even remotely thinking of dating some D*ckhead that would date you and then dump you for gaining some weight! He isn't worth your time, he damn sure wouldn't be what you described as the perfect guy. If you want to lose weight for yourself, then do that. Feel good in your own skin first! You look great now and there are a lot of guys out there who would love to date you NOW.... so let them find YOU!

    You know what makes a woman sexy is one who is comfortable with who she is right now... NOT who she thinks others want her to be. So, look in the mirror, see what all these other posters see...... and go take on the world! :drinker: That's your fastest route to being HOT ASAP!!!

    Good luck sweetie!!
  • Jb8885
    Jb8885 Posts: 126
    :noway: Wow, I always hate reading stories like this! :noway: I didn't read all the responses, but I am sure mine will be very similar to the rest.

    First of all, stop lowering your standards by even remotely thinking of dating some D*ckhead that would date you and then dump you for gaining some weight! He isn't worth your time, he damn sure wouldn't be what you described as the perfect guy. If you want to lose weight for yourself, then do that. Feel good in your own skin first! You look great now and there are a lot of guys out there who would love to date you NOW.... so let them find YOU!

    You know what makes a woman sexy is one who is comfortable with who she is right now... NOT who she thinks others want her to be. So, look in the mirror, see what all these other posters see...... and go take on the world! :drinker: That's your fastest route to being HOT ASAP!!!

    Good luck sweetie!!

    aww thank you :) You are absolutely right! I have just had a lot of bad experiences with superficial guys. I definetly am enjoying being single and focusing on myself and my health. When the time is right, it will happen :)
  • bahacca
    bahacca Posts: 878 Member
    douchepickle has now been added to my vocabulary.
    I was 135 when my husband and I met. I've been through 2 pregnancies(hit 184 with both of them) and have been between 150 and 165 steadily since they were born. My hubby still thinks I'm sexy and loves me because I am ME. You will know the douchepickles when you meet em and hopefully you'll find a MAN sooner rather than later. Good luck in your quest.
  • KimbersNewLife
    KimbersNewLife Posts: 646 Member
    I don't think it's crazy. When I look at how huge I was in my wedding picture I think WOW he really loved me for me. Let's face it we can freak out and get all offended if we want but we all know that guys look at a woman's body and they want to see a hot body. I feel lucky that I met him then he feel in love with me then I lost weight. Because it happened in that order I never have to think did he just want a trophy wife or what. I hope this makes sense I am tired! Ha!
  • KimbersNewLife
    KimbersNewLife Posts: 646 Member
    :sad: :laugh: :laugh: :happy: :happy: LOL I think I will be ROFL until tomorrow night at this time!!!! HA HA HA HA Douchepickles????? HA HA HA LOLOLOLOLOLO!! :sad: :laugh: :happy: :laugh:
    Well said my dear well said!
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    Crazy? No not at all, because the world is full of people who will do just this. It's happened to me and many people I know. My marriage ended because I gained a lot of weight.

    Rushing to get hot ASAP so you can land guys is, however, very unhealthy. Your ability to find real love is not affected by your weight. Your ability to get laid is. There is a distinct difference in the two. (and to be honest, if you're a woman you just have to have a pulse to get laid, so I don't think you have any problems in that department)

    Finding love does require a clean emotional health often. That comes from real self acceptance. Guys can sense a girl who is desperate for love and manipulate her to get what they want and then dump her (making her bitter). You don't want to end up in that place.

    Take the time to develop YOU. At 26 you still have a very long road ahead of you; don't rush it.

    Best of luck.
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    Well... considering you look hot NOW... I'd say THEY are the ones who are jacked up! They're missing out on awesome! :)
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